in this video i am talking about how to upgrade  your life for mid-year this year we are treating  

media like a second new year this is a time  to start new things make changes in your life  

become the person that you've always wanted to  become or at least take steps towards that person  

and in this video i want to talk about how to  do all of that in the form of mindset shifts to  

make rituals to embrace changes to make in your  life the first way to upgrade your life mid-year  

is through a mindset shift a mindset shift that  is become the person that you want to be friends  

with for example the kind of person that i would  want to be friends with she takes herself to the  

beach she goes on cue coffee dates she is reading  she is meditating she is journaling and so that is  

who i try to be and you can also use the mindset  become the person that you would want to date  

because how can you attract those kind of people  in your life if you're not embracing the qualities  

that you want to see in other people embracing  this mindset does two things for you firstly  

your life is going to be more enjoyable because  you'll approach your weekend and you'll be like  

what would the person that i'd want to be friends  with do with their weekend etc etc and also you'll  

find that you'll attract those people which i  would argue is one of the biggest upgrades in  

life that you can make just one new friend huge  life upgrade to do this decide what the kind of  

person that you would want to be friends with does  with their days how do they spend their free time  

what are the kind of places that they are going  to in your local area what mindsets are they  

embracing what kind of things are they watching  then start putting yourself in environments where  

those people would be so take yourself to the  local coffee shop that you think that that girl  

would hang out at escort yourself to the park  read a book under the shady tree you don't need  

to go to these places with other people if other  people in your life don't want to attend your cute  

coffee shop go on your own drop the attitude of  if i have plans they have to be with someone else  

if your small circle of friends cannot make it to  thrifting on saturday you go thrifting anyways you  

get a hot chocolate mid-thrift trip you bring a  book so that you can sit drink your hot chocolate  

we are getting comfortable with being on our own  in this mindset shift then start planning your  

weeks in alignment with this person start with  small changes one little trip to that coffee shop  

chuck in a workout session here and there and  slowly up the entity over time going back to  

that question what would a person that i would  actually enjoy being around be doing with their  

time the next way to upgrade your life for media  is to decide to make the unenjoyable enjoyable  

for the next six months think through the most  mundane parts of your life so your commute your  

cleaning routine waiting in line for lunch write  a list of all of those mundane things that you do  

that you don't particularly enjoy then ask how  can i make these mundane moments more magical  

if you mix doing laundry with playing all of  the new episodes from your favorite podcast  

laundry suddenly becomes an enjoyable task if  when you wait in line for lunch you choose to  

intentionally message appreciation messages to all  the people that you love it becomes something that  

you'll look forward to another way to make mundane  tasks more interesting is to simply decide to give  

them your all instead of just tidying the house  decide to make it a project what is the best route  

to tidy your house what can you do to make your  tidying routine 10 minutes instead of 15 minutes  

become kind of fascinated by these tasks that you  consider mundane to make them more interesting  

tasks iambogost is a game designer who talks a lot  about making mundane things fun he talks about how  

he really didn't enjoy mowing the lawn until he  started asking himself what is the best time of  

day to mow a lawn how can i make my grass grow  incredibly well and then he just got really into  

the mundane task of mowing his lawn being ultra  curious made for a far more interesting task near  

the author of indistractable goes back to the  quote the cure for boredom is curiosity there is  

no cure for curiosity the next way to upgrade your  life is to create a weekly planning ritual that  

supports you becoming the person that you want to  be weekly planning is not just for productivity  

i see it as a time to also plan in the enjoyable  things in your week plan when you're gonna get  

in nature when you're going to be in the sunshine  plan in dates with yourself moments of discomfort  

alongside planning in the to do's planning in  the task planning in the things that move you  

forward on your goals the most magical of times  often come from just a little bit of pre-planning  

you've rarely gone to a magical party that hasn't  involved a bunch of pre-planning you probably  

haven't been to a good presentation that hasn't  involved a good amount of pre-planning it's very  

