hey ambitious professionals it's Linda
Rainer of Linda Raynor comm career
strategist and intuitive purpose coach I
help driven professionals like you to
enhance your personal brand so that you
can pursue a career you'll truly enjoy
and in this video I really want to talk
about the idea of grounding yourself in
order to feel confident in your daily
life but more specifically in your
career and so I have a strategy and
technique that I'd like to share with
you and really get a greater
understanding and awareness for what
confidence really is and how you can use
it as a key ingredient in having a more
fulfilling and exciting career so the
whole topic of confidence really a
reason why I'm making this video is
because it came up consistently in a lot
of my client sessions in the past couple
weeks and you know but beyond talking
about resumes and interviews and talking
about job search strategy and all that
stuff the next biggest topic that I
discuss with my clients is their
confidence levels and confidence is
something that we all have struggled
with in our lives I mean there's no way
that there's nobody out there who hasn't
struggled at some level with their
self-confidence and when I say
self-confidence I specifically mean the
idea in your head that maybe I'm not
good enough maybe I'm not good enough at
my job maybe I'm not good enough for
that job maybe I'm not good enough as a
husband or a wife or as a parent you
know whatever roles you may be playing
there have been times I'm sure that
you've questioned whether you were good
enough and what happens with this is
that if there's a time that you question
yourself in that way and you don't know
how to deal with it and you don't know
how to overcome that subconscious belief
that maybe you might just not be good
enough what ends up happening is that
when there's difficult times that you
end up going through you know let's say
you lose a job or let's say you've you
know sort of hit a roadblock in your
career something's happened at work and
you're not knowing how to deal with it
all the sudden that subconscious
this kind of silent thought that existed
and was put away in the back corner of
your mind all sudden it lurks its ugly
head and it starts expressing itself and
it starts seeping into your psyche and
into how you feel and it starts eating
away at your self-esteem that's the
danger of having these subconscious
beliefs that maybe we're not good enough
or you know and that's really where
self-confidence issues comes from so in
order to get rid of this subconscious
belief in order to really get to the
root of the problem and understand why
it's there and how we can overcome it
through grounding ourselves we first
should really understand where did this
belief even begin where did this truly
start from in my opinion I believe
because I was born and raised in North
America in Kansas specifically I know
that here at the school system and I
believe the school system I know the
school system system is pretty much the
same all throughout North America where
we've grown up to be taught that life is
all about competition it's all about
beating others at their game or at our
game or whatever game we're playing
it's about being on top all about me
versus you it's all about separation as
opposed to this sense of collective
unity and moving forward with growth and
progress it's really about I'm where I'm
at
compared to you and I have to I have to
compare myself to you based on just one
measure and that's really unfair because
what happens is we end up growing up
feeling as though we're always up
against someone else or that we always
have to compare ourselves to other
people and that's where the danger comes
in is that you know we go through school
comparing ourselves to everyone else
making sure that we're better than
everyone else we're trying to meet our
parents expectations or meet you know
whoever's expectations of us we're
trying to feel good about ourselves and
the only way that we feel good about
ourselves is if we beat someone else at
something
and this doesn't stop with school this
continues on as we start our careers and
as we continue on in our careers where
you and a few other people are eyeing
for the one promotion for that one next
level up and or you're looking for a new
job and it's you against five other
candidates you know it's all about
competition it's all about trying to
beat the next person out and trying to
trying to be the best and this is very
depressing this is a very depressing way
to live because that means that your
your purely valuing yourself based on
how you perform against someone else and
that other person could be at the same
level as you are they could be worse off
than you are or they could be better
than you are and then all of a sudden
because you're not good enough in the
world dies you don't feel good about
yourself and you dwindle downwards into
this ball of darkness I mean it doesn't
have to be that dramatic but trust me
I've seen people not feeling great and
it was all because they just don't have
that self belief and so when it comes to
not having that confidence what we
really have to realize is that
confidence does not come from you
comparing yourself to someone else
confidence does not come from you
actually truly beating someone else and
being better that's that's fake
confidence I'll tell you that it's not
lasting confidence lasting genuine
confidence only and will always come
from within and will only always come
from within your heart because if it's
coming from the ego where you feel oh
I'm making more money than that person
or oh I had a better performance review
than that other person and you're you're
riding high on just that type of
confidence that's actually just ego
that's all ego and guess what happens if
one day all of a sudden your salary
plummets or you lose that job or you or
you know your performance rating
is worse than what the the colleague
that you sit next to what happens it's
like a complete balloon has burst and
you just fall apart year in peaces you
feel like you're not worth anything
because your results don't show for it
and that's not the right way to truly
live honestly it isn't because to live
that way means that you're constantly
facing yourself on external expectations
and you're on this constant volatile
rollercoaster that will never end till
the day you die versus tapping into your
own inner self tapping into who you
truly are and getting centered and
grounded from that space which I'll
explain and knowing that no matter what
situation you're in no matter where
you're at no matter who you're with that
you can feel comfortable in your own
skin and that you can feel confident in
who you are and what you're capable of
there's a difference to living from that
peaceful centered place and living from
that competition comparison external
view place there's two different
perspectives there and when you're
living outside of yourself and when
you're comparing yourself constantly and
when you're seeing that things aren't
happening for you and you're allowing
