Improvement pill here when I started having a more active dating life in New
York City I ended up bringing a lot of my dates to the same place for the very
first dates and literally every single girl that I've brought on these dates
wanted to see me again so today I want to share a few exactly what I did
where I went and the mindset I had on these dates so hopefully you can get
some inspiration and apply some of this stuff to your own dating life as well
okay so there's a large parking Queens that I used to bring my dates to it's
right next to the East River and also close to one of the schools that I went
to when I was a lot younger so I'm very familiar with the area and that's one
thing you should keep in mind for first dates you should bring your date to a
place that you're already familiar with so that you feel more comfortable you
don't have to worry about getting lost you might already know some of the
people there and you might even have some interesting stories about the
location that you can share anyways what I usually do is I tell my day to meet me
at the train station in the early afternoon I make sure to tell them not
see lunch and you'll see why in a second when they arrive we start walking to the
park together which is not too far away it's like a ten minute walk and about
halfway there we come across a small track in a schoolyard at this point in
time I'll say something along the lines of hey Zone so let's make a bet I'll
race you around this track and the loser buys lunch and I'm so confident that I'm
gonna win that I'll even give you a five-second no no no you know what I'll
give you a 10-second head start and every time I've challenged one of my
dates to this little competition they've said yes now the reason I do this is
because I personally love games and challenges and bets and things like that
this is what I consider to be fun what I consider to be exciting which is why
right out the gate I want to be showing them this part of my personality because
if they aren't into it then chances are we're not gonna have a good relationship
down the line I don't want to be wasting my time with someone who's not
compatible with me and that's the mentality you need to have when it comes
to dating the point of the first date is to see if she's compatible with you if
she isn't it's totally fine there's more fish in the sea but to be honest I don't
I've ever been on a date with a girl who didn't like to play along I think games
and challenges are almost universally liked by just about everyone right
there's a reason why everyone says that they want to feel like a kid again
because when you're a kid you don't have any worries in the world and all you do
is run around playing games it's fun it's way better than being an adult
that's for sure so when you're able to bring back that
same sort of fun energy from those good old days when you're on a date with
someone you become a very memorable person most people want to date someone
that makes them feel young and wild and free again not someone who makes them
feel old a serious and stressed that's my philosophy when it comes to romantic
relationships so anyways we race sometimes they do in fact win and
sometimes they lose regardless of what happens I bring them to the pizza place
on the next block the loser buys a couple of slices and that's lunch I
never take my dates out to fancy restaurants for the first date I think
it's better to save that for a special occasion later down the road if we do
end up dating for a longer period of time so I always end up taking them to
more casual places like a pizza place or a fast food joint like Taco Bell okay so
we sit down and we quickly eat the pizza we chat a bit and once we finish we
start walking to our next destination which is the park and it's only like two
minutes away and as we walk into the park I start telling stories now I spent
many years hanging out in this park after school of my classmates when I was
a kid so I do have a bunch of crazy stories and like I mentioned before this
is an extremely good thing because you want to be sharing interesting stories
about yourself you want to make your life seem exciting and adventurous
people are attracted to those traits it's just human nature so I'll tell you
one of my stories right now close to the entrance of this park are a couple of
trash cans that they put fallen leaves into whenever fall comes around so one
day after school when we were all hanging out a friend of mine decided to
light one of the trash cans that was filled with leaves on fire and it was a
very impressive fire I had never seen a fire so big before so we all gather
around to watch this giant metal can burn and that's when I'm not even
kidding out of nowhere what looked like a blind
man walking his dog stopped right next to us and pulled out a badge he was an
undercover cop and he yelled at us what the hell are you kids doing are you
stupid get away from that fire right just leave
the trashcan alone don't touch it don't touch it let the fire burn out on its
own I guess from his perspective the situation was contained to just the
trashcan I mean to be fair in the moment he was right the fire was getting
smaller and it did seem like it was going to die out on its own
so after scolding us a bit more he left but we decided to stay there and watch
the fire burn out and that's when all of a sudden it became very windy and an
intense gust of wind blew by and picked up the flames and spread it onto the dry
patches of grass around the trashcan and next thing you know there were a handful
of little fires starting and growing all around us it was a crazy scene I mean we
could have honestly burned this entire part down if we didn't do anything
so we freaked out and all of the kids in our group took off our hoodies and we
were like hitting the flames and trying to stomp them out with our shoes because
we were trying to prevent this thing from spreading we had to save the park
but the main problem was that the trashcan was still on fire and it was
still windy as hell if we didn't get rid of it new flames would just continue to
be picked up by the wind and spread so three of us picked up the trash can and
we ran across the street and we chucked the entire thing into the East River and
that's the story of the time we saved this entire park so I guess you could
say we're local heroes and these are the types of stories that I would tell on a
first date and whenever I'm telling one of these stories I'm reenacting the
entire scene I'm pretending to be the blind cop walking the dog I'm stopping
imaginary flames out on the floor I'm getting really into it and the whole
time my date is laughing her ass off because it's a bizarre an interesting
story and by the time I finished telling my tale were pretty deep into the park
and we get to the second big event that I have planned for today
but before I tell you what that is I want to quickly ask you for some help
okay so I plan on doing more dating advice and relationship videos for the
channel because recently I've actually been spending a lot of time traveling
the world meeting new people and going on a ton of dates so I've accumulated a
