realized I can't live like this anymore?
realized I can't live like this anymore?

I did back in november over the past couple of years.
I did back in november over the past couple of years.

I had done my best to manage my anxiety, to live with
I had done my best to manage my anxiety, to live with

depression and to navigate all of the changes happening
depression and to navigate all of the changes happening

in a very chaotic world.
in a very chaotic world.

I had been doing what I needed to do to get by and
I had been doing what I needed to do to get by and

frankly to get out of bed some mornings and it was very
frankly to get out of bed some mornings and it was very

necessary then, but I realized that I was ready to do
necessary then, but I realized that I was ready to do

more than just survive.
more than just survive.

But after so long it wasn't just a matter of, Of making a
But after so long it wasn't just a matter of, Of making a

list of goals for myself to get into that era.
list of goals for myself to get into that era.

I needed to reinvent myself and quickly so that I didn't
I needed to reinvent myself and quickly so that I didn't

backslide into my safe, depressed state.
backslide into my safe, depressed state.

So I went through a process to reinvent my career and
So I went through a process to reinvent my career and

my life in 30 days and I'm showing it today with you in
my life in 30 days and I'm showing it today with you in

this video, it begins with a simple question, are you who
this video, it begins with a simple question, are you who

you think you are?
you think you are?

According to neuroscience, the answer is no.
According to neuroscience, the answer is no.

Despite being the source of our awesomeness and
Despite being the source of our awesomeness and

intelligence and inventions like the
intelligence and inventions like the

snuggie, our brain? No, nothing.
snuggie, our brain? No, nothing.

When you were born, it is a blank slate.
When you were born, it is a blank slate.

If you have ever had a baby or have been in close
If you have ever had a baby or have been in close

proximity to a brand new human, you'll know that they
proximity to a brand new human, you'll know that they

don't know how to do anything.
don't know how to do anything.

They don't know how to fall
They don't know how to fall

asleep, They don't know how to eat.
asleep, They don't know how to eat.

They don't know how to do anything other than what
They don't know how to do anything other than what

they're instinctually driven to do and from infancy through
they're instinctually driven to do and from infancy through

the rest of our lives, all that we understand about the
the rest of our lives, all that we understand about the

world is what we observe and experience.
world is what we observe and experience.

Your brain is constantly taking information about what's
Your brain is constantly taking information about what's

happening around you and what you experience to cry
happening around you and what you experience to cry

create mental models.
create mental models.

It's like machine learning without the machine.
It's like machine learning without the machine.

Your brain then uses these mental models to make
Your brain then uses these mental models to make

sense of the world around you to predict how different
sense of the world around you to predict how different

situations will play out and even determines your self
situations will play out and even determines your self

concept, which is how you see yourself in the world, who
concept, which is how you see yourself in the world, who

you are, what your role is, what you're supposed to do,
you are, what your role is, what you're supposed to do,

who you're supposed to be.
who you're supposed to be.

The concept of a mental model
The concept of a mental model

makes most sense with an example.
makes most sense with an example.

So I'm going to share one that I think you might relate to
So I'm going to share one that I think you might relate to

one of my mental models is every time I wear a light
one of my mental models is every time I wear a light

outfit on a day I have a presentation or important
outfit on a day I have a presentation or important

meeting, I will spill food on myself, whether it's my
meeting, I will spill food on myself, whether it's my

breakfast or my coffee.
breakfast or my coffee.

So instead of walking in looking polished and
So instead of walking in looking polished and

professional and like I have my stuff together, like how I
professional and like I have my stuff together, like how I

would like to appear, I walk
would like to appear, I walk

in looking like a stained mess.
in looking like a stained mess.

You should probably carry a tide pen.
You should probably carry a tide pen.

Now do I only spill my coffee
Now do I only spill my coffee

all over myself when I'm wearing white?
all over myself when I'm wearing white?

No, I spilled coffee on myself all the time. Do I spill coffee
No, I spilled coffee on myself all the time. Do I spill coffee

on myself every time I wear white.
on myself every time I wear white.

