Take a moment to feel your bodies. My question to you today is how is your body
Take a moment to feel your bodies. My question to you today is how is your body

relevant to your leadership? What I'm feeling right now is a certain amount
relevant to your leadership? What I'm feeling right now is a certain amount

of terror; you guys are way scarrier than Sierra Leonian army... and a lot of excitement
of terror; you guys are way scarrier than Sierra Leonian army... and a lot of excitement

as well. And this is going to be a lot of fun.
as well. And this is going to be a lot of fun.

My claim is that leadership is embodied. Leadership comes through us. It's not all in your head.
My claim is that leadership is embodied. Leadership comes through us. It's not all in your head.

You don't have to believe me, because we will actually be playing with this, be experiencing
You don't have to believe me, because we will actually be playing with this, be experiencing

this. to experience your work. I talk about the body, there is a couple of
this. to experience your work. I talk about the body, there is a couple of

misconceptions than generally come up. To to clear up quite quickly particularly when
misconceptions than generally come up. To to clear up quite quickly particularly when

we work with corporate groups. Um, the body has been reduced to two things mainly in the
we work with corporate groups. Um, the body has been reduced to two things mainly in the

western world. One is the body athletic. You don't need to be muscly like those guys, and
western world. One is the body athletic. You don't need to be muscly like those guys, and

it's not about the body aesthetic. There is only one body that I'm allowed to look like
it's not about the body aesthetic. There is only one body that I'm allowed to look like

in that way and she's not here. So it's not the body athletic or aesthetic. So what is
in that way and she's not here. So it's not the body athletic or aesthetic. So what is

it? These are some leaders I particularly enjoy.
it? These are some leaders I particularly enjoy.

They embody who they are. Not so much whether they are tall or short or whether they are
They embody who they are. Not so much whether they are tall or short or whether they are

overweight or skinny or anything like that, but how they hold themselves, how they move
overweight or skinny or anything like that, but how they hold themselves, how they move

through space. One of my claims is that we move through space like we move through life.
through space. One of my claims is that we move through space like we move through life.

If you look at, say, um, Ghandi and Churchill. Round about the same time in history they
If you look at, say, um, Ghandi and Churchill. Round about the same time in history they

were around. They embody something totally different. Churchill has a kind of stubbornness
were around. They embody something totally different. Churchill has a kind of stubbornness

to them. "We will fight them on the beaches." This is down, kinda very stubborn kinda quality.
to them. "We will fight them on the beaches." This is down, kinda very stubborn kinda quality.

Ghandi humility to him. A completely different quality in his body. So sometimes this happens
Ghandi humility to him. A completely different quality in his body. So sometimes this happens

accidentally. And I work with leaders to help people to have more awareness and more choice
accidentally. And I work with leaders to help people to have more awareness and more choice

about what they embody. If circumstances change, then you might need
about what they embody. If circumstances change, then you might need

to change what you embody. So, for example, Churchill at the end of World War II lost
to change what you embody. So, for example, Churchill at the end of World War II lost

an election. Yea. He thought that he was going to win, but he lost it. The country eeded
an election. Yea. He thought that he was going to win, but he lost it. The country eeded

something very different at the end of the war, which he didn't embody.
something very different at the end of the war, which he didn't embody.

I put my niece on there as (inaudible) heroic when I was looking at the pictures and finding
I put my niece on there as (inaudible) heroic when I was looking at the pictures and finding

some slides. She embodies, for me, vulnerability, which is an edge for me at the moment and
some slides. She embodies, for me, vulnerability, which is an edge for me at the moment and

also curiosity. That might be an embodied state that would benefit you today.
also curiosity. That might be an embodied state that would benefit you today.

Who thought about their body before Nick mentioned it today? Other than I'm hungry or I need
Who thought about their body before Nick mentioned it today? Other than I'm hungry or I need

the toilet or something like that. Is there in which we can actually... Some people, yea,
the toilet or something like that. Is there in which we can actually... Some people, yea,

okay... Is there a way in which we can actually maximize our state for today? So you can use
okay... Is there a way in which we can actually maximize our state for today? So you can use

your body to get the most out of today. By five p.m., you will be a half of a day closer
your body to get the most out of today. By five p.m., you will be a half of a day closer

to your death. You won't get that time back; I promise you that. So make the best use of
to your death. You won't get that time back; I promise you that. So make the best use of

that. The body can be very helpful for that. Ah, actually I'm talking about body language.
that. The body can be very helpful for that. Ah, actually I'm talking about body language.

That's another thing to clear up. So, um, sometimes people go on body language courses
That's another thing to clear up. So, um, sometimes people go on body language courses

and learn some gestures. And these, some politicians sometimes do this, and they seem kinda fake, inauthentic.
and learn some gestures. And these, some politicians sometimes do this, and they seem kinda fake, inauthentic.

