hey ambitious professionals it's Linda
Rainer of Linda Rainer calm guiding you
to a career in life you'll truly enjoy
now if you lately because of the
situation that we're in been feeling a
bit stuck a bit empty
maybe lonely stressed-out frustrated and
anxious on a day-to-day basis then this
video is for you because I am going to
talk to you it's a bit of a more
in-depth video where I'm going to share
with you the reasons why you're likely
feeling this way and what you can start
to do and how you can start to see
yourself differently so that you can
feel better about yourself on a daily
basis this is all about boosting your
confidence and finding value in who you
are so if you're interested in this
let's get started
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as a career strategist I've had the
honour of being able to help numerous
professionals land their dream job
offers and so if this is something that
you're interested in working with me one
on one I can give you details about that
at the end of this video now like I said
earlier today's video is going to be a
slightly different video from what I
normally do where I'm just sharing my
three reasons for why I feel you're not
feeling the greatest about yourself and
how you can improve that instead I want
to share with you three reasons that I
was able to learn from a very specific
book that I've been reading over the
last several weeks and months and that
book is called a Course in Miracles now
some of you may have heard of this book
some of you may have not basically the
premise of this book is it's considered
a spiritual text you can see that it's
extremely thick it's not the Bible it's
not a religious text of any sort but it
does have some I guess spiritual and
religious connotations in it I mean I'm
just putting that out there but what I
was able to do from reading this book
and I haven't finished it by the way
I've only read several chapters is as
I've gone through I've been able to gain
some insight and some wisdom that I find
is completely applicable in everyday
life and I think this is something that
you can do as well with any book that
you decide to read any sort of
motivational uplifting spiritual or
religious book you're going to be able
to find lessons that will apply to you
and be able to use them for yourself so
that's what I want to be able to do with
you today is share with you three
reasons why I feel that you aren't
feeling great right now about yourself
that I was able to find from A Course in
Miracles and then we're going to be able
to talk about each of those reasons and
how we can overcome them so that you can
feel more confident and feel more
optimistic as the days and months go on
the first reason is a direct quote from
A Course in Miracles and it says our
sense of inadequacy weakness and
incompletion comes from the strong
investment in the SCAR city principle
that governs the whole world of
illusions now just to put it out there
the language that they write in with
this book it doesn't sound like the way
that you and I would speak but
essentially what they're saying here is
that the feeling that you have of
feeling incomplete
feeling inadequate compared to others
feeling not good enough actually stems
from a very specific belief that you
have and that belief is called the
scarcity principle
what does scarcity mean scarcity means
that there isn't enough to go around
that maybe somebody else has more and I
have less and therefore in order for me
to get more I have to take that from
someone or I have to figure out a way to
get more outside of myself so if you can
understand that ask yourself do I have
the idea of the scarcity principle as a
belief for me do you believe in the
scarcity principle do you believe that
it's a dog-eat-dog world that unless
you're aggressive unless you go after
what it is that you want but and have to
push people out of the way that you
won't become more if you believe that
and to be honest 99.9% of us do believe
that because we were raised in a society
that has taught us to be competitive
that has taught us to look at others as
potential competition as potential
enemies as individuals who might beat us
when it comes to for example looking for
a job if you feel that that does exist
for you and that's a reality for you
then that's the reason why you feel less
than because you don't feel that you are
enough as you are you feel that you have
to compete with others you have to prove
yourself you have to prove your worth in
order for you to feel good about
yourself and I'm here to tell you that
honestly that way of thinking and that
belief is something that I myself have
struggled with as well and it's still a
work in progress for me because if we
hold on to those types of beliefs what
we find is that will never feel enough
because no
matter how much we try to demonstrate to
the world that we're capable no matter
how much we try to prove to everyone
else that we can do it no matter how
much we try to show what we're capable
of to the world we ourselves will never
feel good enough because we're looking
to the world to give us that approval
and the truth is you can't you can't
look to other people to give you
approval if you decide to live your life
that way where you choose to give up
your power to other people's opinions
other people's perceptions unfortunately
you will always feel not good enough
that's the Nugget that I was able to get
from this one quote is that your sense
of incompletion your sense of inadequacy
your sense of worthlessness or feeling
not of value comes from the idea that
your value and your worth exists outside
of you and it doesn't you already have
everything that you need within you we
were born with all these amazing gifts
and talents and abilities and a unique
personality and that is what we have to
focus in on and that's what we have to
nurture and nourish within ourselves and
being in the situation that you're in
now where you're likely stuck at home
maybe you live on your own and you're
having to deal with these frustrations
and anxieties and stress on a daily
basis this is a perfect time for you to
discover beneath all of that who you
really are Who am I at the most deepest
level and what gifts and talents do I
have available to share with the world
you have to start first with realizing
your value what you can offer and then
whatever it is that you want if it is a
better job if it is a better home you're
gonna be able to get it without feeling
that you can't without feeling
inadequate you're gonna be able to get
it based on your own sense of inner
confidence that was a really long rant
for that first reason but hopefully I
made it clear and
if you can just shift this belief away
from valuing yourself compared to others
and instead valuing yourself just based
on your own inherent gifts talents and
abilities that hopefully will make a
huge difference for how you're going to
feel in the next days and weeks to come
reason number two why you've not been
feeling so great according to a Course
in Miracles it says whatever you accept
into your mind has reality for you it is
your acceptance that makes it real
this statement is so simple yet it is so
true
whatever you have accepted to believe
becomes your reality and if you don't
look at yourself and you look at
somebody else think of someone else who
lives their life where they don't feel
that they're enough they feel that it's
a dog-eat-dog world that to get anything
that you want you have to fight for it
that it's all about competition that
