hey ambitious professionals it's Linda
Rainer of Linda Rainer calm guiding you
to a career in life you'll truly enjoy
and in today's video I am going to share
with you six tips on how you can develop
your emotional intelligence to be seen
as leadership potential in your job in
your company so that eventually you can
land a senior management position
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as a career strategist and coach I've
had the honour of being able to help
numerous professionals land job offers
in careers with long-term growth
potential and if you're interested in
potentially working with me one on one I
can give you details about that at the
end of this video so what is emotional
intelligence emotional intelligence is
the ability to recognize and control
your emotions and behavior while being
aware of how those impact and affect
others around you at the same time you
understand the emotional state of those
others and you can use this information
to adapt your behavior to achieve the
most positive response from them so to
put it plainly and simply emotional
intelligence is your level of
self-awareness of your own thoughts
feelings and emotions while at the same
time being aware of someone else's
thoughts feelings and emotions and being
able to interact with that person or set
of persons in a way that's going to get
them to walk away from that conversation
feeling positive they're still going to
feel encouraged or motivated or inspired
by you as opposed to feeling negative so
why is emotional intelligence important
for you in your career because it's
actually been studied that those with a
high EQ known as emotional quotient are
actually more likely to be considered
and approached for senior leadership
positions in an organization now I know
that if you go onto Google and you look
up emotional intelligence at work
there's going to be a ton of information
out there that you can look through but
for the purpose of this video like I
said I'm going to go through six
specific tips that are going to help you
to get working in the right direction to
really hone in on your emotional
intelligence abilities and eventually be
seen as that leadership potential senior
management potential individual in your
organization tip number one learn more
about the inner workings of you think of
yourself as someone who wants to be a
really good car mechanic and you want to
be able to attract as many customers to
your shop as possible if you want to be
a really good karma
Kanak you need to be able to prove that
you understand the inner workings of a
car because you want to be well relied
upon and well trusted with anyone's car
you have to be able to understand how
does a car function what are its
reactions what are the issues that can
come up what can cause it to go bad or
shut down you have to really be able to
understand the inner workings of a car
well in the corporate world you are the
car and the mechanic at the same time if
you really want to be seen as someone
who's truly leadership potential someone
that can climb to the senior ranks in
your organization or any other
organization you have to understand the
inner workings of yourself you have to
be able to acknowledge your own thoughts
feelings and emotions and the way you
tend to react and be able to have that
level of self-awareness that's much
deeper than just the very surface level
understanding of yourself for leaders
are ones that do not have the ability to
understand another's emotions and you
probably have experienced interacting
with one someone that just only sees his
or her way and does not take into
account anyone elses because simply they
just don't get it you don't want to be
that kind of leader you want to be
someone who can understand yourself
which is the most important thing but
because you understand yourself you'll
be able to understand others as well so
the best and easiest way for you to get
started in terms of understanding the
inner workings of you is to start to
catch yourself in the moment and be very
vigilant about this be very attentive
when it comes to understanding the
reactions that you tend to have in any
situation so the next time something
happens at work where potentially it's
an upsetting situation catch yourself
see how you react observe how you react
are you someone who tends to react very
quickly and you've become very sharp
with your words your super direct or are
you someone that closes up and you're
afraid to offend anyone so you don't say
anything take note of it and start to
understand where you need to improve so
that you can really develop that
leadership potential within yourself tip
number two to improving your emotional
intelligence is to get a real assessment
of yourself get outside input when it
comes to understanding yourself
sometimes it's actually impossible to be
able to look at yourself entirely
objectively which is why it's important
that you start to get input from those
around you now you're not going to ask
for everyone's input on how they think
what they think about you but I would
say definitely talk to those closest to
you the ones that you can trust will be
honest with you and a really good
exercise that I've asked my clients to
do in recent years has been go to two
three four five close friends family
members colleagues who you trust and
have them for literally five minutes
straight say everything that they can
about you whatever it is and you can't
filter them out so if they're describing
you they say you tend to do this or
you're you know in tongues you do this
and they're not being critical by the
way they can't be super critical but
they do have to be honest with how they
feel take it and you know you have to
have a little bit of a tough stomach for
this because the truth is sometimes the
truth hurts and you have to be willing
to hear what they're gonna say but you
have to write it all down and then from
there start to notice the patterns
amongst the other reports that you end
up getting through this process and from
