hello to you i'm gayle king and this is precise  advice how does it work i have a stack of cards  
hello to you i'm gayle king and this is precise  advice how does it work i have a stack of cards  

here and i'm going to do my best to answer the  questions could i please say up front i am not  
here and i'm going to do my best to answer the  questions could i please say up front i am not  

a trained therapist or psychologist although i did  major in psychology in college do with that what  
a trained therapist or psychologist although i did  major in psychology in college do with that what  

you will okay dear gail i have roommate issues i  trust them but we have extremely different values  
you will okay dear gail i have roommate issues i  trust them but we have extremely different values  

it's getting more and more difficult to  relate and communicate with each other  
it's getting more and more difficult to  relate and communicate with each other  

what can i do because it's so hard to find  trustworthy people that's true but the stress of  
what can i do because it's so hard to find  trustworthy people that's true but the stress of  

conflict may be even harder well i just always  think that your home should be your sanctuary  
conflict may be even harder well i just always  think that your home should be your sanctuary  

your home should be a safe place to fall and so  if you're having a conflict with your roommate i  
your home should be a safe place to fall and so  if you're having a conflict with your roommate i  

think either the roommate has to go or you have to  go i don't believe that you should stay in a home  
think either the roommate has to go or you have to  go i don't believe that you should stay in a home  

where you're already saying that you have issues  with your roommate just because you're worried  
where you're already saying that you have issues  with your roommate just because you're worried  

about finding somebody that's trustworthy i  do think that that's hard but i don't think  
about finding somebody that's trustworthy i  do think that that's hard but i don't think  

it's impossible and the line that got me here  is where you said but the stress of conflict  
it's impossible and the line that got me here  is where you said but the stress of conflict  

may be harder that's a big ding ding ding  ding that means things have to change dear  
may be harder that's a big ding ding ding  ding that means things have to change dear  

gail i'm approaching middle age and happily  single but all my friends have settled down  
gail i'm approaching middle age and happily  single but all my friends have settled down  

so i have less and less of them how do i make  quality friendships at this stage of life  
so i have less and less of them how do i make  quality friendships at this stage of life  

ps oh this is nice i love your work thank you  very much at captain teabs captain teams this  
ps oh this is nice i love your work thank you  very much at captain teabs captain teams this  

is a really good question because i think the  older you get the harder it is to make friends  
is a really good question because i think the  older you get the harder it is to make friends  

and it's harder to find true friends that you feel  you can hang with but it's not impossible i also  
and it's harder to find true friends that you feel  you can hang with but it's not impossible i also  

think it's hard when you're the single person  all of your friends are married because they're  
think it's hard when you're the single person  all of your friends are married because they're  

like oh is gail coming over again i've been in  a i've been a third wheel in many situations  
like oh is gail coming over again i've been in  a i've been a third wheel in many situations  

sometimes been a fifth wheel and i'm really  okay depending on who my friends are but it  
sometimes been a fifth wheel and i'm really  okay depending on who my friends are but it  

sounds to me that you would like to have friends  so i'm saying you would like to have more friends  
sounds to me that you would like to have friends  so i'm saying you would like to have more friends  

what does that mean you have to join um either  a class a dance group i think dancing is fun  
what does that mean you have to join um either  a class a dance group i think dancing is fun  

join a dance club cooking cooking you could do a  cooking class you can always volunteer it is going  
join a dance club cooking cooking you could do a  cooking class you can always volunteer it is going  

to mean putting yourself out there and that's  sometimes hard for people i remember when i first  
to mean putting yourself out there and that's  sometimes hard for people i remember when i first  

got divorced my mom would say no one's gonna come  knock on your door it's true nobody comes knocking  
got divorced my mom would say no one's gonna come  knock on your door it's true nobody comes knocking  

at the door captain teams and says can you come  out and play so you've got to put yourself out  
at the door captain teams and says can you come  out and play so you've got to put yourself out  

