This might be the biggest cheat code in your life it seems like confident people just have it easy
they have everything they have more success in their careers they have more friends they attract
higher quality people and yes for women there is nothing hotter there's nothing more attractive
than a man with really solid confidence you might be thinking well then i guess i'm just out of luck
because i don't have that natural confidence here's the thing thinking that people are just
born with confidence is a plain old myth is busted confidence is something that needs to
be worked on and needs to be developed if you pay attention and if you use the right methods
that we're going to go over you can and you will improve on your confidence and no i'm not going to
give you the advice of faking it till you make it or telling you to just be yourself or telling you
hey just be confident no we all know that doesn't work so in this video i'm going to share with you
the seven daily habits you need to do that will drastically improve your confidence and
make sure that you stick to the very end because the last one is the game changer
counting down from number seven processing emotions and past events are you letting your
past events define you are you still holding on to emotional baggage that affects you every day
do you consider yourself more reactive or proactive when it comes to your mood your
emotions and how you deal with life if you let past things trigger you bring you down
do you see yourself as a victim misunderstood and do you tend to console yourself with self-pity
this is where it's all going to change you are no longer a victim to your past circumstances
no one likes a victim no one likes someone that feels bad for themselves people that have achieved
the most success normally have gone through the biggest and worst challenges and guess what that's
made them stronger they use those moments and experiences in their life to fuel them
to inspire them to overcome them not to bring them down it is absolutely a choice we need to
release almost old emotions we need to release on those events the traumas that you've been carrying
with you to your present day and allowing them to define you so here are a few suggestions but
give it a fair chance try each of these for at least two or three weeks and then see which ones
resonate with you number one would be meditation getting your mind quiet there are many different
types of meditations and ways to do it so i really invite you to have a closer look the next thing
that you want to do is releasing this is a great method to come to terms with the emotions how
they affect you and to very deliberately release on each of them another fantastic suggestion is
journaling really pouring out on the piece of paper what it is you're feeling how it's affected
you and also what you learn from it i really recommend that you do this with a pen and paper
there's actually a lot of signs to show that it's more effective than just typing it out on
the computer or on your phone and lastly seeking a trauma coach or therapist someone that really
specializes in this and will guide you through it number six mindset how are you perceiving
the world do you see the world as a dark scary place do you get worried about trying new things
because you are so afraid that you're going to fail and does that fear failure does it prevent
you from doing the things that you truly want to do i have good news for you it is all changeable
you can rewire the way that you think you can go from being a negative thinker into a positive one
not only are there countless studies in science to back this up but this is what we do every day with
our students so here are a few things to help you with that begin with allowing yourself to
see the positive in every situation even if you think it's just a terrible terrible situation
really challenge yourself to say well what good came out of it maybe you have a funny story maybe
it taught you who a person's character is but whatever it is i promise you there is some silver
lining to it the next thing i really invite you to do is to start seeing your setbacks and failures
as actual learning opportunities and know that through challenges through hardships is when
we really grow another wonderful method to help with your mindset is to consciously
practice self-love do things that are loving for you and be very aware of how you talk to yourself
start really talking to yourself with positive self-talk and lastly in this category is keeping a
wins and gratitude journal so this is really quite simple and it's going to take no time but you do
need to practice this every single day before you go to bed get your journal you're going to start
listing three things that you're grateful for and three wins that you had for each day now there's
one rule the wins and the gratitude lists cannot repeat themselves you can't use the wins you had
from yesterday on to today and so forth so when you first start it might look like you list things
that you're grateful for such as family and health but a couple days in you're gonna start running
out of things so you're gonna start getting really conscious of what can i see as positive and you'll
start seeing things that you used to take for granted as things that you're truly grateful for
such as being able to breathe being able to enjoy the sun and this changes everything number five
being conscious of how you're filling your calendar if you're spending your days on autopilot
waking up going to work then coming back home every night and going to sleep you are not helping
your level of confidence in any way this is an opportunity for you to start filling your calendar
with things that you are mindful of so number one is start enlisting in social events social
activities start filling your life with other people even if you are awkward even if you're
introverted really challenge yourself and you can start small start by taking a class start