unlikely that you have done a really good job at  an interview without some pre-planning i recently  

made a whole video about how to organize your  week and get things done that talks all about  

creating an intentional weekly planning ritual  that is very much custom to yourself i'm going  

to have that linked up here as well as down below  if you want to dive deeper on a weekly planning  

routine the next way to upgrade your life for  the next six months is to start actively working  

on your negative beliefs so beliefs like i'm  a procrastinator i am not competent i'm not  

interesting to uncover your negative beliefs that  you really need to start working on ask yourself  

the question what am i struggling with right now  and what beliefs are supporting that struggle for  

example if you're struggling with finding a good  relationship do you hold the belief that you're  

not worthy of someone amazing that you're not  worthy of a ton of love if you are struggling  

with money do you hold the belief that money is  a really limited resource and it's really hard  

to make negative beliefs usually start with i am i  can't world is people are and those beliefs drive  

your life whether you think you can or you  think you can't you are right applies always  

get intentional about firstly uncovering your  negative beliefs you need to be aware of your  

negative beliefs before you can start working on  them secondly decide which ones that you want to  

work on first pick the ones that are having the  biggest impact on your day-to-day life thirdly  

do the work around those beliefs there are a ton  of resources online to help you with this if you  

truly make it a priority to start working on your  negative beliefs in the next six months your life  

will look very different by the end of the year  the next way to level up your life for media is  

to decide exactly how you are going to manage your  mind when negative feelings or thoughts arise our  

society tells us that negative feelings are really  bad to have and our friends and our family as much  

as they adore us when we get negative feelings  they just try to squash them they don't want to  

see them and most of us are never really taught  how to handle our negative emotions at least  

in a healthy way something that can be really  helpful for this is creating almost a manual for  

your feelings so amber rae released a product it's  called the wonder journal and it is essentially a  

guide to managing your emotions if you're feeling  angry you flip to that page you follow the prompts  

this is not me telling you that you absolutely  need to buy that journal i am saying that you can  

create something of a similar nature for yourself  that helps you to handle those emotions when they  

arise it can be a quick list that says when i am  mad i label five things in my environment i do a  

breath exercise etc doing this is just like having  a guide for your car there is not a chance that  

you would let a learner out on the road without at  the very least a teacher with them someone that at  

least initially guides them on how to merge onto  the highway without dying but once they've been  

guided for a certain amount of time in australia  it's about 100 hours that's when muscle memory  

has started to develop reactions have become  automated they have a reflex built in when  

things happen on the road and wanting to manage  your mind is very much the same if for the next  

six months every time a negative feeling arises  you react to it by taking five deep breaths really  

sitting back and feeling your feelings feeling  those physical triggers that come up behavioral  

warnings that come up emotional warnings that  come up and then doing a bit of journaling  

you are going to develop a really healthy reflex  when you feel those negative emotions in future i  

have had a bounce back checklist for years that  i've talked about in videos before essentially  

it's this list of self-care activities that i know  i need to visit whenever i'm feeling down i even  

turn this into an interactive bounce-back guide on  my app intention which i'll have linked down below  

i have used that bounce back guide so much that  whenever i feel off mentally i go through all of  

those self-care essentials have i had enough water  have i had a good nutritious meal did i get enough  

sleep last night have i connected recently it's  very automatic now because i've revisited that  

checklist that many times and that's what happens  my brain is now wired to revisit those things when  

i'm feeling down i don't even necessarily need  to go to the bounce back guide although i like to  

because i've hardwired it in if you liked this  video you might like my playlist that focuses  

very much on resetting your life and this is a  great time of year to visit those kind of videos  

in it you'll have videos on how to reset for  mid-year how to reset for a new month which  

absolutely you can apply to mid-year how to  plan and organize your week if you do want  

to create a weekly planning routine and five  thinking habits to start for 2021 that you can  

definitely embrace in the next six months  i'm gonna have that playlist listed on the  

screen as well as down below i appreciate  you so very much and i will see you soon