Know there's been some times that I've managed to
Know there's been some times that I've managed to

keep it together, but because it has happened in the past
keep it together, but because it has happened in the past

and I felt embarrassed about it, my brain predicts that it's
and I felt embarrassed about it, my brain predicts that it's

going to happen again.
going to happen again.

The main thing our brain is trying to do for us is to avoid
The main thing our brain is trying to do for us is to avoid

pain after all, including the pain of social embarrassment.
pain after all, including the pain of social embarrassment.

This doesn't just apply to coffee though, this applies to
This doesn't just apply to coffee though, this applies to

how you expect your boss to treat you or your coworkers
how you expect your boss to treat you or your coworkers

to treat you the projects and tasks you think you're able
to treat you the projects and tasks you think you're able

to complete at work and even how you think about
to complete at work and even how you think about

yourself at work and in life.
yourself at work and in life.

This is because these mental models inform yourself
This is because these mental models inform yourself

calm concept which influences your future decisions.
calm concept which influences your future decisions.

It's important to note here that your brain is only able to
It's important to note here that your brain is only able to

build a mental model based on things that it's observed
build a mental model based on things that it's observed

or experienced basically on what has happened to you
or experienced basically on what has happened to you

and who you have been to date.
and who you have been to date.

That brings us to the process of reinvention and some
That brings us to the process of reinvention and some

great news, These mental models are constantly
great news, These mental models are constantly

updating even faster than your iphone, you can upgrade
updating even faster than your iphone, you can upgrade

your mental model at any time.
your mental model at any time.

So if you want to be the corporate girly who has her stuff
So if you want to be the corporate girly who has her stuff

together at least mostly and gets to pay promotion and
together at least mostly and gets to pay promotion and

praise she deserves, you can begin to reprogram your
praise she deserves, you can begin to reprogram your

mental models to create that new self concept which
mental models to create that new self concept which

brings me to the leg because you probably don't see
brings me to the leg because you probably don't see

yourself as the current version of yourself and definitely
yourself as the current version of yourself and definitely

non who you are becoming, it's much more likely that
non who you are becoming, it's much more likely that

you see yourself as a version or two ago.
you see yourself as a version or two ago.

That's where I personally got stuck.
That's where I personally got stuck.

While these mental models do eventually self update,
While these mental models do eventually self update,

you can accelerate the process
you can accelerate the process

by proactively updating them basically.
by proactively updating them basically.

Instead of waiting for updates to manually install, you
Instead of waiting for updates to manually install, you

can see, take it out, install it and the application updates
can see, take it out, install it and the application updates

that go with it.
that go with it.

So how do you do that?
So how do you do that?

It begins with knowing your reinvention, knowing what
It begins with knowing your reinvention, knowing what

you want, your next era to be.
you want, your next era to be.

This breaks down into four
This breaks down into four

areas, career life, health and self.
areas, career life, health and self.

Career is obviously your professional self, which we talk
Career is obviously your professional self, which we talk

about all the time on my channel.
about all the time on my channel.

I also include money and finances in this category
I also include money and finances in this category

because for most of us, our job is the primary way that
because for most of us, our job is the primary way that

money comes to us.
money comes to us.

Next is lifestyle. This can include your lifestyle, your
Next is lifestyle. This can include your lifestyle, your

travel, relationships and the things you do for fun.
travel, relationships and the things you do for fun.

Then we have health. This is all encompassing. It
Then we have health. This is all encompassing. It

includes your physical, emotional, psychological as well
includes your physical, emotional, psychological as well

as your spiritual health.
as your spiritual health.

Finally their self this includes how you take care of
Finally their self this includes how you take care of

yourself, how you keep your battery charged as well as
yourself, how you keep your battery charged as well as

how you dress and show up in the world.
how you dress and show up in the world.

In this phase, you're going to get clear on what you want
In this phase, you're going to get clear on what you want

each of these areas of your life to look like.
each of these areas of your life to look like.