lot of interesting stories all with powerful lessons that I can make videos
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sort of issues you face in your own dating life so I can get a good idea for
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angle than what you're used to anyways back to the story at hand
alright so this park is attached to a bridge and there's a hill that you can
climb that will allow you to then climb onto the ledge for one of the giant
pillars that holds up this bridge so at this point we're pretty deep in the park
we're approaching the bridge and that's when I tell my dates have follow me up
the hill I don't tell them what we're about to do because the moment we reach
the ledge they automatically realize what's about to happen and they're
always very hesitant to come along because it's actually pretty scary see
if you walk along this ledge you will eventually get to a point where you're
like 15 feet above the ground and the ledge is also slanted at like a 25
degree angle so it feels like you could slide off very easily and if you fall at
this height you're probably not gonna die but it'll definitely mess up your
legs so I always tell my date come on come on it's safe trust me
I used to do this all the time you're not gonna fall and at first they're
always like no no this is too scary but I eventually convinced them to slowly
climb the ledge with me we put our backs up against the wall and we slowly inch
our way to the very end and when we get to the end I have them sit down with me
for a couple of minutes to enjoy the view when you're 15 feet above the
ground in this location you can see the beautiful New York City skyline and a
large chunk of the river it's actually very very beautiful but the whole time
your palms are sweating and your hearts racing super fast cuz
again it's slanted so you feel like you're about to fall off the entire time
and this is actually a good thing because danger can cause attraction when
your heart is racing and you with someone you actually become more
attracted to them because you associate the excitement with that person now I
don't plan this with this fact in mind I bring my dates to
spot because when I was a kid I remember the rush of excitement that I felt the
first time I climbed it and I want to share that memorable experience with my
date so after hanging out on the ledge we
moved to a playground which is like two minutes away and here we play on the
monkey bars and the slides and we even play on the swings for a bit where I
make sure to push them extra high until they're screaming for me to stop just to
mess with them a bit more again this is something that I do on a lot of my dates
I'm always trying to push their buttons push them to the edge of their comfort
zone because that's where excitement and fun comes from and by doing so they will
associate these positive emotions with you and they'll want to see you again
now this brings us to the last big event for today so this park overlooks one of
the largest rivers in New York City and you can actually climb over the railing
down onto the bank of this river when I was a kid we would often climb down and
skip rocks here but the thing is the area is super super polluted there's
trash everywhere broken wooden planks with rusty nails scattered all over the
place stinky seaweed and the occasional dead
animal and to top all of that off when you climb down there you immediately
realize that there's just as many glass shards as there are rocks the glass
shards aren't dangerous because the running water has made them smooth over
the years but it's still a dirty sketchy looking place it looks like if you get
cut down there you get tetanus all of my dates have been extremely hesitant to
climb down to the bank but just like with the ledge I end up convincing them
to come down again I'm trying to push her to the edge of her comfort zone when
they finally climb down the first thing I do is teach them how to skip rocks and
here's where I make sure to step up the amount of physical contact I have with
my date now I should have mentioned this before when I'm on dates I'm making sure
to touch my date casually throughout the day see touch is something that is
extremely important when it comes to forming romantic relationships when you
use touch correctly the entire experience becomes more intimate and
there's also more sexual tension which is a very good thing because no sexual
tension means that you'll end up in the friend zone
okay so throughout the day I'm making sure to touch my date in very casual
ways such as a tap on the shoulder a high-five or even having our thighs
touch when we're sitting the ledge this way they start to feel
more comfortable with the idea of touching you but when we're down on the
bank of the river and I'm teaching them how to skip rocks I make sure to step it
up a bit just to show them that hey I like you and I'm not afraid to get a
little bit more intimate with you so I'm doing things like holding their hands to
show them how to throw the rocks I'm standing behind them adjusting their bag
so they can get into the right throwing posture nothing too crazy but also
something that you wouldn't normally do with just a friend if people saw you
touching your date like this from afar they would assume that you guys were a
couple so after a while we're successfully skipping rocks and we're
talking getting to know each other even better and of course I'm telling some
more stories there's a story about the time we went into the sewers further
down the bank and we bumped into some homeless people in the actual sewer
system there's a story about the time one of our friends decided to swim in
the river and a giant cargo ship came by and it almost hit him he almost died and
there's even a ghost story from over a hundred years ago about a ship that
caught on fire in this very River and where hundreds of people died and how
sometimes you can see strange green lights moving up and down the bank ooh
scary and it's between stories where I usually go in for the first kiss which I
guess I should make a video on down the line because there's a lot going on when
that happens but that's basically it we hang out on the bank until the Sun
starts to set and once that happens we climb back up and I walk them back to
the train station so that they can go home there's one last thing I want to
leave you guys with before we wrap this up everything that happens on these
dates are things that I genuinely enjoy I enjoy challenges like the race in the
beginning I enjoy telling the crazy stories from my past I enjoy having a
little bit of a daredevil experience I enjoy playing on the swings and skipping
rocks when I shared these experiences with someone else they get a taste of
fun and adventure something that is quite rare nowadays something that is
quite hard to replicate by bringing someone to a coffee shop or a restaurant
or the movies for first date and that's why most of my first dates are so
successful because I leave a strong lasting impression I become someone they
can't forget and that's what you should aim to do to again make sure you
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