By the end of this video, you're going to know
By the end of this video, you're going to know

the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.
the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.

Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung

and I'm an attorney and I'm also a narcissist
and I'm an attorney and I'm also a narcissist

negotiation expert and on this channel,
negotiation expert and on this channel,

in these videos, I actually give you
in these videos, I actually give you

tips and tricks and resources on the ways
tips and tricks and resources on the ways

that you can successfully navigate
that you can successfully navigate

and negotiate with narcissists,
and negotiate with narcissists,

and what I want to do is I want to help you
and what I want to do is I want to help you

actually shift the dynamic
actually shift the dynamic

so that you can actually become more powerful
so that you can actually become more powerful

when you are dealing with narcissists.
when you are dealing with narcissists.

So I have actually dealt with them myself
So I have actually dealt with them myself

in my personal life and that's why
in my personal life and that's why

I'm on this mission. I'm on this crusade
I'm on this mission. I'm on this crusade

to help you so that you can deal
to help you so that you can deal

with them in a more powerful way too.
with them in a more powerful way too.

So whether you're dealing with them in a business
So whether you're dealing with them in a business

situation or divorce or whatever, I want to help you.
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Okay. So the signs that you've actually hurt the narcissists.
Okay. So the signs that you've actually hurt the narcissists.

I know a lot of you are thinking, “Do they even get hurt?”
I know a lot of you are thinking, “Do they even get hurt?”

Well, they do. They're actually in pain
Well, they do. They're actually in pain

all the time and they don't want you to know it.
all the time and they don't want you to know it.

They're constantly trying to cover up the fact that
They're constantly trying to cover up the fact that

they’re in pain. Their layering on this
they’re in pain. Their layering on this

false sense of confidence.
false sense of confidence.

They try to make it look like they're confident.
They try to make it look like they're confident.

They want you to believe that they're confident all the time
They want you to believe that they're confident all the time

and a lot of ways, they've kind of fooled themselves.
and a lot of ways, they've kind of fooled themselves.

They've got this tiny little scared thing going on
They've got this tiny little scared thing going on

inside of themselves and they don't want anyone to see it.
inside of themselves and they don't want anyone to see it.

And they're really, really afraid of being exposed at all times.
And they're really, really afraid of being exposed at all times.

And so how you really hurt them is by exposing them.
And so how you really hurt them is by exposing them.

And that's really when you're going to negotiate with them.
And that's really when you're going to negotiate with them.

the biggest way that you can gain leverage with them in,
the biggest way that you can gain leverage with them in,

In a lot of ways, how you build your case for
In a lot of ways, how you build your case for

negotiating with that.
negotiating with that.

You're sort of ethically manipulating the manipulator.
You're sort of ethically manipulating the manipulator.

Okay. So when you go to hurt them or you know,
Okay. So when you go to hurt them or you know,

you're not trying to hurt them really in a lot of ways,
you're not trying to hurt them really in a lot of ways,

but the signs that you have hurt them is really
but the signs that you have hurt them is really

going to be all built around that
going to be all built around that

and have you expose them in some way.
and have you expose them in some way.

Okay, so that's kind of what you're going to be looking
Okay, so that's kind of what you're going to be looking

at because they've got this narcissistic injury
at because they've got this narcissistic injury

that is within them.
that is within them.

They've got these false self that they show the world
They've got these false self that they show the world

at all times. That the real self is scared little child.
at all times. That the real self is scared little child.

And I tell people all the time, but they really are way more
And I tell people all the time, but they really are way more

afraid of you than you are of them,
afraid of you than you are of them,

and that is the truth. Okay?
and that is the truth. Okay?

I'm going to give you five signs, of course,
I'm going to give you five signs, of course,

the worst sign I'm going to save for last.
the worst sign I'm going to save for last.

So you got to stay till the end.
So you got to stay till the end.

So, they become cold and distant and
So, they become cold and distant and

they probably ghost you. The reason why they do that,
they probably ghost you. The reason why they do that,

of course, it's because they want to regain control back
of course, it's because they want to regain control back

over you again.
over you again.

So, you've hurt them in some way. They want to get
So, you've hurt them in some way. They want to get

control back over you again,
control back over you again,

so, they may ghost you, they may become cold
so, they may ghost you, they may become cold

and distant. They’re looking to get control back over you again.
and distant. They’re looking to get control back over you again.

They want you to go, “Oh, come on,
They want you to go, “Oh, come on,

come back, come back,”
come back, come back,”

you know, so they may withdraw from you.
you know, so they may withdraw from you.

They may become cold and distant. They're looking to
They may become cold and distant. They're looking to

manipulate you back into the fold.
manipulate you back into the fold.

So they may become cold and distant.
So they may become cold and distant.

That's number one.
That's number one.

So you may see them, you know, start
So you may see them, you know, start

pushing off their bad behavior
pushing off their bad behavior

on someone else. Now lying, denying.
on someone else. Now lying, denying.

That's their MO. You always see them,
That's their MO. You always see them,

you know, projecting and deflecting, lying and denying.
you know, projecting and deflecting, lying and denying.

That's what I always say, you know, it's never their fault.
That's what I always say, you know, it's never their fault.

So you might start seeing them do some of that because if you
So you might start seeing them do some of that because if you

start to expose them in some way,
start to expose them in some way,

you start to actually hurt them in some way
you start to actually hurt them in some way

and you start to kind of get at them.
and you start to kind of get at them.

They're almost like caged animals in some way.
They're almost like caged animals in some way.

