With a unique depth and understanding of the world  around them, INFJs come with a sense of humor  

that has the power to make a fully-crowded room go  silent. A combination of light self-deprecation,  

and seemingly morbid bluntness, not everyone  quite understands or appreciates the INFJ’s  

unexpected sense of humor.. So, in today’s  video, we’re going to unravel the 9 reasons  

behind INFJ’s absurdly dark sense of  humor, and why it’s mostly harmless. 

Welcome or welcome back psychos! Before we get  into today’s video, we’d love it if you liked and  

subscribe to our channel, as well as to click the  notification bell so that you never miss a video!

Alright, jumping right into it starting with.. Number one – Introverted Thinking function 

One of the main contributing factors to the INFJs’  self-deprecating humor comes from their tertiary  

function, introverted thinking. While this  function’s main job is to actually allow the  

INFJ to connect the dots of information they  collect through their extraverted feeling,  

it can also push the INFJ to get wrapped up  in their own heads. Constantly recalling past  

unfortunate experiences is more likely to be a  trait of a less mature INFJ, but nevertheless,  

they end up turning those unfavorable feelings  into comedic material. So, they create  

self-deprecating jokes that poke fun at and take  the strength away from those negative feelings. 

It might seem morbid and unsettling to some  people, but to some personality types it  

makes perfect sense and it doesn’t feel weird  at all. INFPs, for example, handle dark humor  

pretty well and usually would understand where  INFJs come from when making said jokes. So,  

if you ever see someone making a self-deprecating  joke and laughing at it, chances are they’re just  

an INFJ having some harmless fun.. meaning  it’s not necessarily a secret cry for help. 

Number two – Extraverted Feeling function With extraverted feeling as the INFJs secondary  

function, it’s understandable that they’re  naturally attuned with the people around them.  

They have a deep sense of the energies, moods  and feelings of those around them - naturally  

absorbing them and even feeling them more  than they do their own feelings and emotions.  

And so, because they’re so wrapped up in the  feelings of others, they need to have a way to  

indirectly call people out on their negative  emotions when the time comes. For example,  

if their partner is being rather snarky  and moody, rather than lovingly asking them  

what they can do to make them feel better,  INFJs may jokingly ask them something like  

“who pooped in your cheerios this morning?” Or  they may ask their male partner something like  

“is it your time of the month?”.. INFJs  don’t like to stir the pot by any means,  

so by adding a little humour to the moodiness of  a situation, they can usually work their way to  

getting people to crack a smile, breaking  the tension and easing the conversation. 

Number three – INFJs are unique  and can be hard to understand 

INFJs have a very interesting nature, even  contradictory at times. That’s what makes them  

so intriguing and different from so many of the  other personality types. And more often than not,  

they have a hard time finding people who can  truly understand them and their intricate way  

of thinking.. Including their at times  difficult to understand humour. In fact,  

it’s mostly difficult for people to accept that  INFJs just don’t take themselves, or the world,  

too seriously. They have an ability to find  a lot of sensitive subjects that others might  

feel heavy personal attachments to, very casual  and not a big deal. That’s why in most cases,  

their preferred kind of humor is considered  unfiltered and too dark to some other personality  

types. This is also why they are very picky about  whom they share their sensitive side and can joke  

around freely with.. Usually testing the waters  before exposing their shocking playful side. 

Number four – INFJs are big intuitive thinkers 

It’s no surprise that INFJs are one of  the most intuitive of the MBTI types,  

with introverted intuition as their main driving  force. So, it’s fair to say there’s a lot going  

on inside the minds of the INFJ type at all times.  From intuitive, subconscious thinking around the  

clock - to selfless, thoughtful compassion  for others. It never really stops for INFJs,  

and the more stimulated their environment  is, the more information processing they do. 

As a result, INFJs are always thinking in layers  and digging deep and far into things. They  

see what a lot of people miss, and they find  pleasure in that. So when it comes to humor,  

they manage to see past the initial disturbing  structure and wording of their jokes and find them  

humorous and harmless. This isn’t perceived by  everyone around them, so it’s not rare to witness  

hesitant laughter or even defensiveness  after an INFJ cracks a joke. However,  

to save themselves the pain, if they don’t  sense a decent level of introspection, they’ll  

just keep their intuitive humor to themselves. Number five – INFJs can be quite the nitpickers 

One of the main reasons people sometimes  tend to avoid INFJs is because they can be  

tough-to-handle perfectionists. They can easily  point out things you’re doing incorrectly  

and even ask you to do them the right way. This  attribute of theirs comes into play when they  

want to drop a joke, but it can surely backfire. INFJs can quickly spot the inconsistency and  

lack of logic in what others say and do. And  if someone’s telling a story or talking about  

a certain topic, they tend to naturally look  for that inconsistency in their storytelling  

or the details of their topic. Details that no one  else would ever notice or necessarily care about.  

