What is the cause of attachment. Why do we get attached somewhere?

Everybody has got different attachments somebody is so attached to the carrier

he doesn't care for the family, somebody is so attached to the wife he doesn't

care for the carrier, somebody is so attached to money they have bride

burning in India, so much of attachment to money, somebody says "sab bhad mai jaey botal lao"

he is attached to his alcohol. So what is causing attachment?

What is the cause of desire?

Everybody has got different desires sitting listening to the lecture

somebody's mind goes to jalebi somebody's mind goes to chai somebody's

mind goes to the child or the parents in India

everybody's desires are different. What is creating desires within us. Somebody's

desiring money money money somebody's desiring prestige prestige

prestige. What is happening in this inner world that is leading to the creation of

different kinds of desires? again the Geeta, "quoting from Bhagwad Gita"

2.64 Cause of desire is attachment. When the mind is attached to

some object or to some person the attachment of the mind causes desire not

the intrinsic object as such. You see like you may say that you know something

has got a wonderful taste hence it creates desire of course not

Tell me does alcohol have a good taste chi chi Swamiji it causes vomiting to me

but you ask the same question to an alcoholic, who says bad taste

when I go by the pub and I get the whiff of it I start swaying from side to

side. So you say I'll give you a better tasting thing

forget about alcohol I'll give you milk with kesar pista and badam and saffron on

it. I don't want that I want alcohol see he doesn't want just taste he wants that

to which his mind has got attached. Now your mind is attached to your child you

place your child in the lap, you smell the child the child's nose may be flowing

may have done excreta it doesn't matter to you

supposing I say place your nose on your neighbors body for 20 minutes. Swamiji in

the summers he's sweating how can I do that he's foul-smelling. Really your

neighbor is smelling and your child is not smelling? Yea the child should be

smelling I don't know why he's not smelling. Your mind is attached the

attachment has created the desire to hold the child to hear the child to see

the child it is not the intrinsic qualities your child may be beautiful or

ugly that doesn't matter. One mother her child got lost in the

fair, she had gone to you know Anand Bazar Mela and the child got lost. So she

went to the policeman my child has got lost the policeman said mother five

lost-and-found children have been brought see which of them is yours. My

child is not here. Mother how does your child look like? my

child he walks with a limp and his hand is contorted and because of a paralytic

attack his face is twisted and he doesn't have one eye there a pock marks

on his face. CheeChee mother what kind of child are you

desiring? You have seen such beautiful children just pick anyone and feel your

maternal affection. The mother says Mr. policeman are you crazy, I don't want any

of them, I don't want any beautiful child I want my child to whom I am attached

you will never understand a mother's heart. See the mother wants her child to

whom she has got attached so what is creating the desires it's not the

intrinsic qualities of some object it is the attachment of our mind that is what

Lord Krishna stated "quoting from Bhagawd Gita" number one comes attachment , your

mind is attached number two comes desire

number three the fulfillment of desire leads to greed and number four it's

obstruction leads to anger straightforward logic. Now if we are

attached we cannot avoid desire, impossible and if we are not attached

we will not experience desire and everything else will get dismantled

So then desires seems to be caused by attachment. Attachment is the cause of it

all

but what is the cause of attachment? Why do we get attached somewhere? everybody

has got different attachments. Somebody is so attached to the carrier he doesn't

care for the family somebody is so attached to the wife he doesn't care for

the carrier, somebody is so attached to money they have bride burning in India

so much of attachment to money somebody says "sab bhad mai jai botal lap"

he's attached to his alcohol, so what is causing attachment? Okay this is the

important one, it is our own contemplation that causes attachment! See

here is how Shri Krishna begins the link "quoting Bhagawad Gita"

Arjun when you repeatedly contemplate happiness somewhere when you

repeatedly think this will give me happiness

this has got pleasure this will satisfy me, your own repetition of thought

creates the attachment. It doesn't come from the outside

somebody repeatedly contemplated happiness in cigarettes

How did one get attached to cigarettes where you born a cigarette smoker from

the mother's stomach get me the Marlboros otherwise I will

not be happy No then when that boy or girl went to

college and she got some newfound freedom then he saw his friends dangling

cigarettes between the two fingers he said their personality looks very

impressive. His intellect said you know there is happiness in cigarettes so he

tried one and it was a foul experience, he started coughing his eyes became red

his friends instigated no no it'll give you happiness it is giving us happiness

so he kept on contemplating yes there is happiness there is happiness so he

started taking one hiding from the parents sitting in the restroom, under

the staircase and then it increased to two everyday then thr ee everyday and ten

everyday and then it became a link one has got extinguished the second one is

required that has got extinguished the third one is required now a link has got

created. The same cigarette that he first tried out let us see what is there in

this now the cigarette comes into his mind and pinches him, smoke me I will not

let you live in peace. How did this attachment come about by repeatedly

thinking there is happiness there!