by joining a book club go on meetup but definitely fill your calendar at least a couple times a week
with things that force you to be social and to interact with other people next on this list is
join a competitive or a physical sport even if you're not athletic this will help you a
tremendous deal one it helps fill that bucket of being social but two you are growing in a
skill and trait that's going to continue improving and that absolutely helps your confidence it also
has that added benefit of getting you in touch with that natural masculine side of yours and
last but not least volunteer at least once a month sign up for a cause that's important to you
whether it be helping the homeless cleaning up the beach reading to little kids or being a big
brother this will fill your heart your gratitude and boost your confidence in a very dramatic way
number four taking care of yourself the way that you handle yourself the way that you take care
of yourself shows the world how you feel about yourself so start getting mindful of the kind of
foods that you're nourishing your body with start actually paying attention to your appearance start
being deliberate and intentional with your clothes start really taking care of your body work out
exercise not only is it going to make you look better it's going to make you
feel better and especially if you're going to go into weight training it's going to boost that
testosterone and your masculinity it's also been clinically proven to help depression and bad moods
and stress so there is no downside here join a gym get a workout and last take care of your hygiene
it is such a turn off when a guy has bad breath or unruly hair coming from his nose or his ears or a
unibrow be mindful use deodorant and ease off on the overdoing it with a cologne number three know
who you are work on the parts that you don't like and get really clear with who it is that you want
to become if this is difficult for you at first then think of celebrities or movie characters
may even be real life heroes for you that you look up to think of what it is about them that is
so aspirational get really specific it's going to help define who it is that you want to be
as a person and with that comes the understanding of knowing your values what's really important for
you what do you stand for what do you prioritize and start acting in ways that are congruent with
that type of person when you come to a decision in your life it should become pretty crystal clear of
what actions to take just think back on that person that you're trying to be and think how
would he act it's like that famous saying how you do anything is how you do everything and
lastly is lead with integrity keep your word be a man that's noble that's honorable with dignity
someone that others can rely on someone that others can trust number two start practicing
self-respect so this means that you have to have really clear boundaries now this should
be obvious to you if you completed number three which is knowing who you want to become you will
also understand who it is you don't want to become and what you will not tolerate anymore
if you found that in the past you tended to be a people pleaser or felt uncomfortable
saying no what you don't consciously reject you unconsciously accept so start saying no way more
often than you do yes it will definitely boost your self-esteem and your confidence the number
one way to get confidence is do things that scare you really step into tension here's something
that a lot of guys get wrong a lot of guys think that they have to be good at something to gain
confidence that is not how you gain confidence you actually gain confidence by having the self
belief and the courage to do things that scare you or are uncomfortable so next time you see
a beautiful woman or next time you see a scary situation instead of running away hiding out or
using every excuse in the book to prevent yourself from taking action i want you to face that fear
now regardless of what happens in that situation whether the outcome was successful or not the mere
fact that you went out there and did it boosts your confidence tremendously it is not if it went
well or didn't go well it's the fact that you were fearless enough it's the fact that you were brave
enough and that you believed in yourself to go and do it in the first place so confidence really is
in being able to step outside of your comfort zone step into tension and do things that scare you
start practicing each of these every single day and you're going to be amazed at how quickly your
confidence grows now as you're working on your confidence you'll find that women start to notice
you more you're going to catch them looking at you or standing extra close to you but most guys have
no idea of how to take advantage of these little signs that women give you of how to initiate a
conversation with her and how to take her on an actual date do not let these opportunities pass
you by the key to having natural engaging magnetic conversations with any woman is to understand a
woman's language because what men respond to and what women respond to are completely different and
so when you learn how to communicate with her the right way that becomes the game changer you'll be
able to create real authentic attraction and truly connect with her you're gonna finally get out of
your head stop wondering what to say how to say it and you're just gonna let the conversation flow
easily and effortlessly so no matter if it's your first second or third date you're gonna
know exactly how to lead the interaction you're gonna have a great time so that she can't wait to
see you again now if this sounds appealing to you and you want to learn a woman's secret language
you want to learn how to connect organically and effortlessly just click the link on your screen or
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meanwhile start practicing those daily confidence boosters and i will see you in the next video