how not to get nervous when speaking do you do you ever get nervous whenever you try to speak
up or maybe you are nervous every time you get into front of a room or on stage do you ever feel
nervous even before you get on stage and they're about to announce you or invite you on stage your
palms are sweaty your pupils are dilated and your your heart's beating really fast do you ever have
that experience all right today in this video i'm going to share with you some very uncommon advice
on how to not get nervous anytime you want to get up to speak this is all about speaking up
without freaking out my name is dr grace lee and i am here standing out in cole harbor in vancouver
it's a really nice day out and by the way if you play a musical instrument right i want you
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week so if you want to not get nervous in front of in front of an audience here's my uncommon advice
right but first of all before i share it i want you to let i want to let you know that i wasn't
always confident when i speak i wasn't always able to have my words flow to be able to speak in
front of anyone to be able to speak in front of a live audience i wasn't it wasn't always like this
what you're seeing right now in my youtube videos if you have been watching me for a while or if
you've watched a few of my channels and my videos on speaking and articulation it wasn't always like
this what you're seeing is the sizzle reel right if you knew me 10 years ago 15 years ago i was so
nervous right any time that i would be speaking in front of one person even if i just met that
person or i've known them for a while anytime i would speak my face would turn red right
i don't wear a lot of makeup in fact i'm not used to wearing makeup and my face would turn beet red
from forehead all the way to the chin even if i wasn't even if i wasn't speaking i was about to
speak i knew it was going to be my turn to speak i knew i was going to get called out i would already
be nervous right so that was me and i remember that when i i knew it was going to be my turn
right like two turns from now two people from now i knew it was going to be my turn to speak
in that waiting in that anticipation my heart would already be beating really fast my palms
would already be sweating and i would already have all of these thoughts inside my head how it's
going to fail how i don't know if i'm going to say it right i don't know if i'm going to remember
what i'm going to say i don't know if someone's going to ask me a question and i won't know the
answer to that question and it was overwhelming and one of the biggest struggles that i had in my
nervousness was because i was so nervous i wasn't likely to volunteer to speak right i really wasn't
going to be the person who would want to do a presentation and i really hesitated to accept
those opportunities or to really bring them the attention to me and it also made it very difficult
for me to sell myself or to me for me to share my ideas or for me to even have clarity of thought
to articulate my ideas and that's that's where i was coming from right and so my nervousness
really prevented a lot of opportunities coming to my career path it wasn't until i
implemented this advice that i'm going to share with you right now where things have changed for
me so here's my uncommon advice even though i started working in on my speaking right i
hired a coach and i started to give seminars in front of a live audience and i was really nervous
but i was the girl who if i was on the side of the stage and the mc was going to introduce me
i wasn't even on stage yet the spotlights weren't even on me yet and i was already so nervous
that my knees would be shaking actually felt my knees shake and then i would get up on stage i
would deliver my content because i had rehearsed it many times and even while i was delivering it
i could feel my voice shaking because i was nervous you know and i and and every time i
tried to make gestures like this i could feel the vibrations on my wrists and my fingers
because i was so nervous that it was shaking but here's what happened even though i was nervous
every single time when i did that presentation the audience would come up to me to ask questions and
they would tell me that they learned a lot they would tell me that they want to be confident just
like me i remember hearing that comment and i was thinking confident i didn't feel confident at all
and the thing is i didn't feel confident but yet they perceived me as somebody who was confident
so here's my uncommon advice to you in order for you to not get nervous right to be able to get to
the point where like now when i go on a stage in front of a thousand people or even 10 000 people
i'm not nervous at all i am actually excited to get on that stage right it's come to the point
where i don't feel nervous at all i don't have the voice shaking anymore the knees shaking or
the palm sweat i don't get those symptoms anymore but in order for you to get there it's not about
making the nervousness stop it's about coming to the first step is about coming to the point where
you don't sound nervous right and then when you don't sound nervous what you're going to do is
you're going to have people like that come to you and tell you that they really enjoyed your
car your your presentation they really enjoyed your speaking your speech and they want to be
like you and they pers the perception they have of you is that you're confident even though you
don't feel confident you appear confident so that's the first step and the way to do that
is to work on your local modulations right and that's the uncommon advice i have for you
is to exercise and to really pay attention to your voice
how you exercise your voice those are so there's two things about your voice that you want to pay