Have you seen that? Yea? I'm talking about body being, so I'm talking
Have you seen that? Yea? I'm talking about body being, so I'm talking

about who you are as a person. This is what we're going to be playing with not some tricks
about who you are as a person. This is what we're going to be playing with not some tricks

to try and fool other people. Yea, it's about who you are, how that's embodied, and what
to try and fool other people. Yea, it's about who you are, how that's embodied, and what

that opens, and what that closes. Your body leans you in a particularly direction behaviorally.
that opens, and what that closes. Your body leans you in a particularly direction behaviorally.

So it's going to be different for each of you. It's a mirror.
So it's going to be different for each of you. It's a mirror.

Why now? Um, I mention change. A big thing for me is helping people be, ah, human beings
Why now? Um, I mention change. A big thing for me is helping people be, ah, human beings

at work. So bring yourself to work is a motto we have. I think that is very necessary, um...
at work. So bring yourself to work is a motto we have. I think that is very necessary, um...

One reason it's necessary that if you are not feeling this body it can be quite hard
One reason it's necessary that if you are not feeling this body it can be quite hard

to be compassionate to feel other people and also the bigger body, which (inaudible) will
to be compassionate to feel other people and also the bigger body, which (inaudible) will

talk about later. So the earth as well as a critical factor. Um, if that's too big,
talk about later. So the earth as well as a critical factor. Um, if that's too big,

just the factor of stress and well being absolutely vital feeling your body for that.
just the factor of stress and well being absolutely vital feeling your body for that.

The problem is this: when we are our best selves our leadership is beautiful. I'm sure
The problem is this: when we are our best selves our leadership is beautiful. I'm sure

on your best days, you all have beautiful leadership. You really embody your values.
on your best days, you all have beautiful leadership. You really embody your values.

All different but all special and wonderful. (inaudible) stuff happens. Stuff grabs us.
All different but all special and wonderful. (inaudible) stuff happens. Stuff grabs us.

Stuff throws us off center in my language. Here there are two dogs. Ah, it's pretty primal
Stuff throws us off center in my language. Here there are two dogs. Ah, it's pretty primal

with this stuff. It goes back to being an amoeba actually but definitely back to being
with this stuff. It goes back to being an amoeba actually but definitely back to being

a dog, um, they are both in what I call a disstress response. Two different versions
a dog, um, they are both in what I call a disstress response. Two different versions

of it. So one is in the aggressive, tight response. The other one is in more of a fearful,
of it. So one is in the aggressive, tight response. The other one is in more of a fearful,

collapsed response. Both of these are not ideal states for leading in.
collapsed response. Both of these are not ideal states for leading in.

In your average day, you might not get bogged up by a big dog, but you might get a scary
In your average day, you might not get bogged up by a big dog, but you might get a scary

email. You might get a phone call you don't expect from a client saying, "ah, yea, our
email. You might get a phone call you don't expect from a client saying, "ah, yea, our

budget has been cut. We can no longer do that piece of work with you." What other kind of
budget has been cut. We can no longer do that piece of work with you." What other kind of

things that you get that throws you off center? Just a couple people kinda shout out. What
things that you get that throws you off center? Just a couple people kinda shout out. What

grabs you? What perturbs you? The speakers will grab you today. I guarantee that.
grabs you? What perturbs you? The speakers will grab you today. I guarantee that.

Mmm? (inaudible)
Mmm? (inaudible)

Okay, negative results. What else? Just a couple from people just wanna hear your worlds.
Okay, negative results. What else? Just a couple from people just wanna hear your worlds.

(inaudible) Apathy. Okay, so that throws you off center...
(inaudible) Apathy. Okay, so that throws you off center...

ha! Ok. What else? One more. (inaudible)
ha! Ok. What else? One more. (inaudible)

Ok. So it's anything outside of your comfort zone. You know? Whatever that is in your world.
Ok. So it's anything outside of your comfort zone. You know? Whatever that is in your world.

This throws into a state that I call off center, which isn't ideal for leadership. Um, this
This throws into a state that I call off center, which isn't ideal for leadership. Um, this

is a process that I can take you through. It's a quick win. You learn it easily and
is a process that I can take you through. It's a quick win. You learn it easily and

quickly, and you can practice it your whole life. We're going to do this experientially.
quickly, and you can practice it your whole life. We're going to do this experientially.

That's more than enough of me talking, so can you all stand up and walk over to the
That's more than enough of me talking, so can you all stand up and walk over to the

dojo area, which is over here. So, um, the exercise that we are going to
dojo area, which is over here. So, um, the exercise that we are going to

do is stimulate the distress response, so you can then center. We're going to do this
do is stimulate the distress response, so you can then center. We're going to do this

in a safe, progress way. We start small and work our way up. The person receiving is in
in a safe, progress way. We start small and work our way up. The person receiving is in

charge. The first thing to do is check they're not wearing any watches, ring, jewelry, because
charge. The first thing to do is check they're not wearing any watches, ring, jewelry, because

I'm going to grab their arm. So, is it okay if I grab your arm?
I'm going to grab their arm. So, is it okay if I grab your arm?