And it's actually not as complicated as it sounds, get a
And it's actually not as complicated as it sounds, get a

piece of paper and write down what you want In each of
piece of paper and write down what you want In each of

those four areas of your life.
those four areas of your life.

The most important thing here is this, you have to give
The most important thing here is this, you have to give

yourself permission to want what you want, even if it
yourself permission to want what you want, even if it

feels big and impossible.
feels big and impossible.

For example, one of the things that I wrote down for
For example, one of the things that I wrote down for

myself when I went through this process was I want to
myself when I went through this process was I want to

have a best selling book.
have a best selling book.

My book, career glow up comes out on January 10 and I
My book, career glow up comes out on January 10 and I

would love for it to be a bestseller, but not for the
would love for it to be a bestseller, but not for the

reasons you think I'm going to come back to that in a
reasons you think I'm going to come back to that in a

minute though inversely you might not find yourself
minute though inversely you might not find yourself

writing down a lot of things here or you might not be
writing down a lot of things here or you might not be

writing down a lot of mass of things in each area.
writing down a lot of mass of things in each area.

That's okay. My point is is that you need to be clear on
That's okay. My point is is that you need to be clear on

what you really want to create next, whatever it is without
what you really want to create next, whatever it is without

holding yourself back or feeling pressure to overachieve.
holding yourself back or feeling pressure to overachieve.

One interesting thing that can happen when you do this
One interesting thing that can happen when you do this

is you might find yourself writing down things that you
is you might find yourself writing down things that you

used to do that you stop doing reinvention doesn't mean
used to do that you stop doing reinvention doesn't mean

that everything is new, It involves bringing the best with
that everything is new, It involves bringing the best with

you and sometimes that means
you and sometimes that means

old habits making a comeback.
old habits making a comeback.

For instance, I wrote down, established a new morning
For instance, I wrote down, established a new morning

routine because I used to have this journaling and
routine because I used to have this journaling and

meditation thing that I absolutely love, but it kind of got
meditation thing that I absolutely love, but it kind of got

derailed when I had a hard time getting out of bed.
derailed when I had a hard time getting out of bed.

So I gave myself permission to stay there as long as I
So I gave myself permission to stay there as long as I

needed and scroll on my phone
needed and scroll on my phone

until I was ready to get out.
until I was ready to get out.

So for like an hour, remember you don't have to show
So for like an hour, remember you don't have to show

this to anybody, no one needs to approve it.
this to anybody, no one needs to approve it.

It's just what you want in these four areas and things that
It's just what you want in these four areas and things that

you think would feel good to have.
you think would feel good to have.

What you end up with here is essentially a framework of
What you end up with here is essentially a framework of

who you want to be, how you want to live and what you
who you want to be, how you want to live and what you

want to accomplish.
want to accomplish.

Basically you have a set of goals.
Basically you have a set of goals.

Goals are really important when you're reinventing
Goals are really important when you're reinventing

yourself because they're defining what you want to
yourself because they're defining what you want to

create in that next era.
create in that next era.

But just setting a goal in itself is flimsy, which is why for
But just setting a goal in itself is flimsy, which is why for

each goal, I want you to take it another step.
each goal, I want you to take it another step.

I want you to get clear af on the vision values the
I want you to get clear af on the vision values the

obstacles and what you're going to do to make it happen.
obstacles and what you're going to do to make it happen.

This makes more sense. If I explain it in context, I'm
This makes more sense. If I explain it in context, I'm

actually going to take a goal that probably not many of
actually going to take a goal that probably not many of

you have because I think if I give an example, like
you have because I think if I give an example, like

getting promoted or getting a new job, the examples I
getting promoted or getting a new job, the examples I

give can feel like very narrow and constraining.
give can feel like very narrow and constraining.

So let's run with my example of my goal of making the
So let's run with my example of my goal of making the

career glow up book into a bestseller.
career glow up book into a bestseller.

The first thing I defined with this goal was the vision and
The first thing I defined with this goal was the vision and

the vision is what and why
the vision is what and why

you really want to achieve this goal.
you really want to achieve this goal.