there analyze and see what are the
patterns what are what are most people
saying where can I improve on what did I
not like when I heard them say that
about me and understand why is it that
you come across that way why is it that
that happens to you or that you react
that way and from there you'll be able
to get a deeper understanding of
yourself again it's all about
understanding your inner workings which
is goes back to tip number one so if you
can do that that's really going to help
you tip number three is to journal and
track so this is a very personal
exercise but a really good way to truly
see how you are and who you are and how
you come across is by keeping a journal
keeping a diary where every day you
would write down the major events that
happened how you react
in those events how you handled them and
then leaving it at that and occasionally
you know perhaps at the end of every
week you're gonna want to go through
that week's list and you start to notice
what trends tend to come up what
situations spark you to feel a certain
way and react a certain way and do a
certain thing and start to understand
that about yourself because the more you
can understand yourself if there's
things that you want to improve you'll
be able to improve on them you'll be
able to identify them directly as
opposed to guessing and then if there
are things that you're happy with in
terms of how you are how you're reacting
and how you express yourself great pat
yourself on the back and keep on going
tip number four is to listen so as much
as we've been doing work on ourselves so
far in the first few tips
another tip that's going to help you
when it comes to interacting with others
is to not judge to just simply listen
when someone is coming to you and
telling you something a story a
situation don't dive in with your own
thoughts and judgments and
preconceptions about how they're
experiencing it instead let them tell
you without interruptions what it is
that they're going through and the more
you can do that and truly listen to
someone the more you can actually
understand where they're coming from why
they're feeling the way they're feeling
you'll be able to understand that
individual much better in a more clearer
way because you'll be able to understand
why they're saying what they're saying
what thoughts got them to lead them to
say what they're saying right now to you
and why they're in the mindset that
they're in so that when they ask you for
advice you'll be able to give authentic
genuine words of wisdom to them that is
without your own judgement without your
own opinions in it it's really going to
be truly helpful advice for them because
they're gonna hear it and they're gonna
recognize that it's not coming from your
own thoughts necessarily it's coming
from a deeper place it's coming from a
place of you understanding them tip
number five is about putting yourself in
the other person's shoes you want to be
able to exactly understand where they're
coming from why they're saying what
their
saying where those thoughts came from
and you know that I know this can be
difficult to sometimes put yourself in
the other person's shoes because you
only see your perspective but the more
that you're able to just sit back and
actually envision yourself in their
situation and seeing the world through
their eyes and you have the ability to
do this if you just practice seeing the
world through their eyes you're gonna
gain a whole level of understanding that
you didn't realize you had within you
and with that understanding again you're
gonna be able to guide them help them
move them along to get out of their
situation their struggle that they're
dealing with in a much smoother way and
you're gonna eventually as you do that
over time you're going to be seen as
someone who is truly leadership
potential because you're helping people
you're helping people move on if even if
it's something as simple as a task at
work that they're struggling with and
they're just really upset over it
whatever it is
you know you going over being able to
understand where they're from where
they're coming from and be able to tap
into that and tell them what they can do
about it based on how they're feeling
acknowledging what they're feeling
doing that is all going to lead you into
becoming a true leader so definitely try
to put yourself in the other person's
shoes and lastly tip number six is to
open yourself up I know when it comes to
work especially in a company you know
you don't really want to bring your
personal life into work you want to keep
things professional but sometimes in
order to really develop strong
relationships and bonds with people you
do have to open yourself up actually it
is necessary to open yourself up it's
not just sometimes because the more that
you can connect with others and say yes
actually I've dealt with this situation
too and this is how I handled it and
being able to get to interact with them
at that level the more that you're going
to be trusted by others the more that
they're going to see the human side of
you and that's gonna allow you to be
able to like I said it develop a strong
relationship with that person with those
around you and from there being able to
develop a reputation and credibility as
someone who has the ability to interact
with others well and of course to
influence and guide and lead others
as a potential director or c-suite
executive so there you go there are my
six tips on how you can develop
emotional intelligence in leadership so
that you can lend yourself a position in
senior management later down the line
now if you are someone who has been
working in your job you're struggling in
the sense that you're just not enjoying
the company that you're at you don't see
growth opportunity and you're really
ready to make a move into another
organization in a higher level role but
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in interviews how to really approach
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