- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.
- [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers.

Do you long for that perfect match,
Do you long for that perfect match,

the person you know is the one for you?
the person you know is the one for you?

Perhaps you've leafed through pages of Cosmopolitan
Perhaps you've leafed through pages of Cosmopolitan

to find things that will assure you
to find things that will assure you

that the person you're with is your ideal partner.
that the person you're with is your ideal partner.

You talk to family and friends
You talk to family and friends

to make sure that your partner gets the okay,
to make sure that your partner gets the okay,

but despite the rigorous screening process,
but despite the rigorous screening process,

sometimes you break up with them.
sometimes you break up with them.

So how can you tell if you've found your ideal partner?
So how can you tell if you've found your ideal partner?

To help you get the reassurance you need,
To help you get the reassurance you need,

here are seven signs you have found the one.
here are seven signs you have found the one.

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Number one, the relationship is balanced.
Number one, the relationship is balanced.

Balance is necessary for a long-term relationship.
Balance is necessary for a long-term relationship.

It needs flow.
It needs flow.

The most common example is a balance of personalities.
The most common example is a balance of personalities.

One is extroverted, the other is introverted,
One is extroverted, the other is introverted,

but balance can also refer to chores
but balance can also refer to chores

and roles in the relationship.
and roles in the relationship.

You'll notice if a relationship is balanced or not.
You'll notice if a relationship is balanced or not.

If things go smoothly, you two naturally synchronize.
If things go smoothly, you two naturally synchronize.

Two, you both communicate effectively.
Two, you both communicate effectively.

To achieve balance in a relationship,
To achieve balance in a relationship,

you need to know how to communicate with each other.
you need to know how to communicate with each other.

Communication extends beyond words.
Communication extends beyond words.

Communication is largely about subtext.
Communication is largely about subtext.

What do we say when we aren't speaking?
What do we say when we aren't speaking?

You need to clearly explain your thoughts
You need to clearly explain your thoughts

in a way that the other person understands,
in a way that the other person understands,

which can be harder than you think.
which can be harder than you think.

Proper communication takes years of practice,
Proper communication takes years of practice,

but it's achievable and becomes easier
but it's achievable and becomes easier

when you know your audience, in this case, your partner.
when you know your audience, in this case, your partner.

The other, perhaps more important,
The other, perhaps more important,

part of communication is listening,
part of communication is listening,

which is something we all need to learn how to do.
which is something we all need to learn how to do.

Listening involves paying attention
Listening involves paying attention

and being receptive to the feedback you're receiving.
and being receptive to the feedback you're receiving.

Number three, you trust each other.
Number three, you trust each other.

No relationship, romantic or otherwise,
No relationship, romantic or otherwise,

works if you don't trust each other.
works if you don't trust each other.

There's no way around it.
There's no way around it.

If you can't trust your partner
If you can't trust your partner

or your partner can't trust you,
or your partner can't trust you,

the relationship won't work.
the relationship won't work.

Trust opens the door for vulnerability,
Trust opens the door for vulnerability,

respect, and intimacy.
respect, and intimacy.

Eventually these, along with other aspects, create love.
Eventually these, along with other aspects, create love.

These qualities of love manifest in different ways
These qualities of love manifest in different ways

from being supportive,
from being supportive,

respecting each other's alone time, and being affectionate.
respecting each other's alone time, and being affectionate.

Number four, you share the same values
Number four, you share the same values

and try to achieve them as a couple.
and try to achieve them as a couple.

This also falls under having a balanced relationship,
This also falls under having a balanced relationship,

but sharing the same values also makes it easier
but sharing the same values also makes it easier

to figure out where your relationship is going.
to figure out where your relationship is going.

An ideal partner will likely be heading
An ideal partner will likely be heading

the same direction as you are,
the same direction as you are,

and they'll want to be by your side on the journey.
and they'll want to be by your side on the journey.

You and your partner should be on the same page
You and your partner should be on the same page

about the big things such as marriage, kids, and the future.
about the big things such as marriage, kids, and the future.

Five, you also respect each other's differing views.
Five, you also respect each other's differing views.

It's all right if neither of you share similar opinions
It's all right if neither of you share similar opinions

on ice cream flavors or holiday traditions.
on ice cream flavors or holiday traditions.

What matters is that both of you respect each other enough
What matters is that both of you respect each other enough

to agree to disagree.
to agree to disagree.

Number six, you both value
Number six, you both value

and keep your promises to each other.
and keep your promises to each other.

This ties in with whether you trust each other or not.
This ties in with whether you trust each other or not.

Trust is vital in a relationship
Trust is vital in a relationship

because it has the power to bind people,
because it has the power to bind people,

but also push them apart.
but also push them apart.

Trust is fragile,
Trust is fragile,

so it's important to keep the promises
so it's important to keep the promises

you make to each other.
you make to each other.

Your ideal partner will strive
Your ideal partner will strive

to fulfill the promises they make to you.
to fulfill the promises they make to you.

And number seven, you both are beyond aesthetics.
And number seven, you both are beyond aesthetics.

The last sign that you found your ideal partner
The last sign that you found your ideal partner

is that you're beyond aesthetics.
is that you're beyond aesthetics.

Sure, attraction is necessary to fall in love
Sure, attraction is necessary to fall in love

and it does reemerge throughout the relationship.
and it does reemerge throughout the relationship.

However, when you've found the ideal partner,
However, when you've found the ideal partner,

you're not with them because of their looks,
you're not with them because of their looks,

you're with them because you enjoy being with them,
you're with them because you enjoy being with them,

because you've fallen in love with who they are,
because you've fallen in love with who they are,

not what they look like.
not what they look like.

We all want to find the right person
We all want to find the right person

to spend the rest of our lives with,
to spend the rest of our lives with,

which explains the constant need for reassurance
which explains the constant need for reassurance

that we have made the right choice.
that we have made the right choice.

But when you know, you know.
But when you know, you know.

Do any of these signs apply to your relationship?
Do any of these signs apply to your relationship?

Do you agree with this list?
Do you agree with this list?

Let us know in the comments below.
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As always the references and studies
As always the references and studies

are listed in the description below.
are listed in the description below.

Until next time, friends.
Until next time, friends.

See you soon.
See you soon.