why are you so shy come on speak up a little be more confident that's what
people used to say to me when I began my journey and I heard that from teachers
girls you name it left right and center and tell you insider it wasn't until I
discovered these three things I'm gonna share with you today specially the final one
things began to change people began to treat me seriously I was able to
increase my wealth my relationship and so forth as a result and that's why I'm
so excited to share view these three points so make sure to pay close
attention
without further ado let's go into the first thing which is stop making your
statements sound like a question you gotta
share what you believe in with absolute conviction the only way that happens is
this by you not going like this would your tonality such as is that making
sense instead you go down is that making sense more certainty compare this this
is a great pen this is great pen notice the difference
so you'll notice insider just by tonality going up or down it makes a
huge difference in regards to how something is perceived now this is where
I struggled a lot with because my background I suffer from social anxiety
for many years severe social anxiety whilst homebound pretty much every single day
I was just locking myself in my room as a result I was always looking to people
please I was always looking for validation from other people as a result
when somebody asked me my opinion my tonality always used to go up because
subconsciously if you're somebody who can resonate with being shy we seek
validation and that's what we were scared we're scared of going down we'd
rather go up and that way we are less likely to tread on other people's toes
and talk about treading on other people's toes that goes perfectly onto the
second point realize this insider even if you're the most perfect speaker on
this planet with a perfect tonality cadence you name it all of the BS stuff
that you may have come across which some of it I don't agree with even if you're
the most perfect speaker realize that the best speakers that have changed
history or best entrepreneurs that I've created billion-dollar companies they're
not essentially the best speakers in the world and yet they're able to create
huge amount of success why because they drop low the truth bombs they know what
they believe in and they're willing to stand up for it when you find the thing
insider that you're willing to stand in front of a bus for to defend it and
you're able to speak with that amount of conviction people naturally believe in
you people think wow this person's confident why because confident people
one of the things I learned from studying a lot of confident people
because I used to be very shine confident people believe in their
message so much believed in themselves so much they are not people pleasing
they're not looking to please others they speak up for what they believe in
look at all of influencers insider you follow online which you agreed
they drop low the truth bombs would you agree this is why you like them because
they've given up the need to be liked give it up because realize this you
think people care about you but in reality people really don't they're too
busy worrying what you are thinking of them everybody features in the movie
called my life walking around thinking the cameras all on us lights on on us but
realize your next-door neighbor everybody around you they're all
thinking actually the cameras all on me so everybody walks around in the movie
called my life you're the main act in your movie I realize the person next you
they're the main actor nobody cares about you to speak up for
what you believe in naturally that makes you appear really confident naturally
that is the one thing that makes you a great speaker so be sure to own that
the third is use the power of pause I talk about this a lot pausing but today
I'll get a little bit deeper in regards to why you should pause realize that we've
got an awkward meter in our mind depending on how self-conscious shy you
are you're awkward meter is going to be maybe milliseconds before you feel the
need to fill in the blank um like you know what I mean by filling the blank
these random words you just kind of chuck out there because you don't like
pauses firstly if you look at any president's talking what do they all do
they pause why well there are two reasons the first reason it allows the
audience to think about what you've just said second reason it allows you to
think about what you've just said as well and what you're gonna follow up
with if you're gonna just speak like this
hey insiders how you doing today I'm gonna be sharing the three things you got
to know in order for you to become a confident speaker and then gonna feel at
the end of it you're gonna be like it's absolutely amazing you'll be like oh my god
Tim I'll come at you I come at you We'll connect all of the thoughts cuz you're
speaking so fast you're like I'm what what can I just seem in here but the moment I
pause you now think if you're somebody who self-conscious right now something
like me okay because by the way I'm quite
self-conscious believe it or not I'm still shy to this day I just manage it
quite well you want to begin to stretch this muscle where you are extending this
pause time I jump onto a stage nowadays people give me a massive round pause
right when I go on and then I stand right at the front of the stage and I
just look at them I don't even say a word just look at them with a big smile
and I'll look at each one in the eyes and ten seconds it shows absolute certainty
before I even begun to say anything use the power of pause get rid of filler
words if you've got the tendency to use filler words like um like that is a very
bad low status behavior that people will perceive you as shy if you were to keep
on doing that so make sure you pause instead is that making sense by the way
was this pretty awesome but I hope you found this video helpful insider if you
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