hi there i'm adrienne everhart your
feminine energy dating and relationship
coach now do you feel like you're being
masculine or behaving in a masculine way
that is just putting off the wrong
energy or vibe with men maybe it's
intimidating men so i'm gonna share
three masculine energy traits that you
may have as a woman and really not even
be aware that you have but they might be
intimidating or causing you some
relationship problems of course i teach
you how to get grounded in your feminine
energy and if you want to learn more
about this please be sure to subscribe
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website everhartcoaching.com so the
first one is you tell a man what to do
now it never fails i get in the car with
my husband and i immediately go into
managing him i know the best route to
get where we need to go i know the
fastest way to get there and i really
want to manage him on where to go and
this is really a masculine energy trait
you're behaving like a manager you're
telling a grown adult man where to go
and what to do now if he asks you what's
the best route or how should he get
there that's totally okay to share and
help him but i'm talking about taking
the next two three days and i really
want you to examine your life and notice
when you get this instinct when you get
this urge to tell or manage your man on
how to do something you're giving him
some sort of instructions now this
doesn't mean that you can't have healthy
boundaries with your partner and for
example express the way that you prefer
to go for some emotional or physical
need or for example if your man is
driving too quickly or whatever it may
be remember boundaries are about your
personal and mental physical well-being
they're not necessarily preferences i
prefer you take this route the question
you want to ask yourself is does this
really matter does what i'm instructing
my partner on really matter and this
will really help you loosen that
masculine energy control and get back
into your natural feminine receiving
energy number two is you do all the
problem solving in the relationship in
fact i was so good at this that i could
see the problem coming before it had
even happened and already be planning
what we should do so when you're in your
feminine energy you allow that man space
to problem solve as a man remember
problem solving isn't something you as
the woman want to have domain over you
really want your man to be activated in
his masculine energy and feel like he
has the tools to solve problems and also
he has that space he can get that energy
going to really get problems solved you
don't want to be the one in charge doing
everything because trust me i already
know you have enough to do just as a
woman so instead of robbing your man of
that time and space to problem solve and
figure something out for himself i want
you to step back and count to 30 if you
can and see if your man can't begin a
dialogue where he really starts to flex
his masculine energy muscle and he
starts to solve some of the problems in
the relationship or whatever is going on
now again this doesn't mean you can't
help solve a problem in fact that's the
wonderful thing about feminine energy is
that you have a great capability to
problem solve i want to be really honest
you can probably solve a problem better
than your man it's just that you don't
want to get in the way of this energy
dynamic the polarity staying balanced in
the relationship so instead of doing it
all and solving all the problems i want
you to consider leaning back giving him
a little time to solve the problem and
if he doesn't come up with a solution
that feels comfortable good or right for
you i want you to have that boundary and
you can say do you want to know what i
think you want to give your man that
opportunity to problem solve and you
want to have the boundary and be able to
ask do you want to know what i think or
do you want to know what i would do and
allow him to say yeah what would you do
how would you handle this and if
anything is overstepping a boundary you
always can let a person know i do not
feel comfortable doing this this way i
need to do it this way again a boundary
is about your physical and mental health
and safety i want to add this story to
number two you know it never fails i
open up the dishwasher and i see all the
dishes have been loaded the wrong way
and my husband loaded the dishwasher the
best he could and i have to honor and
respect that his way of doing things is
not the wrong way sure there might need
some cereal bowls that need to be
rewashed or some things that got in the
way or something that fell down in the
bin and i can share this with him that
it happened but i want you to step back
from criticizing your partner taking on
that masculine energy role of managing
them and telling them what to do and how
to do it because you're the manager and
you're in charge no you're not you're
the feminine energy woman in this
relationship let your man load the
dishwasher the way he wants to again ask
yourself does it really matter is it
really hurting something or harming
something if it's not harming anything
give your guy time and space to do
things his way you will always be
surprised at how well a man can handle
things my third and final question to
you to see if you have this masculine
energy trait is do you take up all the
space in the room to be the one who
makes the jokes the smart one who knows
all the facts who knows all the answers
do you take up all the space in that
room and not leave space for your
partner because sometimes when we're in
our masculine energy as a woman we
actually feel like we need to win our
partner over we need to show them how
smart we are how good we are at
something how much we know about a topic
how well-networked we are and the truth
is he's there to show you this he's on
audition for you you're not proving to
him how great you are that's what a job
interview is for and that's when you
would be in your masculine energy but
you're a woman in a relationship with a
man which means he needs to prove to you
and show to you what he is capable of
doing or not doing not the other way
around i talk about this more in my
ebook 500 ways to talk to a man where in
a relationship with a man you really
want to keep this energy balance
happening and yeah sometimes it means
allowing him to tell the joke get the
biggest laugh and impress you with
something this isn't necessarily about
mansplaining and enduring man's flaming
so his ego doesn't get bruised it's
about giving a man space to be a man
this is what men want to do they want to
make women smile they want to make women
happy and feel good and they're doing it
the best way they know how just because
you could have done it may be better or
you already knew that joke doesn't mean
that this man doesn't care about you he
cares about your happiness he's doing
the best he can now another reason you
want to lean back and let a man show you
what he can and cannot do as far as
jokes knowledge fixing things solving
things whatever it may be is that you're
about to choose the captain of your ship
you do not want to choose an inept
captain you want a man who does know how
to do these things keep in mind women we
are naturally critical we're naturally
finding things wrong with things but at
the end of the day do we really want to
do all of this stuff ourselves heck no
we want a guy who can take care of the
things masculine energy is capable of
taking care of but just understand that
that critical eye we have which helps us
and our children survive that critical
eye doesn't always serve us in the
relationship with the man in fact it can
really rob a man of those feel good
vibes he needs to keep his energy strong
and growing and what makes him want to
pursue you claim you and snuggle up
tight in his arms with you every night
he wants to feel good about this
relationship he has with his woman and
as long as you're stuck in masculine
traits telling him how to fix things
solving things doing things criticizing
him and taking up all the space in the
room he's gonna feel less like a man and
you're gonna have all of that power that
comes from that masculine energy again
this is not about being a doormat it's
about balancing the energies the
masculine doing action making things
happen and feminine receiving warmth
kindness love joy now if you want to
learn more about feminine energy i want
you to head over to my website i have a
best-selling ebook 500 ways to talk to a
man this ebook has helped so many women
learn how to drop down into their
feminine energy find what they're
feeling and get the words they need to
say so their man really hears them he's
not just processing it and taking it in
and doing whatever he wants to do he
really hears how you feel and he can
connect with that and do things that
inspire love to grow instead of you two
being in a masculine to masculine energy
power struggle so go check out my book
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much love bye-bye