there and i know that's hard sometimes but that  you've got to do and thank you for loving my work  
there and i know that's hard sometimes but that  you've got to do and thank you for loving my work  

tina j hi miss king i loaned substantial money to  a friend rappo at a time when they were in dire  
tina j hi miss king i loaned substantial money to  a friend rappo at a time when they were in dire  

need on agreement that they would pay me back  when they got back on their feet i know where  
need on agreement that they would pay me back  when they got back on their feet i know where  

this is going they paid back half but are stalling  on paying back the rest i am now in need of that  
this is going they paid back half but are stalling  on paying back the rest i am now in need of that  

money what can i do to make progress and still  keep our friendship intact i'm losing my patience
money what can i do to make progress and still  keep our friendship intact i'm losing my patience

more so since they bought a boat what they  haven't paid you back but they bought a boat  
more so since they bought a boat what they  haven't paid you back but they bought a boat  

i've been in that situation i think you have to  be very firm with your friend and let them know  
i've been in that situation i think you have to  be very firm with your friend and let them know  

that you know when i lent you the money we  made a deal that you would pay me back i now  
that you know when i lent you the money we  made a deal that you would pay me back i now  

need the money and it's very um hard for me when  you haven't paid me back yet you're buying boats  
need the money and it's very um hard for me when  you haven't paid me back yet you're buying boats  

this happened to me with a friend who bought some  shoes and then had the nerve to come and show me  
this happened to me with a friend who bought some  shoes and then had the nerve to come and show me  

the shoes and can i say they were very expensive  and all i said oh those are nice shoes but if you  
the shoes and can i say they were very expensive  and all i said oh those are nice shoes but if you  

need the money i think that you have to make  sure that you say something to your friend  
need the money i think that you have to make  sure that you say something to your friend  

this is uh es duro what should  i have for dinner next thursday
this is uh es duro what should  i have for dinner next thursday

shake shack is having a wonderful  thing they're having a truffle burger  
shake shack is having a wonderful  thing they're having a truffle burger  

i was at shake shack the other day i was going  to order a regular cheeseburger i looked up  
i was at shake shack the other day i was going  to order a regular cheeseburger i looked up  

on the board and it said cheeseburger with  truffles and then they have some crispy onions  
on the board and it said cheeseburger with  truffles and then they have some crispy onions  

and i ate it and it's so delicious i highly highly  recommend that what is the meaning of life god i'm  
and i ate it and it's so delicious i highly highly  recommend that what is the meaning of life god i'm  

still trying to figure that out but what i know in  my life i want kindness i think that maya angelou  
still trying to figure that out but what i know in  my life i want kindness i think that maya angelou  

said this um and i feel very fortunate that i got  to spend a lot of time with her where she says we  
said this um and i feel very fortunate that i got  to spend a lot of time with her where she says we  

are more alike than we are different i also know  that that's true and i also believe life is is  
are more alike than we are different i also know  that that's true and i also believe life is is  

better when shared and i think that you know my  mantra is always sort of kindness always works  
better when shared and i think that you know my  mantra is always sort of kindness always works  

kindness never gets old so for me the meaning  of life is do on to others as you would have  
kindness never gets old so for me the meaning  of life is do on to others as you would have  

them do unto you that for me is the meaning  of life how does one become friends with gail  
them do unto you that for me is the meaning  of life how does one become friends with gail  

king i do not know i do not know you see me on  the street you know how you can start say hey gail  
king i do not know i do not know you see me on  the street you know how you can start say hey gail  

that's a really good start hey gail i hope in  some way this advice is useful to you again i  
that's a really good start hey gail i hope in  some way this advice is useful to you again i  

have to say i'm not an expert i have no degrees  but i have lived a little bit on this planet and  
have to say i'm not an expert i have no degrees  but i have lived a little bit on this planet and  

i do have some ideas and i love giving unsolicited  advice so thank you for watching precise advice
i do have some ideas and i love giving unsolicited  advice so thank you for watching precise advice