attention to there's tone and there's intonation two things what's the difference the first one is
tone tone is how what conveys the emotion in your voice right for example if i say hello hello hello
you notice how those three ways i said just the simple word hello conveys a different emotion
right you can sound angry you can sound frustrated you can sound happy depending on the tone of your
voice so tones convey emotion that's the first thing that you want to pay attention to and to
really master the tone and make it match the emotion that you're conveying if you're telling
a story in your communication and your story is sad you want your tone to reflect that if you're
telling a story and there's an adventurous side of it you want to have your tone reflect that so
that's the first part is tone the second part is intonation right so intonation is the natural rise
and fall of your tone of your voice when you speak a sentence if you listen to the last sentence that
i spoke you'll notice that my voice naturally goes up and down up and down with the rise and
fall of my voice which is natural in any given sentence that i speak and that's your intonation
intonation is key because it makes you sound human that is where you're not sounding monotonous you
don't sound like a robot like this you actually sound like a you sound like a human being because
of the intonations you sound like a human being and that is where the connection happens
so those are the two things so then it gets to how do you work on that right and the key to being
able to control your voice even when you actually feel nervous that is the first step towards
achieving no more nervousness right before you can get to that point you have to get to the
point where your audience won't perceive you as being nervous so the way to do that is to practice
the musculature in your throat on your tongue in your palate and especially in your mouth here
because intonations the proper intonations the proper tones are control is a vocal
control and that's all like voluntary muscle so here's what i'm going to show you to practice
the musculature in your voice what you want the first thing that you want to practice and the most
important thing you want to practice is something called your own brochure so what's an embouchure
the ombrochor is the positioning of your lips and your tongue and basically your whole mouth
and even your pharynx which is at the back of your throat and it happens your embouchure happens for
example when you're playing a musical instrument right so if i weren't now this is kind of nerdy a
part in this like i used to play clarinet in high school this was my clarinet so it's been more than
a couple of decades since i played clarinet regularly and i'm not going to play a tune
for you today but i'm going to show you what embouchure means if i were to play a cl a clarinet
or any musical instrument a winded musical instrument what i do is i put it to my mouth
and you can see the way that i hold it the thing about being able to play a sound on the clarinet
so if i were to play a sound on the clarinet i am not supposed to clap clamp down on it
with my teeth right so if i clamp down with my teeth it's not going to produce that sound so
the strength comes from your embouchure which is the muscles here the muscles here and the
muscle and your tongue right so you're clamping down at it with the muscles around your lips
most of the time we don't exercise those muscles and when they're weak that's when we lose control
over them and that's where the shaking of the voice that you hear when you're nervous is the
most prominent because we don't have control over the muscle so if you want to achieve this what you
do is if you don't own a musical instrument that's okay just you can practice with your
finger or pack it with something a spoon a fork put it here and hold it right it looks like this
and you're squeezing the muscles here
and so over time when you squeeze it and you're holding this you're holding that
thing in your mouth only with your lips you're not clamping down with your jaw
you're not using your jaw muscle because your jaw muscle is going to be stronger so you're not using
your jaw muscle you're only using the embouchure right that's where you practice that vocal control
and the tongue as well so when you have that control that's when you can truly have the
mastery over your intonation your tone and that's where the confidence can be portrayed
first you portray the confidence you exude the confidence by how you sound by mastering
the muscles of your mouth your audience will perceive you as having confidence your audience
will be able to understand what you have to say because they perceive you as someone of authority
someone who has the confidence and then over time with that feedback over the truth of what you've
experienced over the truth of what you've done your your confidence is going to build naturally
and over time the nervousness will be no more so this is the first step so that is my uncommon
advice if how not to be nervous the first step is to exude that confidence by the way if you
want help to achieve results where you speak with true confidence where you have clarity and
articulating your thoughts where you are able to do a presentation or to have a conversation
with one on either one-on-one or one-to-many and your audience is hanging on your every word
and as a result of what you said that you are able to persuade them to say yes to adopt your ideas to
adopt your recommendation if those are the results that you want to produce so that you can open up
opportunities in your professional future then i invite you to work with me you want to accelerate
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