My vision for the career glow up book is that it will help
My vision for the career glow up book is that it will help

tens of thousands of people create wildly so successful
tens of thousands of people create wildly so successful

careers on their own terms, it's going to help them create
careers on their own terms, it's going to help them create

an easy to implement career success strategy and will
an easy to implement career success strategy and will

be the go to guide for ambitious professionals.
be the go to guide for ambitious professionals.

The next step is to understand the values of the goal and
The next step is to understand the values of the goal and

this is a step I actually took when I was working at sales
this is a step I actually took when I was working at sales

for is that I found really transformative in terms of goal
for is that I found really transformative in terms of goal

achievement because it's going a little deeper knowing
achievement because it's going a little deeper knowing

how the goals that you have relates to your values is
how the goals that you have relates to your values is

really important and can help you be more motivated and
really important and can help you be more motivated and

committed to the goal at least in my opinion.
committed to the goal at least in my opinion.

So how does making career glow up a bestseller aligned
So how does making career glow up a bestseller aligned

with my values?
with my values?

Well one of my core values is service and that's the
Well one of my core values is service and that's the

place that I wrote this book from for me books have
place that I wrote this book from for me books have

always been low cost, accessible, exceptionally
always been low cost, accessible, exceptionally

transformative, especially in the format that I created the
transformative, especially in the format that I created the

career glow up book.
career glow up book.

The other value that this aligns with is winning together
The other value that this aligns with is winning together

being a best selling author is a lifelong dream of mine
being a best selling author is a lifelong dream of mine

but I know that transformation that this book is going to
but I know that transformation that this book is going to

provide, I know that it can help you get promoted, I know
provide, I know that it can help you get promoted, I know

it can help you get paid more and I know it can help you
it can help you get paid more and I know it can help you

be recognized for everything that you do and contribute
be recognized for everything that you do and contribute

and work and the more value aligned people that are out
and work and the more value aligned people that are out

there creating impact, gaining power and even making
there creating impact, gaining power and even making

more money, the more positive
more money, the more positive

impact we can make in workspaces?
impact we can make in workspaces?

This brings me to the third thing, which is obstacles and
This brings me to the third thing, which is obstacles and

this is where it can get really juicy because when we set
this is where it can get really juicy because when we set

a goal and especially when we're reinventing ourselves
a goal and especially when we're reinventing ourselves

and getting this big vision about what our next era is
and getting this big vision about what our next era is

going to be, it can feel like it's really, really hard, it might
going to be, it can feel like it's really, really hard, it might

even feel impossible to achieve.
even feel impossible to achieve.

So why is that? Well, here is where we can break down
So why is that? Well, here is where we can break down

the actual obstacles.
the actual obstacles.

Like for example, I can't control who actually goes and
Like for example, I can't control who actually goes and

buys my book.
buys my book.

I mean I hope you go and buy my book, but I'm not the
I mean I hope you go and buy my book, but I'm not the

boss of you, so I can't make you.
boss of you, so I can't make you.

And of course there could be tactical obstacles that are
And of course there could be tactical obstacles that are

getting in the way as well, such as being a first time
getting in the way as well, such as being a first time

author with no experience marketing a book launch for
author with no experience marketing a book launch for

each obstacle that we identify, what I want you to do is to
each obstacle that we identify, what I want you to do is to

identify a way that you can
identify a way that you can

mitigate the risk or minimize the risk.
mitigate the risk or minimize the risk.

We can't do risk everything, but we can be ready for a lot
We can't do risk everything, but we can be ready for a lot

of different situations, especially when we plan for them
of different situations, especially when we plan for them

and then we get to the good part, which is how to make it
and then we get to the good part, which is how to make it

happen, even though it's really big, really scary goals are
happen, even though it's really big, really scary goals are

easily achievable when we start to break them down.
easily achievable when we start to break them down.