You can kind of got them, you see, to corner them.
You can kind of got them, you see, to corner them.

They're going to start to fight back a little bit.
They're going to start to fight back a little bit.

So that's a good sign that you hurt them in some way.
So that's a good sign that you hurt them in some way.

You know, you're starting to get them when you start to see them
You know, you're starting to get them when you start to see them

fight back like that. Okay, and number three
fight back like that. Okay, and number three

is kind of similar,
is kind of similar,

you know, instead of putting the blame on other people or
you know, instead of putting the blame on other people or

making excuses for their bad behavior,
making excuses for their bad behavior,

Now, they're going to start going after you.
Now, they're going to start going after you.

When you start to see them, kind of become unglued like that,
When you start to see them, kind of become unglued like that,

and now they're starting to put the blame on you,
and now they're starting to put the blame on you,

you know, that you're starting to hurt them in some way,
you know, that you're starting to hurt them in some way,

you know that they're getting hurt in some way.
you know that they're getting hurt in some way.

And so now they're putting the blame on you
And so now they're putting the blame on you

because what's happened is they've been conditioning you
because what's happened is they've been conditioning you

honestly since the very first moment
honestly since the very first moment

that you've been in a relationship with them,
that you've been in a relationship with them,

whether it's a business relationship or
whether it's a business relationship or

a personal relationship.
a personal relationship.

Believe me. I know because I was in a business relationship
Believe me. I know because I was in a business relationship

with a narcissist and I had it too
with a narcissist and I had it too

and they put you in these situations where they do condition you
and they put you in these situations where they do condition you

and so you have to stop the retreat.
and so you have to stop the retreat.

If you're going to start to shift that dynamic,
If you're going to start to shift that dynamic,

they're not going to like it, so they're going to start to have
they're not going to like it, so they're going to start to have

a little bit of a tantrum at least early o.,
a little bit of a tantrum at least early o.,

Maybe a lot of a tantrum at least early on.
Maybe a lot of a tantrum at least early on.

Okay, so that's number three. When they start to
Okay, so that's number three. When they start to

have that narcissistic iinjury gets inflicted,
have that narcissistic iinjury gets inflicted,

you know, you might start to see that narcissistic rage
you know, you might start to see that narcissistic rage

come flying out.
come flying out.

When you start to see that rage come flying out,
When you start to see that rage come flying out,

you gotta stand your ground.
you gotta stand your ground.

That's when you really start to want to go
That's when you really start to want to go

“Oh God. No, I'm not going to do this,”
“Oh God. No, I'm not going to do this,”

but you got to stand your ground,
but you got to stand your ground,

and so I want you to put in the comments right now,
and so I want you to put in the comments right now,

that in the comments right now because I want you to
that in the comments right now because I want you to

remember to do that. “I Will Stand My Ground.”
remember to do that. “I Will Stand My Ground.”

They know how to trigger you.
They know how to trigger you.

They know how to get at you.
They know how to get at you.

So they're going to start to say things like
So they're going to start to say things like

“You are unsupportive.”
“You are unsupportive.”

They want to make you feel guilty.
They want to make you feel guilty.

They know how to get under your skin,
They know how to get under your skin,

a lot of times. So they may start trying to manipulate
a lot of times. So they may start trying to manipulate

you back into the fold.
you back into the fold.

They may start to devalue you, criticize you.
They may start to devalue you, criticize you.

They're starting to become unglued.
They're starting to become unglued.

So this is number four and you can check out my video
So this is number four and you can check out my video

They're becoming unglued, they're starting to collapse
They're becoming unglued, they're starting to collapse

and that may be what happens when you really start
and that may be what happens when you really start

to hurt that narcissist.
to hurt that narcissist.

Okay, so that's number four.
Okay, so that's number four.

when the discard phase is in full form.
when the discard phase is in full form.

What happens with narcissist is you're either for them
What happens with narcissist is you're either for them

or against them and if you are against them,
or against them and if you are against them,

then you become Public Enemy Number One
then you become Public Enemy Number One

and then you know, they will try to isolate you
and then you know, they will try to isolate you

from your friends and family.
from your friends and family.

They may discard you completely without any explanation
They may discard you completely without any explanation

or if they don't want you to discard them,
or if they don't want you to discard them,

then they start maybe stalking you or you know,
then they start maybe stalking you or you know,

they go into full-on meltdown mode
they go into full-on meltdown mode

or they still trying to get you while they move on to
or they still trying to get you while they move on to

some other form of supply.
some other form of supply.

Maybe it's smear campaign, flying monkeys,
Maybe it's smear campaign, flying monkeys,

new form of supply. There in desperation mode
new form of supply. There in desperation mode

at that point, trying to take you down,
at that point, trying to take you down,

Full-on war. I mean, it's all sorts of things.
Full-on war. I mean, it's all sorts of things.

But this is where you really got to stand your ground,
But this is where you really got to stand your ground,

because at the end of the day, they will move on
because at the end of the day, they will move on

to a different form of supply
to a different form of supply

because that is what they have to do.
because that is what they have to do.

That's how they survive, and there would be some form of supply
That's how they survive, and there would be some form of supply

other than you eventually. Believe me.
other than you eventually. Believe me.

I know. I've seen it, thousands of times.
I know. I've seen it, thousands of times.

So those are the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.
So those are the five signs that you have hurt the narcissist.

If you agree with me or disagree with me,
If you agree with me or disagree with me,

I would love to see your comments and believe me,
I would love to see your comments and believe me,

you will stand your ground and you have written
you will stand your ground and you have written

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that already in the comments, I know

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