you're listening to this podcast is for
women episode number 57 how to pull a
man closer with your every word and
action using feminine energy
if you are new to my podcast my name is
Adrian Everhart I am a feminine energy
expert in dating and relationship and
helping women attract call forth and
keep a loving stable healthy
relationship all by balancing their
natural feminine energy with your
natural masculine energy
if you think of masculine and feminine
energy it is an energy we all have
inside of us even men women even a
person who is gender neutral they can be
neutral and also have masculine traits
and feminine traits but primarily we
function from one of these energies more
than the other
if you are listening to this podcast
there's a good chance you are a powerful
Dynamite woman and when you are a
powerful Dynamite woman you are strong
and masculine energy and there ain't
nothing wrong with that
I want you to be powerful and dynamite
and get things done and be a high
achiever
the problem is that we transfer this
energy into our relationship with a man
and it can come off in really subtle
ways it can come off in hardcore serious
you can spot it from 10 mile away waves
and I'm gonna just help you steer
yourself your energy into a new
Direction with your man so that he gets
in alignment with his masculine energy
which is not only just sexy hot and
alluring but it also gets stuff done and
you can stop over functioning you can
get more love cuddles attention text
have a steadier more even flowing
relaxed relationship when you're not
micromanaging or even just moderately
managing your guy from a place of
masculine energy you'll be in your
feminine receiving energy
worry not in today's episode I'm going
to share a lot of info that I have in my
ebook 500 ways to talk to a man I'm
going to tell you how to pull a man
closer with your every word and your
every action but for right now let's
take a quick break
now I mentioned 500 ways to talk to a
man it also has a two-day video class
you can find that on my website if
you're on my Instagram Channel which is
Adrian Everhart there's some underscores
in there with my name on Instagram
you'll see so many testimonials from
women who have used phrases in this book
to either get their dating life into a
place of receiving instead of pursuing
men to get men to call them back and
make things happen you'll see women who
are coupled partnered wives who say oh
my relationship is going so much more
smoother with my husband now that I'm
speaking to him from my feminine energy
source I'm speaking to him and I'm
taking action from this feminine energy
plays instead of I gotta make this
happen I gotta create the outcome I
gotta control him it's so so easy to do
and I could give you a lot of history
into why I believe this has happened
whether it's feminism you know boom
suddenly feminism got dropped on us and
we were all the same and everything was
equal and 50 50 and again in the
workplace I want you to have equal pay
things like this
but in the relationship this is where no
one gave us a guidebook or a handbook on
how to do this
so up until this point for how many
hundreds of thousands of years
a woman's survival has been on the
condition that a man treat her well
your great grandmother there's a very
good chance your great-grandmother did
not have access to birth control
and her well-being and her children's
well-being depended on a man being nice
that man didn't have to be nice
the laws have not always protected women
and we all know in other parts of this
world it's still going on where women do
not have the rights that men do
even today in my lifetime I will tell
you my mom and my dad I saw the court
system giving my mother a way more
difficult time during their divorce than
my father we had it way worse my mom had
us three kids my dad was living the
bachelor lifestyle it's not fair it's
not equal if he didn't pay his child
support she couldn't afford to hire an
attorney so I don't want to go off on a
tangent because I believe you have your
own story where you have experienced
inequality with the sexist so you know
it's alive and well I don't need to
convince you of this
what I want to do is create some Harmony
between that power and the illusion of
power so you have real power
and masculine energy is often about a
little bit of an illusion of power
they are not do not have power over you
you are not a doormat you have your
boundaries you have your feelings
but this is about making that
relationship work
instead of two Bros at the office one's
the alpha and one is the assistant or
one's the manager and one is the
supervisor one is the captain of the
ship someone is a worker on the ship
there can't be two captains on the ship
there can't be two supervisors there
can't be two managers especially in a
relationship powerful Dynamite women run
their relationships like it's a business
okay so maybe I've spoke to you at this
point
let's talk a little bit about pulling a
man closer with your every word in
action aligning in this feminine energy
ladies it takes a lot of practice
especially if you're a powerful dynamite
and you've been in that energy for a
long time
you get results instantly
sometimes you get a result that makes
you then move to another feminine energy
place you need to be it's kind of like a
little board game where you're just
going along the path and then something
changes and then something changes so
I'm going to give you some really juicy
feminine energy things that you can do
right now today and if you want more
check out my ebook 500 ways to talk to a
man again it comes with a two-day video
class and I also have courses on my
website including a card deck that you
can just carry in your purse or your car
or your backpack or keep it by your desk
and you need to talk to your guy pull
out a card if you're having a problem
with your guy pull out a card and you
can ask questions and do different
spreads there's nothing magical about it
it's just good feminine energy advice
that I say over and over again all the
time
so let's get started I teach failing
statements and filling statements start
off with I feel they're not I feel you I
feel you did this I feel you made me
