*Epic Domic theme*
I wanna be as inclusive as I can with this topic.
So any times I meantion "Parents",
That includes foster parnets, adopters, step parents, and just guardians in general.
Being a parent is....
probably the most important job in the world (Bet)
with the least amount of tangible payout.
And I don't mean for this to
discourage people from having children,
but because of this, I see parenting as
one of the most difficult jobs to do properly.
Guy: "What's in it for me to become a parent?
Will my kids be obedient or be the rebellious type?
Are my kids gonna take care of me when I'm older,
like I took care of them as kids?"
Dom: "uhh... Hopefully. Maybe?"
But as parents, you can't really have the mindset that
your kids owe you.
Can you imagine if parents kept tabs on
everything they've spent on raising you? *bill falls into endlessness*
Dad: *clears throat* "Alright, son.
Here's your bill for the past 18 years.
Uhh... I'll give you 50% off the Xbox
since I use it too sometimes
Mmm.. your main concern would probably be
college tuition, the piano lessons, um...
Oh, and your literal birth. *strains* *screams*
I don't know how much that's worth,
but according to your mother, it really hurts. So, um.. (Happy birthday son)
Yeah, take that into account."
Dom: No, there is no breaking even.
Understand that they will never be able to repay you
for giving them life.
You can't put a price tag on that. (Lemme add sticker)
You didn't bring them into this world
just so you can guilt them with a debt
they didn't ask for.
Parenting is about paying it forward.
But to you kids watching, hey, hello, pay attention.
This doesn't mean you can do whatever the hell-o
you want, okay?
I believe a good parent's only concern should be to
raise decent human beings to the best of their ability
so that they can function on their own.
Whatever circumstances led you to have kids,
you are responsible for helping them grow in a world
they have zero experience with.
And who better to trust than
the people who've been around longer than they have?
Sure, kids can be capable of self learning,
but it doesn't hurt to give them a cheat sheet of things
you've learned growing up yourself.
And because kids are very impressionable,
it's up to you to set a good example for them.
Kids often have no choice but to trust that
your beliefs and teachings are correct and universal.
Like cereal first, then milk. Come on! (blood, noh!)
I was at the airport one time
waiting at my gate for my flight,
and I sat beside this family who had a small daughter.
She was getting very restless
because the flight wasn't for another hour.
Her mood was understandable.
I mean, I was bored, too.
The difference between us is that kids her age
likely haven't fully grasped the concept of patience
and often need to be doing an activity at all times.
She didn't have anything to distract herself,
so what else was there to do than
bother her mom about why she can't just
command the plane to come quicker?
But momma wasn't having any of it.
She simply told her to shut up
and threatened to smack her back.
Not her backside specifically,
but a reciprocal smack
because the mom was getting smacked first...
Anyway, it worked.
Okay, look look. I understand, kids are ignorant.
They can be annoying, but retaliating like that
may cause her to stop for now, sure.
But it's also influencing her to believe that
that's the correct way to solve all problems.
Girl 1: "Oh my god, a fire!"
Girl 2: "It's okay. Don't worry, I have a torch!"
...
And on top of that, she still doesn't understand
what was wrong with her behavior.
She just knows that if she acts that way,
she gets her ass beat. (asian or african beating lol)
There was no actual lesson learned,
only behavioral conditioning.
If there's one thing kids need a lot of answers to,
it's to the question "Why?"
In a past video, I talked about people growing old
but not growing up,
and it's a shame when those people try to be parents
because they'll probably raise their kids with the same
immaturity that they failed to grow out of.
It's just children raising children.
What I don't understand is when
parents try to talk to their three-year-olds
like they're fully grown adults.
Like, I get that you're trying to display to them
the kind of maturity that you'd prefer they do,
but they're THREE!
Mother: *clears throat* "Samuel, I do not appreciate the
behavior that you are displaying in this public space.
If you do not cease these inappropriate actions,
I will be forced to neglect you."
Dom: What? What?! Who what!?
