how to cure porn addiction i'm dr  trish leigh let me tell you how  

in this video i'm going to briefly  describe the three primary stages of  

healing your brain and curing a porn  addiction and what is involved in each stage  

stage number one is commitment and i know that  seems easy and a no-brainer pun intended but  

in fact this is the most difficult stage going  from zero percent to 100 percent commitment is  

absolutely necessary 99.9 commitment isn't going  to cut the mustard unfortunately the reason being  

is if there is that sliver of doubt in  your mind that it's worth it that you can  

do it that it's going to be possible and that  it's going to work out for you if you have that  

one percent in your mind that thinks that  it can't be done or you don't want to do it  

that's where the hijacker enters back in to your  mindset and when you leave the door cracked open  

it is pushed open by the hijacker of addiction  in other videos i've made detailed explanations  

of how porn hijacks your brain but it is addictive  and addiction isn't something to be messed with  

with low levels of commitment and the reality  is when you are fully committed for yourself  

you're unstoppable and this can take anywhere  from one second to literally a lifetime  

going from zero to one hundred percent  but once you get one hundred percent  

you're good to go moving towards stage two stage  two is generally a 90-day process of unwiring  

the brain pattern that is pushing you back  towards the screen now unfortunately pornography  

pulls you back into it is a super normal stimulus  that can't be found anywhere in the real world  

it gives your brain so much dopamine that it  feels so good so numbed out so extraordinary  

taking the edge off of all the chaos and stress  from life that it feels worth it hence stage one  

going from zero to 100 percent committed because  of this super normal stimulus that pulls you back  

in so it takes time for the push and  the pull to go away and what happens  

when you consume pornography with any level of  frequency consistency and especially intensity  

your brain needs the dopamine it needs the rush  from porn to just get by in your life and it's  

very complex mechanisms but they're real so  you need time to unwire your brain from the  

need the need to go back and that can be tricky  so in this second stage you need a plan my friend  

you need a plan that involves two things one new  knowledge you need information you need knowledge  

you need to learn the skills you need to learn  the concepts and the reasons behind them i use  

a system called integration theory integration  theory is proven to work it teaches you the why  

behind the how which is the second part of  what you need in your plan you need to know why  

you're doing it and you need to know how to do it  knowledge and self-awareness is one thing action  

steps are another you can't stay in that learning  part of stage two forever you have to learn and  

implement learn something else implement it learn  something else implement it that's why i've made  

hundreds of videos on this channel so that you  can learn something you don't know and then learn  

how to implement it to help your own cause but  i've got to be honest with you having a program  

that is comprehensive that walks you through from  beginning to end is more powerful than having  

videos that are in a random order any solid 90-day  program is filled with all the tools and skills  

knowledge and action steps that you need and it  goes from beginning to end the 90-day program that  

i offer helps you to unwire your brain by looking  at trauma and family dysfunction in the past we  

know that most people are pushed into the screen  by dysfunctional family or relational patterns  

that make life feel chaotic and challenging  so that dopamine hit is extra powerful  

it must be unwired secondly your brain  has to rewire itself towards the optimal  

healthy brain pattern what i use is called  brain training neurofeedback brain training  

very powerful tool to help you rewire your  brain and then of course you have to learn  

new strategies and routines new habits new  thought processes investigate your identity and  

your personality they are just constructs come up  with new versions of that so that you can thrive  

then when you've done that you move forward  to hardwire in that new better brain pattern  

using a flexibly scheduled life that serves you  that there's no reason to escape into the screen  

anymore that way you break the push in the pull  so then what happens is that moves you towards  

stage three so in stage three that's where all  the healing in the end happens so stage one  

you're getting committed you're moving towards  healing stage two you are unwiring primarily  

and beginning to rewire in stage three which  can take anywhere from one year to three years  

depending upon how many tools and strategies you  implement in this last stage your brain can heal  

itself it creates new neural pathways it it fires  up new neurons that can help you to feel better  

it activates your frontal lobe so you can think  better you have decreased anxiety you don't feel  

depressed you feel motivated it also re-sensitizes  the reward center in your brain through this  

hard wiring when you re-sensitize the reward  center what happens is you can feel pleasure  

again in the real world sex with a partner is  amazing there's no more delayed ejaculation  

there's no more erectile dysfunction when you're  trying to be with a partner we know from the  

science erectile dysfunctions through the roof for  young men this is a direct side effect of porn use  

so all of that can heal your thinking your mental  health and your physical body the more strategies  

that you use the better in these three stages so  this is how you cure a porn addiction number one  

find a way to inspire yourself and motivate  yourself to get committed beyond a shadow of  

a doubt number two get a plan from somebody who  knows what they're doing you need new knowledge  

new skills and new action steps find a program  that fits your needs with someone you can trust  

and feels good to you you also need support so  your program should have group coaching or the  

ability to get a coach to work with because  this journey can be a challenging one having  

someone to answer your questions and to say  you got this keep moving forward i know you're  

struggling but i know you're stronger than you  think you are can be really really important so  

find a program you don't know how to get yourself  out of this in most cases you need someone to help  

you but with the right help you definitely can  do it and then number three once you've been  

in that program for 90 days you will have the  structure that you need to build a life that  

you love so do it you deserve it get on purpose  in your work your relationships and your hobbies  

it will serve you over time and through your  program you will have developed the ability to  

always re-evaluate your life in course correct so  that you're not triggered to use porn again that's  

the deal okay if you are looking for help on that  journey i'd love to help you out if it feels good  

go on over to my website at drtrishleigh.com  there's lots of programs there in different shapes  

and sizes that could possibly serve your needs and  as always control your brain or it'll control you