angry that's not how feeling statements
work they're basically just I feel and
then the feeling
if you can
take away the word disappointed and hurt
when you're disappointed someone has let
you down with their actions because you
had an expectation of their actions
so even if they're like supposed to take
you out on a date at five o'clock and
they cancel and you go well I feel
disappointed you can say I feel
disappointed I won't be able to see you
I feel disappointed I don't have
anything to do tonight now
that's fine but I feel disappointed you
canceled it's a different thing because
now you're putting guilt on that man and
you know what maybe he deserves a little
bit of guilt or a little bit of shaming
but this is about practicing balancing
the relationship and not making men
responsible for how you feel
so I want you to use your feeling
statements I feel for positivity more
than to complain about how you feel
that means you're going to tell the man
what feels good oh I feel so good seeing
the lawn mode oh it feels so good to
have you touch my shoulder oh it feels
so good to be together oh I feel so
proud that you know you did this or that
and you're just using feeling statements
to talk about the positivity you feel in
your relationship instead of complaints
so I feel good when we talk calmly and
lovingly with one another it feels good
to connect
when you tell a man over and over again
how bad you feel I feel angry I feel
hurt don't you understand I feel so
terrified that you did this to me those
are all perfectly valid feeling
statements but you only need one
you only need one let's say the guy
doesn't show up when he does he doesn't
call when he says he would call how can
you say this what do you really feel
when someone doesn't call
in my ebook I drill down what I call the
emotional parfait parfait or trifle
where you have all these layers to your
feelings and the top ones are usually
anger and and unjust
they usually aren't what you're really
feeling when a guy cancels for me when
my first husband would cancel things
with us last minute I would feel so sad
I would feel devastated
and unfortunately I didn't always
communicate that to him I communicated
the anger I felt but deep down I felt
sad and quite frankly I could cry about
it right now
because when that man would promise me
something and then not deliver it I just
felt emotionally torn into two pieces I
loved him but I felt so sad as a family
commitments were not being kept
so you see how this sends an arrow right
to your heart versus brow beating a man
all right I teach you a lot more about
feeling statements
the next thing I want to stress about
feeling statements is before you tell a
man anything I want you to practice just
asking yourself why am I saying this
what am I trying to get him to do or say
and if you're saying something to try to
get him to do or say something or feel
something that's manipulation
and again ladies this is all we had
our survival was dependent on being nice
to men so we learned how to manipulate
them with our words and our emotions
this is all we had for years and years
and years so now we have to go to a
different place of being open being
vulnerable being honest and using our
feeling statements to not get a man to
do or say something not getting him to
manipulate let's go back to my husband
who would cancel plans my first husband
who would cancel plans last minute
manipulation would sound like this I
feel like you don't love me I feel like
what have I done to deserve this
I feel like you just don't want to be
part of this family so I'm saying all of
that to kind of Shame him guilt him get
him to do things my way
instead of really telling him how I feel
and now sometimes you have to have a
boundary
and a boundary means you accept is no no
I'm canceling okay
but I'm not going to be treated poorly
you cannot and you must not accept bad
behavior and you always have your
boundaries now boundaries are a whole
nother thing but again I speak about
this in my book your boundaries are
where you say
if you cancel on this vacation I'm going
to be going alone with my mother
or if you cancel this vacation I'm not
going to be taking any more vacations
with you
or you have whatever your boundary is
it's up to you what your boundary is and
boundaries are really a way of like if
this happens to me
I won't be doing this or this
and that's about your emotional
spiritual physical well-being such as if
you have more than two drinks I will not
be riding in the car home with you
tonight
you have to have your own boundaries I
could go on and on about boundaries
so let's go back to some more juicy tips
I think right here is a good place to
take a break
are you tired of feeling misunderstood
ignored or frustrated by the men in your
life do you wish you knew how to
communicate with them in a way that
makes them listen respect and adore you
if you answered yes to any of these
questions then you need to check out my
ebook 500 ways to talk to a man this
ebook is a comprehensive guide to help
you master the art of feminine
communication and get what you want from
any man in an authentic warm loving
caring way whether you're single dating
or in a relationship this ebook teaches
you how to express your feelings needs
and Desires in a way that makes him want
to please you and commit to you you'll
learn how to avoid common mistakes that
push men away how to use your voice and
body language to attract and keep
attention and how to handle conflict and
disagreements without losing his respect
and much much more plus you'll get
access to my two day video class that
teaches you a lot of body postures and
poses that you can use in a lot of
different situations so you'll never run
out of the right words to say
500 ways to talk to a man is the
ultimate resource for any woman who
wants to improve her communication
skills and create a deeper connection
with the man in her life don't miss this
opportunity to transform your love life
and get my ebook today go to
www.everheartcoaching.com
get your copy the link is below in the
description
thank you
foreign
let's move on with some more juicy tips
I don't want you to nurture your guy
it's a mistake to believe that nurturing
is a quality we do to a grown adult man