Yep. Stand to the side. Start gently. Give 'em
Yep. Stand to the side. Start gently. Give 'em

a little grab. Now, we need enough to stimulate a physical response, but not so much we tramautive
a little grab. Now, we need enough to stimulate a physical response, but not so much we tramautive

them and freak them out, they run out in tears, and never come back. You know? So, she says
them and freak them out, they run out in tears, and never come back. You know? So, she says

too much or too little? Do you want more or ...
too much or too little? Do you want more or ...

More. A little bit more... yea. Okay. She stands
More. A little bit more... yea. Okay. She stands

fast. She needs more. So I build, put it up fifty percent. Okay, so now we got noticeable
fast. She needs more. So I build, put it up fifty percent. Okay, so now we got noticeable

physical response that's enough. So what did you do in your body?
physical response that's enough. So what did you do in your body?

I could fee my body jump. Jump, so you came up. What else?
I could fee my body jump. Jump, so you came up. What else?

Ah, my shoulders' tensed. Okay. Anything else?
Ah, my shoulders' tensed. Okay. Anything else?

Ah, breathing stopped. Okay, great. So, um, you're human. This is
Ah, breathing stopped. Okay, great. So, um, you're human. This is

fairly typical response. There different variations on it. Abdominal, the jaw tightening is another
fairly typical response. There different variations on it. Abdominal, the jaw tightening is another

one to watch out. It's important that you get really specific rather just say, ah, I
one to watch out. It's important that you get really specific rather just say, ah, I

just freaked out or I got stressed. If you get specific you can then undo those things
just freaked out or I got stressed. If you get specific you can then undo those things

when you center. So this time.. relax your shoulder. I'll take
when you center. So this time.. relax your shoulder. I'll take

you through the ABCs, so you are aware of your body, feeling the felt sense of your
you through the ABCs, so you are aware of your body, feeling the felt sense of your

body. Balance, so grounded down, expanded out. Relaxing the center line, relax the tongue,
body. Balance, so grounded down, expanded out. Relaxing the center line, relax the tongue,

relax the abdominal muscles. Aahh... that kind of feeling.
relax the abdominal muscles. Aahh... that kind of feeling.

Haahh. There we go. I'm going to grab you again.
Haahh. There we go. I'm going to grab you again.

Ready? Mmhmm.
Ready? Mmhmm.

Okay, so I used the same, ah, degree of grab if not a little bit more. How was it that
Okay, so I used the same, ah, degree of grab if not a little bit more. How was it that

time? I could feel the kinda outside of me shake
time? I could feel the kinda outside of me shake

but the inside stayed very firm. Okay, you probably noticed a lot less movement
but the inside stayed very firm. Okay, you probably noticed a lot less movement

as well. Yea, so, this of course, there is the movement that I just like physical give
as well. Yea, so, this of course, there is the movement that I just like physical give

her, but there isn't the distress response so much being stimulated. Often it will feel...
her, but there isn't the distress response so much being stimulated. Often it will feel...

like, okay, something, I've been grabbed, but it's not so bad. It's okay. It's manageable.
like, okay, something, I've been grabbed, but it's not so bad. It's okay. It's manageable.

Yea? It's quite different from the first time. Very.
Yea? It's quite different from the first time. Very.

So it's a before and after test. Essentially, you can test experiementially with each other
So it's a before and after test. Essentially, you can test experiementially with each other

then you swap roles. Um, start gently. If someone is really, ah, well, either really
then you swap roles. Um, start gently. If someone is really, ah, well, either really

centered, done lots of meditation, or has, has various things going on you can grab and
centered, done lots of meditation, or has, has various things going on you can grab and

shout, but build up to that. Start gently. Haha.
shout, but build up to that. Start gently. Haha.

So safety points... who's in charge here? Me or her? Who's in charge?
So safety points... who's in charge here? Me or her? Who's in charge?

She's in charge. She's in charge. The receiver is in charge.
She's in charge. She's in charge. The receiver is in charge.

Yea. And also watch out that you don't smash someone's brand new Rolex that probably, that
Yea. And also watch out that you don't smash someone's brand new Rolex that probably, that

will stimulate distress response, but there will be a form or something to fill in. So,
will stimulate distress response, but there will be a form or something to fill in. So,

grab someone from your home group, pair up with them, you're going to have five minutes
grab someone from your home group, pair up with them, you're going to have five minutes

for this, so nice and quick. (Speaking)
for this, so nice and quick. (Speaking)

Centering is a way of getting ourself together under pressure, so we all have things in life
Centering is a way of getting ourself together under pressure, so we all have things in life

which surprise us, grab us, shock us whether that's emails or a difficult phone call whatever
which surprise us, grab us, shock us whether that's emails or a difficult phone call whatever

it is something comes up. And then it's how do we get us out of the shocked, tense state
it is something comes up. And then it's how do we get us out of the shocked, tense state

to, back to where we can the best leaders we can be.
to, back to where we can the best leaders we can be.