So if you're trying to get promoted, what steps do you
So if you're trying to get promoted, what steps do you

need to take in order to get the promotion at work?
need to take in order to get the promotion at work?

If you're trying to get a new job, what are the steps to get
If you're trying to get a new job, what are the steps to get

a new job eventually?
a new job eventually?

What we're going to do is we are going to break up the
What we're going to do is we are going to break up the

big things so that it's actually really simple for us to
big things so that it's actually really simple for us to

achieve as long as we stick to the plan.
achieve as long as we stick to the plan.

For example, one of the things I can do to maximize my
For example, one of the things I can do to maximize my

likelihood of being a best selling author is to promote my
likelihood of being a best selling author is to promote my

book, which is kind of what I'm doing right now.
book, which is kind of what I'm doing right now.

You'll follow this process for each goal that you are
You'll follow this process for each goal that you are

setting for yourself in your reinvention.
setting for yourself in your reinvention.

So whether that is getting a promotion dre drinking more
So whether that is getting a promotion dre drinking more

water a day, working out more redoing your morning
water a day, working out more redoing your morning

routine, each one you're going to go through each and
routine, each one you're going to go through each and

every one of these steps that you know what you want,
every one of these steps that you know what you want,

why you want it, what's going to get in the way and how
why you want it, what's going to get in the way and how

you can make it happen personally, I also went full nerd
you can make it happen personally, I also went full nerd

and created a whole notion set up for my goals and
and created a whole notion set up for my goals and

tracking everything that we just discussed basically, it
tracking everything that we just discussed basically, it

gives me a dashboard to work with and keeps everything
gives me a dashboard to work with and keeps everything

in my face, let me know if you're interested in seeing it.
in my face, let me know if you're interested in seeing it.

As I went through this process.
As I went through this process.

I also visited the route that I have that influence or
I also visited the route that I have that influence or

determine my vision, think about the tiny things that you
determine my vision, think about the tiny things that you

can include in your day that are going to make you
can include in your day that are going to make you

happier more successful or just make your day easier,
happier more successful or just make your day easier,

something like having an after work reset routine
something like having an after work reset routine

Ultimately ask yourself this question as I reinvent myself,
Ultimately ask yourself this question as I reinvent myself,

what habits do I need to belt in order to live my ideal life?
what habits do I need to belt in order to live my ideal life?

And this brings me to the final phase and the most
And this brings me to the final phase and the most

important phase in reinventing yourself and that is taking
important phase in reinventing yourself and that is taking

action, This is all moot.
action, This is all moot.

If we think about it without actually doing anything right, I
If we think about it without actually doing anything right, I

suggest starting with some easy wins, even if they feel
suggest starting with some easy wins, even if they feel

superficial because the world that we observe impacts
superficial because the world that we observe impacts

how we see ourselves, so changes that we make to
how we see ourselves, so changes that we make to

ourselves and our environment are going to help us
ourselves and our environment are going to help us

accelerate the updates for those mental models.
accelerate the updates for those mental models.

I started with upgrading my wardrobe, especially over the
I started with upgrading my wardrobe, especially over the

last few years, I have started wearing an embarrassing
last few years, I have started wearing an embarrassing

amount of leggings, not that there's anything wrong with
amount of leggings, not that there's anything wrong with

leggings, I am from Vancouver and lululemon is pro
leggings, I am from Vancouver and lululemon is pro

practically formal wear, but I don't feel like a polished
practically formal wear, but I don't feel like a polished

professional badass when I'm wearing leggings.
professional badass when I'm wearing leggings.

So I needed to make a change.
So I needed to make a change.

I decided that my vibe was going to be much more
I decided that my vibe was going to be much more

effortlessly chic with that in mind.
effortlessly chic with that in mind.

I edited my closet. I also bought some new pieces that
I edited my closet. I also bought some new pieces that

function with a vision I had for myself, for instance, I'm
function with a vision I had for myself, for instance, I'm

really vibing with monochromatic look.
really vibing with monochromatic look.

