Recently, on a Facebook Live, I asked parents and professionals if they could wave a magic

wand, what autism struggle would they want to go away?

A handful of people said they wanted to make meltdowns go away, so today, I'm going to

talk about three strategies to help both parents and professionals get rid of meltdowns.

Hi.

I'm Dr. Mary Barbera, autism mom, board-certified behavior analyst, and bestselling author.

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A little disclaimer here.

Behavior analysts, including myself, don't really use the word meltdown very much.

The reason for this is that it's not an objective and measurable term.

In other words, I don't know exactly what the word meltdown means.

If you tell me that your child is having a meltdown, I can't visualize exactly what is

happening.

I also can't visualize other words that parents and some professionals use to describe behavior

problems in kids with autism.

People say, "The child was really frustrated, he was out of control, he was anxious."

Reporting that your child is having a meltdown is kind of like that.

But instead of being all snotty and saying, "You need to talk more behaviorally," the

best way to get people talking more behaviorally, so that we can help them, is to ask what the

child's meltdown looks like.

Does the child fall to the floor?

Does he hit others during a meltdown?

Does he scream during a meltdown, throw objects?

Basically, this helps us to define the meltdown.

Also, if you and I are trying to count whether the child is having a meltdown or not, or

is having 10 meltdowns a day, or a week, our counts would not be the same if the behavior

is not better defined.

It's important to define a behavior well enough so that our counting of the meltdowns, or

behavior, is the same, because when we put procedures in place to help decrease meltdowns,

we need to be comparing apples to apples.

So, we'll define the meltdown as our first step.

This is defining what it actually looks like.

Same thing holds true for other words that are not very behavioral, like, "My child was

frustrated."

Okay, what does frustrated look like?

Does he slam his fists on the desk?

Does he yell?

Does he argue?

All these things, I can count.

I can't really look at someone and tell if they're frustrated or not.

Same thing for anxious.

What does it look like when your child is anxious?

Is he pacing?

Is he sighing?

Those things, I can count.

Anxiety and frustration, I can't.

So once we define the behavior, in this case the meltdown, the second step is to do an

assessment, to figure out how big of a problem these meltdowns actually are.

So part of the assessment is to determine how old the child is, how large they are,

how strong they are, how long the meltdowns last, and how often do these meltdowns occur,

per day, per week, per month.

If it's a large child and/or severe meltdowns on a regular basis, even if it's a small child,

you'll absolutely need an on-site, individualized behavior analyst to help you.

Preferably, it's a behavior analyst, but someone very skilled at reducing problem behavior.

If it's a smaller child, or even a larger child having less severe meltdowns a few times

per week or month, you might be able to put procedures in place and see progress just

using the child's current team.

So step one is to define the meltdown.

Tell me what it looks like, or what it usually looks like.

And the meltdown can be a compilation of all of these things put together.

Step two is to assess how frequently the meltdowns are happening and also how severe those meltdowns

are, based on your child's age, size, and strength.

Now we'll move on to step three, which is extremely complex, and that is the treatment

of meltdowns, or any other problem behaviors, that can lead to reduction.

But, I'll give you one piece of advice here, because obviously in this short video blog,

I'm not going to be able to tell you how to reduce or get rid of all meltdowns entirely,

but I will say this.

We need to be spending 95% of our time preventing meltdowns, not reacting to them.

Everywhere I go, I see people being way too reactive to problem behavior, and I know prevention

is the key.

So in summary, to get rid of meltdowns, we want to define and describe what meltdowns

look like, assess the frequency and seriousness of the meltdowns in step two, and step three

is to intervene, mostly with preventative strategies.

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