And with these involuntary findings, they piece  together the irony in the things that people say  

in order to make a joke about it accordingly.  Luckily, with their deep understanding of how  

words can be interpreted, they always try to spare  the feelings of others, so they won’t necessarily  

call people out for these inconsistencies.  However, you can be certain that they’re  

chuckling to themselves when they witness a lack  of common sense in some of their fellow humans. 

Number six – INFJs experience a lot of guilt By nature, INFJs love to help and please the  

people around them. They go above and beyond  to make people happy – whether it’s a romantic  

partner or someone they met down the street. INFJs  don’t hold back in that aspect and hold themselves  

accountable if they fail to fix what’s broken.  And so, the INFJ is able to use their unique  

sense of humor as a way for them to express those  emotions without actually having to be vulnerable. 

For example, if a lady asked for help crossing  the street but the INFJ’s hands were full, leading  

them to apologetically decline, the INFJ may crack  a joke to their partner later that evening saying  

“I bet that poor old lady is still standing  their waiting for someone to help her cross..”  

While most people wouldn’t even think to  recall that memory from earlier that day, the  

INFJ probably ruminates about it their whole way  home. And so, these types of jokes are a way for  

the INFJ to self-soothe these feelings of guilt  that creep up once the situation is long over. 

Number seven – INFJs want to slam the door INFJs are famous for their “slam the door”  

trait. They won’t hesitate or think twice  about kicking someone out of their lives  

if it comes down to it. They may start by ghosting  and ignoring that person then slowly shutting them  

off – for good. They’d only engage with said  person if it’s absolutely necessary, but they  

would still give them the same kind of treatment  - that they don’t like them much anymore. 

One of the mechanisms they use to  accomplish that is to push that person away,  

so they don’t need to deal with them. And to  do that, they often use undesirable and crude  

humor to scare that person away. Dark and morbid  humor does a good job at killing the conversation  

and instilling that awkward silence, and  that’s what INFJs go for. Deep down, they hope  

this defense tactic works and spares them from  conflict and hurting people’s feelings.. And if  

they’re feeling ruthless enough, it usually does. Number eight – INFJs enjoy making people laugh 

Because of their accelerated  minds and constant inner dialogue,  

INFJs rarely focus on conversations that don’t  grab their attention. They don’t do well with  

small talk, and you could easily lose them if  you don’t have anything interesting to say.  

However, what does get their attention is:  out-of-the-ordinary, intriguing taboo subjects  

and topics. And in particular – joke  and humor with depth and intellect. 

That’s why INFJs are naturally drawn to use  dark humor. They perceive this type of humor  

as the best way to keep things interesting  and make people laugh. To them, it’s just an  

appropriate way to get the conversation going in  a more controversial way, which is the only time  

they can ever get truly invested in it. However,  they’re aware that their jokes might get them  

wary looks, so most INFJs become accustomed  to know when and where to drop a dark one.  

It shows their compassionate side as they strive  to spread joy by laughing at the tragedy of life. 

Number nine – INFJ use the process of selection Being the introverted intellectuals they are,  

INFJs have a less-than-easy time making friends.  They’re not satisfied with shallow friendships  

and relationships; they, instead, desire  real, meaningful connections that they can  

cultivate into something sustainable. That’s why  whenever they do find someone they click with,  

INFJs will do their best to keep them  around. Because they feel almost alien  

in their own environment so when they meet  that one special person, they won’t let go. 

And they usually look for someone who can keep  up with their wit and wordplay. And to do that,  

INFJs let their sarcastic, dark side loose  and test the waters. If they find someone  

who understands what they mean and relates to  them, they open up more to this person and look  

forward to hanging around them. But, if INFJ  are met with judgmental eyes, they become a  

lot more cautious with how they act around people. And... that's it for today's video, PSYCH-Os.. So,  

if you’re an INFJ, have you ever made a dark  joke and then instantly regretted it? Tell  

us all about it in the comment section below...  Also, make sure to leave us a like, share this  

video with your friends and also subscribe to  our channel so that you never miss a video!