nurturing is for the elderly it's for
animals or children that do not have a
voice and it is for children who cannot
nurture themselves
do not nurture a grown adult man for
example
if he sneezes don't reach for the
kleenex box and give him a tissue
if he comes in hot for mowing the grass
don't race to give him a glass of water
don't race around the house and scramble
to cook have a hot meal instead this is
an amazing opportunity to give your man
to lead
ask him
can I get you anything is there anything
you need you ask because then he goes
yes here's your instructions
yes here's what I need you to do so you
see now he's getting to be the manager
instead of you managing him and coming
to him with what he needs in that moment
so kind of let that one marinate in your
brain a little bit about how there's
this belief you need to nurture a man to
get him to love you it's not true use it
as a little way to test and look at your
relationship and just notice where your
reaction is to go right in and help the
guy out
here's another juicy tidbit
when a man is texting you I always
prefer that he do the majority of the
texting and that you reach out only
second or third communication and you
reach out with a feeling statement
so sometimes in my work for example
especially with dating I have a course
called fem tools for dating and I advise
that you do not lead the texting and
text him first and text him to get his
attention and text him to remind him
that you're still here and that you like
him and that you had a great time
instead every second to third
communication when he is messaging you
you initiate with a feeling statement of
some sort now women will tell me Adrian
my guy is saying that I never text him
that he's doing all the work that I
haven't never reach out to him
so I've said it many times second to
third round go ahead and text him with a
feeling statement such as hi I feel so
happy the sun is shining and the birds
are chirping it feels beautiful outside
how are you today that's perfectly fine
you're reaching out with a feeling
statement is something positive and
beautiful again feeling statements are
not to be used to get a man to realize
you're still alive and how amazing and
remarkable you are feeling statements
are about being open vulnerable feeling
and feminine
here's another one you should try and
that is to look directly into your guys
eyes nod and listen when he speaks so I
don't know if you had a dad like I did
but you had to look him in the eyes
while he was talking to you and Nod and
listen and uh-huh uh-huh and not take
your eyes off of his and I really think
the eye contact is really important for
men because they want to feel important
they need to feel important to stay in
alignment with that masculine energy so
why not go ahead and give it to him give
him some solid respect and Goodwill
begets good will because I believe when
you love and respect each other you can
look at each other and have
conversations without interrupting and
take what they're saying very seriously
I believe it does with time depending on
how your guy is it will overlap with you
as well now I will tell you men aren't
the best at making eye contact while a
woman is speaking they are not the best
at it I don't know if you've ever seen
guys talk but they'll look down at the
ground they'll look at their shoes shoes
they'll you know hold something in their
hand and Fiddle with it they simply
communicate in a different way than
women do so just accept it it's okay
this is about him hearing you and eye
contact really important with your guys
to try that one out today let him feel
like the alpha now this next one I
shared in a video recently on my YouTube
channel and I want you to share some of
your food with your guy whether it's a
little bite of your burger let him eat
the rest of your French fries
save the last slice of pizza for him
it's sounding like nothing but solid
junk food but I don't know a lot of guys
that really want your last bite of salad
but you can ask or if there's something
you know delicious you're eating let him
have the first bite let him try it
or offer him some of your food I think
this is a really great way to establish
that Alpha energy and let him feel like
the man and you're feminine your
offering you're sharing you're having an
emotional experience with this person
and I do believe it is a way to be
vulnerable and let him know that he can
have some of your food
I just think this goes a long way with
Wolves it'll probably work with guys too
I always always share my food with my
husband and it makes me feel good I like
it when he feels good and he gets some
of my food I think it's just a loving
thing to do with your partner again
experiment with your guy see what works
see what feels good for you both now
this next one is about s-e-x and a lot
of my powerful Dynamite women come to me
and say I have to do all the work to
pursue my guy for sex
I'm actually okay with you letting him
know you're in the mood
and again let's go back to animals when
the female lets a guy know she's in the
mood she's in heat it's a signal
and that's all I'm going to say about
that because if you've seen animals any
type of animal go at it you know
sometimes there's a little bit of play
involved a little bit of surrender
involved but the woman absolutely excuse
me the female absolutely signals her
partner that she's in the mood that
she's wanting this she also chooses her
partner don't forget that but let your
guy know you're in the mood you can say
something like I'm feeling sexy or I'm
feeling snuggly or I'm feeling empty
inside without you or I have an empty
spot for you to fill
try that one with your guy see what
happens
a good one that is a little x-rated but
if you don't mind talking dirty to your
guy you can let him know for example
especially if he's finishing a big chore
or about to take on a big chore or just
if you want to have fun with this one
he's treating you nice
you can say I might let you me
later or I might let you me today
or use whatever language you want to but
saying the I might
it's tantalizing for a guy it's a maybe
and that's going to be in his head all
day long now in 500 ways to talk to a
man I have a whole section on sexy