Samuel: "𝔒𝔥, ℑ 𝔡𝔬 𝔰𝔦𝔫𝔠𝔢𝔯𝔢𝔩𝔶 𝔞𝔭𝔬𝔩𝔬𝔤𝔦𝔷𝔢, 𝔪𝔬𝔱𝔥𝔢𝔯.
ℑ 𝔫𝔬𝔴 𝔰𝔢𝔢 𝔱𝔥𝔢 𝔢𝔯𝔯𝔬𝔯 𝔬𝔣 𝔪𝔶 𝔴𝔞𝔶𝔰.
ℑ𝔱 𝔰𝔥𝔞𝔫'𝔱 𝔥𝔞𝔭𝔭𝔢𝔫 𝔞𝔤𝔞𝔦𝔫. 𝔐𝔪."
Is THAT what she expected little Samuel to reply with?
I always found it funny when parents and kids fight.
Growing up, I'd witnessed my sisters arguing
with my mom or dad.
And not to say I haven't argued with them as well.
But from my observations, it was just funny because
it's just the same person arguing with themselves.
We're literally your kids.
Some of your personality and traits
gets passed on to us.
We're probably stubborn because you are as well.
And when I noticed this and realized how ironic it was,
I feel like I argued with my parents less. (Good boi Dom)
Why would I wanna argue with myself?
No one's ever gonna win.
Don't waste your time. Figure it out calmly.
As easy as it is to say that you should
love your parents unconditionally,
and yes, I do love mine,
many are undeserving of it.
There are terrible parents out there.
I get it, there is no fixed guide on how to raise children,
but even if your circumstances
led you to having kids before you're ready,
don't punish them for your lack of preparation.
If your kids knew before they were born
that you weren't ready yet, they'd be like
Unborn child: "Uh...hey...uhm..you good?
Should I come back in a few years?
'Cause I kinda wanna to be loved and nurtured
so if this is a bad time,
I don't mind postponing."
Parents, please stop neglecting your kids.
One of my pet peeves is when parents just
unleash their kids in public and set them free
to be rabid animals to people around them.
I'm carrying bags of groceries.
Do you think I'm gonna move out of the way to dodge
this 15 pound kid running at me?
No, I have a low center of gravity. I ain't budgin!
Oh yes, yes, yes, kids need to be protected,
but they can't grow up thinking
their actions don't have consequences.
I'm not telling you to keep your kids on a leash,
but that is an option.
There's a bunch on Amazon with one-day shipping
with Prime, just sayin', but you know,
maybe teach 'em some empathy and awareness so they
don't have to get clotheslined by my cantaloupes.
Regardless of all the misunderstandings
I've had with my parents,
regardless of all the times I felt they were unfair to me,
the bottom line is that they gave me life.
Not only in the sense of birth, but they've been
my crutches to a world full of the unknown.
They weren't perfect, I'm not gonna lie.
No parents are. But they're my parents.
They raised me to be what they thought a decent human
should be like, and opened a lot of doors to privileges
and opportunities for me.
But a lot of kids out there
can't say the same for themselves.
Not everyone gets to enjoy the same privileges
as you or I have. If you're even able to watch this video,
that's a miracle to some kids.
And wouldn't it be great if we all had similar chances
for the same opportunities?
On the 18th of August, I'll be taking part in the
ANCOP Walk at David Pecaut Square in Toronto.
ANCOP, or Answering the Cry of the Poor,
supports multiple causes for the less fortunate
like child sponsorships, community developments,
and humanitarian relief.
I invite those of you in the area to join me in the walk.
You can register online and donate under team Domics
by clicking the link in the description.
And even if you can't make it for the walk, your
donations are still greatly appreciated.
I'll even be selling some merch
and some of the proceeds will go towards helping the
underprivileged, like supporting a kid to go to school.
Everyone deserves a chance in life.
Why not give them a helping hand?
Its over now, what a great video. (Captions made by me. DARKZ animations, edited by awesomeguy1003!)