things don't come easily that it's all a
struggle imagine how they go about their
life feeling and believing and thinking
those things versus someone who feels
more optimistic and more connected to
themselves where they feel that they
know what their strengths are they know
what their weaknesses are and they're
willing to be reasonable about that and
then from there they're willing to trust
in their own inner guidance to take
steps to move forward and if things
don't work out they try a different way
but they don't judge themselves as
harshly as the person who I just
mentioned earlier let's talk about you
how is your life playing out right now
based on what you've accepted to become
your reality because the truth is we all
have this power within us to be able to
accept certain beliefs we have the power
to determine how we want to see the
world you can see it as a place of
opportunities you can see this
experience of living this life as almost
as though you are on a journey and
you're here to learn some lessons and
you're here to gain experiences and
you're
here to experience everything fully or
you can see this as a never-ending
dreary experience and not really
understand the deeper meaning of why
you're here so what I'm trying to say is
that what you really want to do is to
understand what it is that you are
believing what have you accepted into
your reality and how is that playing out
for you because at the end of the day it
does not matter what other people think
of you all that really matters is how
you think and feel about yourself to
help you with this
I would want you to ask yourself some
questions and that's to say am i living
the life that I deserve
am i leveraging my strengths and talents
and gifts to do what I'm meant to do am
I satisfied do I believe that this is
possible for me that I can achieve the
kind of career and the kind of life that
I really want understand what are those
beliefs that I've accepted what have I
brought in what if I take an ownership
of that I need to release my ownership
of you need to let go of those beliefs
that no longer serve you and that takes
work my friend this is a time for you to
start journaling to start understanding
diving deep into who you are so that
once you release those negative beliefs
those beliefs that aren't true and
really understand where they come from
you are going to be able to smoothly
glide into the next phase of your life
and you're going to be able to have
inspiration and gain insights into what
it is that you want to really do let's
move on to reason number three miracles
arise from a mind that is ready for them
now this is not so much a reason why
you're not feeling great as more of just
a simple statement that says that people
who are ready for miracles and whatever
you want to define as a miracle a
miracle is gaining clarity into who you
are a miracle is feeling
more grounded within yourself a miracle
is being able to access a deeper part of
you that is away from the mind chatter
and from the judgments and really being
more centered within yourself more
connected within yourself those I
consider miracles you will only
experience those miracles if you're
ready for them the reason why I brought
this statement up as the third point
that I wanted to make in this video is
because there are people out there who
will disagree with me and say that you
know for example during this time of
being in the coronavirus we should have
the right to pout we should have the
right to complain and be fearful and be
filled with anxiety and be filled with
stress you absolutely have that right
I'm not taking that right away from you
if that is how you want to conduct your
day go ahead but if that is not how you
want to fill your days and hours and
your energy if you don't want to sit in
that negativity there is another way
that's all I'm pointing to if you want
to experience miracles if you want to
experience shifts if you want to feel
better about yourself be more connected
to who you are and be able to listen and
hear that inner guidance that's within
each and every one of us if you want to
be able to access that you have the
ability to but you have to be open and
ready for it and those people that want
to fight for their right to complain and
to be unhappy and to be filled with
anxiety and to be filled with worry
clearly they're not ready so you get to
decide for you ask yourself am I making
myself ready or am i digging myself into
a deeper hole of wanting to experience
misery and anxiety and stress because it
is all a choice I'm just putting this
out there the way you decide to live
your life is completely up to you you
have to remember that that's the truth
you get to decide how your life goes I
mean obviously we don't have full
control of everything that happens in
our life but we have control over
ourselves we have control over how
connected
within ourselves we have control over
how much effort we put into nurturing
caring and loving ourselves so you want
to ask yourself how much effort am i
putting into myself where I'm prepping
and priming myself to be ready for those
miracles to happen whatever you want to
define is America whether it's another
job opportunity or it's a new
relationship or it's something that you
want to achieve those types of things
will only come to those who are ready
being ready means you have to do the
work the internal work to clear out that
desire to just want to sit and be filled
with anxiety and stress I mean every
single one of these points that I've
brought across in order to overcome them
it all takes work in order to figure out
who you are deep down inside that takes
a lot of work and I just wanted to bring
this to your awareness that there is a
different way to live so that's the
third and final point is that miracles
will come to those who are ready for
them just like opportunities come to
those who are ready for them imagine for
example that you're searching for a job
right now but you haven't prepared
yourself for it you haven't done the
work of being able to prepare yourself
for the interview so you can sell
yourself well you haven't done the work
of preparing your application but
there's this amazing opportunity that
comes up likelihood is that you won't
achieve that opportunity because you
haven't done the work to match what that
opportunity requires same goes with
everything else in your life if you want
to change if you want to be more
connected to who you are you have to do
the work to get there if you want those
miracles to come you have to be willing
to dig deep to rise yourself up and to
match yourself to those miracles so this
was like I said a bit of a different
video and I went on a lot of rants but
hopefully I have drilled it home for you
that there is this opportunity for you
to shift there's this opportunity for
you to feel good and better about
yourself and as long as you are willing
to do the work of
electing and understanding who you
really are and what you've taken on from
an external perspective negative beliefs
that really don't serve you if you're
willing to do the work of shedding them
you will start to see a huge change in
how you feel about yourself and you're
gonna gain way more clarity into not
just yourself but into other people
because to be honest we're all a work in
progress we're all dealing with our own
beliefs and we need to get to the truth
of it if we want to be able to be fully
expressive and be who we truly are so I
hope this video was helpful to you now
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