scripts so make sure your kids don't get
a hold of it and they will learn some
new words
but definitely check that one out
I'm gonna pause for a second so you can
hear from my sponsors
now this last two points I want to talk
about
are to me some of the most important
things that you can say with a man to
pull him closer
this first one really easy end as many
sentences as you can with what you think
what do you think this gets him back
into that masculine energy where he has
to think and problem solve because we
already know you can do it you can
problem solve you can think you can
probably do it better than him but you
are also exhausted and you don't want to
have to manage everything your partner
does or says you want him to be in
charge you can always negotiate have
boundaries and talk about whatever he
thinks but definitely ask what do you
think
try and end a lot of your sentences with
that
now this next one very important
you cannot and you must not convince
someone to love you
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misunderstood ignored or frustrated by
the men in your life do you wish you
knew how to communicate with them in a
way that makes them listen respect and
adore you if you answered yes to any of
these questions then you need to check
out my ebook 500 ways to talk to a man
this ebook is a comprehensive guide to
help you master the art of feminine
communication and get what you want from
any man in an authentic warm loving
caring way whether you're single dating
or in a relationship this ebook teaches
you how to express your feelings needs
and Desires in a way that makes him want
to please you and commit to you you'll
learn how to avoid common mistakes that
push men away how to use your voice and
body language to attract and keep
attention and how to handle conflict and
disagreements without losing his respect
and much much more plus you'll get
access to my two day video class that
teaches you a lot of body postures and
poses that you can use in a lot of
different situations so you'll never run
out of the right words to say
500 ways to talk to a man is the
ultimate resource for any woman who
wants to improve her communication
skills and create a deeper connection
with the man in her life don't miss this
opportunity to transform your love life
and get my ebook today go to
www.everheartcoaching.com
get your copy the link is below in the
description
in my program the ABCs to get him back I
give you the absolute best chances to
get a man back into your life but it is
not about convincing someone to love you
and I want to make this really clear
because love is not something that you
must prove you are worthy of to another
person it will not work
walking away from someone who says I
don't love you I can't be with you I
can't marry you that is the most
important thing you can do
is walking away okay you don't get me
anymore you don't love me you don't want
me you don't get me and you don't keep
texting and you don't keep hanging out
and you don't keep being there for them
they have to miss you
so often a man says yeah I don't want
marriage yeah I don't I can't love you I
can't be there for you
because he hasn't had to work for it and
masculine energy often sees value in the
things they have to work for
look I didn't make up these rules but we
all know this is how men can be
love is complex why a man chooses a
woman is complex he feels it on a gut
level that you're right for him he just
knows that he just feels it that you get
him like no other woman out there and
his life is going to be so much better
having you in it you are not here to be
abused neglected and told that you're
not worth being loved and then let's
make that guy the guy we want to be with
that's not how it works
so I want anyone listening who are you
are delusional on how love works you do
not have to convince someone to love you
this leads to and I don't use this word
often but a toxic and unhealthy
relationship
your emotional well-being your mental
well-being gets scattered and so
confused when you are working trying to
get someone to love you
so when children are growing up if a
parent rejects them they cannot possibly
believe that anything is wrong with the
parent it's just not how a child's brain
works they will blame themselves
they will blame themselves for what's
going on they can know something's wrong
they can know that it's not right that
this is happening but they ultimately
blame themselves they can't see the
parent their caregiver as the person
incapable
this gets transferred into adult
relationships
when you've been neglected by a parent
or rejected on some level your inner
girl is trying to fix or solve that and
she will spend endless years and months
trying trying trying to get someone to
love her
love should be given freely and received
and it cannot be forced it cannot be
coerced
take that beautiful wonderful energy you
have inside of you where you want to be
loved and give love and transfer that
start focusing on building that for
healthy and respectful relationship
based on mutual love and admiration and
understanding
please do not misuse the ABC's to get
him back program you do not convince
someone that you are lovable
this is the best way to pull a man
closer and with your every word in
action is to let him know that you are
high atop your pedestal and you are not
down at his feet trying and begging to
get his attention or love
I was in a similar situation with my
second husband I had to walk away from
him my husband now Jeff of course I had
to walk away from him to assert my value
I knew I was worth being a wife I was
worthy of that I had to walk away
and I tell you all about that more in
the ABCs but for this podcast episode I
really wanted to just talk about the 500
ways to talk to a man ebook and video
and it's full of more examples like this
and all sorts of situations you go
through in life where you can use your
feminine energy you can choose your
words carefully have a man hanging on
your every word ready for more because
talking to you and being with you feels
so so good to him he can't get enough of
it
all right everyone I hope this podcast
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