So I went to a ritzy and just bought a bunch of stuff.
So I went to a ritzy and just bought a bunch of stuff.

I also spent some time getting my physical and living
I also spent some time getting my physical and living

spaces in order because of everything that has gone on
spaces in order because of everything that has gone on

with the case, the depression and the anxiety those
with the case, the depression and the anxiety those

areas had gotten a little bit chaotic too and it didn't
areas had gotten a little bit chaotic too and it didn't

support the vision or how I feel most at peace and I have
support the vision or how I feel most at peace and I have

two little kids.
two little kids.

So things get crazy. Another quick win that I structured
So things get crazy. Another quick win that I structured

was creating some affirmations for myself.
was creating some affirmations for myself.

These allow me to remind myself every day that just
These allow me to remind myself every day that just

because I haven't done something yet doesn't mean I
because I haven't done something yet doesn't mean I

can't do it.
can't do it.

These affirmations are helping me channel the vibes
These affirmations are helping me channel the vibes

every day about who I want to be and what I want to
every day about who I want to be and what I want to

achieve in this next era.
achieve in this next era.

You want to check out what they are and borrow them.
You want to check out what they are and borrow them.

I did make them into a post over on instagram.
I did make them into a post over on instagram.

I'll link it down below and then of course we need to take
I'll link it down below and then of course we need to take

actual action with tasks you already determine what you
actual action with tasks you already determine what you

need to do to get promoted at work, how to meet people
need to do to get promoted at work, how to meet people

in your industry to find a new mentor or how to drink
in your industry to find a new mentor or how to drink

eight glasses of water a day,
eight glasses of water a day,

even though water is really gross.
even though water is really gross.

Anyone else with me on that one with these in mind.
Anyone else with me on that one with these in mind.

I suggest that you make a plan every week so that you're
I suggest that you make a plan every week so that you're

tackling steps to achieve these
tackling steps to achieve these

goals on a consistent basis.
goals on a consistent basis.

This is how you're going to bring your reinvention from a
This is how you're going to bring your reinvention from a

concept into reality.
concept into reality.

One thing I think is really important to say is in this
One thing I think is really important to say is in this

process as you reinvent yourself.
process as you reinvent yourself.

Do not be too hard on yourself.
Do not be too hard on yourself.

The process of reinventing yourself isn't something that
The process of reinventing yourself isn't something that

is going to transition into the real world, flawlessly and
is going to transition into the real world, flawlessly and

perfectly show up intentionally visit your goals and visit
perfectly show up intentionally visit your goals and visit

your vision for your rien invention.
your vision for your rien invention.

Do the best you can every day, no matter what that
Do the best you can every day, no matter what that

version of best is, because your best might look different
version of best is, because your best might look different

every single day, Don't judge yourself or shame yourself
every single day, Don't judge yourself or shame yourself

if something doesn't go perfectly or when you break your
if something doesn't go perfectly or when you break your

habit streak one day it's just
habit streak one day it's just

one day and there's always tomorrow.
one day and there's always tomorrow.

Ultimately I want you to remember this.
Ultimately I want you to remember this.

It's the tiny decisions and tiny tasks that snowball up to
It's the tiny decisions and tiny tasks that snowball up to

massive achievements and big transformations and
massive achievements and big transformations and

when you keep on showing up every day, we with
when you keep on showing up every day, we with

intention and in alignment with how you want to reinvent
intention and in alignment with how you want to reinvent

yourself all of a sudden it's going to be how you see
yourself all of a sudden it's going to be how you see

yourself and chances are, it's
yourself and chances are, it's

how others already see you.
how others already see you.

The truth is this isn't a reinvention, this is just letting who
The truth is this isn't a reinvention, this is just letting who

you already are out into the world and continuing your
you already are out into the world and continuing your

personal and professional growth Of course don't
personal and professional growth Of course don't

underestimate the power of habits.
underestimate the power of habits.

In fact, I want you to go and watch this video next to
In fact, I want you to go and watch this video next to

identify some success. Accelerating habits
identify some success. Accelerating habits