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Have you ever met someone who is very sure of themselves?
These are people who exude a certain degree
of comfort or assuredness,
who have the ability to instill a sense of security
and comfort in others.
But, what's their secret?
Well, it just may be their self-confidence.
The word confidence comes from the Latin root, confidere,
which means to have full trust in.
These people have trust in themselves
and in their abilities.
Confidence can inspire change in action and others.
It provides an element of clarity
in the most unclear situations.
So, how do you become more confident?
Here are six daily habits that confident people have.
Number one.
Keep your promises.
Broken promises can cause a lot of painful emotions.
But broken promises made with yourself
can be the most harmful.
Perhaps you promised yourself to be healthier,
but put off working out or avoid eating well.
You might say, "Hm, I'll just do it tomorrow,"
but tomorrow can carry forward a day, a week,
or even a year.
Failing to meet personal commitments
can lessen the value of your words
and diminish your self-worth.
You are subconsciously sending yourself a powerful message
that you are no longer a priority.
So, it's important to learn to hold yourself accountable
for what you say.
When that happens, you can start rebuilding your self-esteem
and self-confidence.
Number two.
Say and do what you mean.
Do you say and do what you mean and mean what you say?
Confident people act and speak with integrity.
Their words match their actions and vice versa.
They have clear morals and priorities,
and understand when to compromise and when to say no.
A study from the University of California, San Francisco
found that the more difficulty you have in saying no,
the more likely you are to develop burnout or depression.
So, to act based on your values
and not what you believe others might think of you
is a step to becoming more confident.
Number three.
Stop running away from your fears.
Are you always anxious?
One of the most useful habits
confident people have developed
is their ability to overcome their fears.
While fear is an essential part of life
and can be useful to ensure survival,
too much of it produces anxiety.
Confident people have learned that fear can be a tool
to push you to acts of greatness or change.
Accepting your fears can trick your brain
out of the fight or flight system,
and give you control over your fear.
When you learn to embrace your fears and move past them,
you are on the road to becoming more confident.
Number four.
Don't compare yourself to others.
Do you spend hours on end
scrolling through your social media,
comparing yourself to others online?
President Theodore Roosevelt once said,
"Comparison is the thief of joy."
When you constantly look at other people and their success,
you end up focusing on your own imperfections and flaws.
You don't allow yourself
to see the vastness of your potential
and all the good qualities you hold.
This habit can easily de-motivate you
and harm your self-esteem and self-confidence.
Number five.
Assertively, state your case.
Do you tend to put up with other's wants and needs
before your own?
If so, your self-esteem and self-worth may be suffering.
In a world filled with noise and many different opinions,
it's hard to make your voice heard.
As a result, it's easy to fall into the trap of thinking
that you have to please everyone.
Confident people know and honor this.
It's why they make it a habit
to speak with conviction and assertion
because they understand
that their ideas will not be noticed otherwise.
Learn how to communicate your ideas and needs
respectfully and honestly, and people will listen.
And number six, don't be afraid to be wrong.
Are you afraid to be proven wrong?
Do you tend to argue with others until they concede?
Confident people are confident in their abilities
as well as their faults.
They understand that they cannot achieve
or know everything, and they're comfortable with that.
Instead of seeing failure as a personal snub,
they see it as an opportunity for growth.
So to be able to admit that you're wrong sometimes,
and to use it as an opportunity to learn
is a step towards building confidence.
Do you follow any of the habits we've mentioned?
Let us know in the comments below.
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