that to dwindle you down to dwindle your
self-worth your self-esteem what ends up
happening is it blocks future
opportunities from being able to get to
you it blocks you from being able to
truly blossom in the career that you
really want to do because you're
spending all your energy in time in
cowering and lowering your energy to a
level where nothing can get to you
and so today well right now I really
just want to share with you if you're
not feeling confident in your career or
in your life or whatever you're dealing
with then it's time to take a look at
where is my perspective and I'm looking
outside myself and comparing myself to
others and thinking that I need to meet
the world's expectations of what
is an amazing is and being the best is
and trying to live by those standards or
for truly the first time since childhood
since before I've gone you know I went
to school and got this confidence edged
out of me do I want to go back and
return to this place where I'm confident
in Who I am and I Know Who I am and I
want to get to know myself a little bit
better and I want to remove those
emotional blocks and I want to get clear
and clear within my heart and I want my
heart to leave me and guide me to where
it is that I need to go you have that
choice you have that ability to decide
that and when it comes to centering
yourself and when it comes to getting
grounded the key way to doing that your
heart is the key to living a centered
life to living a connected life to
feeling truly confident and so one step
of the way to getting there to getting
to that more confident truly authentic
self that is within you one step of the
way is to meditate okay to do true deep
meditation and when I say deep
meditation what I really mean is set
aside some time every single day
preferably in the morning where you can
close your eyes and you can breathe and
you can get centered back within
yourself and what happens during this
time is if there are thoughts which
there will be thoughts that come
floating in and out and you know are
telling you things and pushing you to
stop meditating and annoying you
whatever what you're doing in that
process while you're meditating is your
training your heart will really know
your heart you're getting your heart to
train your mind to realize that hold on
you have no power over me you have a
mind you don't have the power to control
me if I say that you don't I have the
power to
say that you are secondary and that the
thoughts that come through I can simply
acknowledge that they're there but I
don't have to consume them I don't have
to drown in the thoughts you'll start to
notice a separation between the thoughts
and your heart second step of the way is
to start listening to the feelings the
guidance that you get from your heart
space during this meditative period and
during the day as well whenever you're
getting creative ideas or intuitive hits
or just feelings of I just feel like I
want to do this one thing or that I I
need to I need to research this a little
bit more I need to delve into this a
little bit more follow that follow what
your heart is telling you to do or if
it's that you know when I go into this
meeting I want to I want to connect with
this person in this specific way if
that's what your heart is telling you
then allow that to happen allow that to
transpire what we do so often is that we
can't even hear what our heart is trying
to tell us when it comes to our careers
and when it comes to our daily lives we
allow our hearts to just simply stay
silent well actually our hearts never
really stays on it but we cause them we
suffocate our hearts to the point where
it has to be silent because we're piling
on all these thoughts and mostly not the
most pleasant thoughts mostly negative
thoughts and send and filling our minds
up with all kinds of things all kinds of
beliefs that are not serving us we
rationalize our lives away so first step
is to meditate second step is to start
listening to your heart start listening
to that guidance more and then the final
third step I mean I honestly think
there's going to be a lot more steps
that I'll end up sharing with you but
one final step that I think will help to
get you in this process is to be hyper
aware every single day whether you're at
the office or you're looking for a job
you're you know going on interviews
whatever it is
be hyper aware of how you're feeling at
every single moment
meaning am i being present right now or
am i telling myself really mean things
or am i feeling good because I trust
that my heart knows what I need to do
and who I need to speak to and what I
need to say am i trusting in that
guidance and feeling good because I know
that when I need that guidance it'll
come to me or am i rationalizing my life
away every single minute of the day am i
allowing myself to be consumed with
thoughts that aren't serving me so be
hyper aware so the more awareness that
you bring to yourself in your daily life
it's really going to help you in your
career and it's also going to really
what you're going to notice over time is
it's going to guide you and it can scare
you you know your heart can scare you at
times because it'll eventually edge you
to making decisions that maybe for the
longest time you were too afraid to make
so if it's that you need to leave a job
that you're not happy with but you've
been holding on to it because you've
been rationalizing that you should keep
staying there even though you're unhappy
your heart will guide you to what the
right decision is or if it's that you
really shouldn't take a certain job
because something about it just doesn't
feel right your heart if you listen to
it will take will help you to make the
right decision or whatever I mean
honestly I'm just get throwing out some
examples but with any life decision any
anything that happens in your daily
lives your heart always knows and when
you know that it's a heart it's always
so accurate and it always knows because
it's connected to a greater source from
above us when you can really trust in
that voice because you can start to hear
it clearer and clearer every day then
you have nothing to be concerned about
your confidence never fluctuates all you
need to do in life
have a fulfilling and happy and
enjoyable career is to trust in your
heart guidance and really other people
may call the intuition it's just
trusting your intuition but it all comes
from one place and it comes from your
heart so that's what I want to share
with you this is a pretty long video
already I really hope that was helpful
well all I can say is if you want to
have a fulfilling and meaningful and
enjoyable career and life it's all about
tapping into your heart space and
listening to the guidance that it gives
you every single day every single moment
so if you enjoyed this video and you
found that helpful and you're on the
journey to trying to find the career
that you're meant to do and live your
purpose and find that next opportunity
and you need additional help feel free
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