- Now, when you're in a new relationship or just starting
to talk to a guy and he starts to feel a little bit distant,
it can make you feel incredibly powerless
and really insecure about yourself and what this makes a lot
of people do in this situation is rather than giving
that person their own space to work things out,
what they do is actually try as hard as possible
to bring it back to what it once was, but here's the thing.
Working hard to make someone miss you never really works
because when you're working really hard
to make someone miss you, what you're still doing is putting
all of your emotional energy into that person,
and assuming you're talking to a guy with even half
of a brain, he is going to still feel that emotional energy
being targeted towards him rather than other places.
So rather than following most of that manipulative garbage
advice that exists right now on the Internet about how
to make a man miss you, what I'm actually gonna be giving
you is some advice on how to redirect that energy away
from the guy and more so onto yourself which
in turn will make him actually miss you, keep watching.
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Hey there, my name's Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story.
In this video, I'm gonna be giving you five ways
to make a man miss you, and in turn he will truly be begging
to bring you back into his life.
Now, the advice I give in this video is really targeted
for lots of different situations, whether you're not dating
a guy exclusively and you still want to get his attention
a little bit or you are currently dating a guy
or even a long-term relationship and there's a little bit
of a lull in the energy in the relationship,
and just realize that lulls do happen,
especially when you're in a new relationship.
You think that that spark that exists at the very beginning
of that relationship is going to last forever,
and it just doesn't.
So it's at this very moment where you can go in one
of two directions.
One is you give him all of your energy,
all of your attention with the hopes that he will
reciprocate and bring it back or you can invest your time
and energy into yourself and improving yourself
which will naturally bring the relationship back
to its harmony because really what you want from all
of this is for the man to start reinvesting his time,
his energy, his emotional energy back into you,
and the more that a man invests that energy into you,
the more he's going to want to protect that investment,
and if he doesn't have to do anything to win you over
or he doesn't have to invest any amount of energy
into making it happen, he is going to 100% take it
for granted.
So let's jump into the five ways.
So strategy number one is to start investing your time back
into your own social life.
It is perfectly okay for you to have plans
for an entire weekend that doesn't involve your guy,
and in fact, this is incredibly healthy.
I think that couples should always be maintaining their own,
independent social life, and if you're finding that
within the first couple months of dating a guy,
all you're trying to do is blend your social life,
then you are doing it all wrong.
Maintain your own group of friends because what this does
is it naturally allows the relationship
to just breathe a little bit because you're gonna be able
to go hang out with your own friends and allow him
to do whatever it is that he needs
to do to have his own space.
Now strategy number two is to use one
of the most powerful words in the English language,
and that is no.
Now, when we really care for someone or even more,
we love someone, we think that the more that we say yes
to them, the more that they will appreciate or love us back,
but more often than not, that is not the case.
In fact, if you're the type of person who just loves
to say yes to anyone, you are the type of person who absorbs
the energy from everyone and you're willing to take
on any challenge to help someone out,
chances are a lot of people will take advantage of you
or certainly take you for granted.
So if you're talking to a guy who is constantly asking
for favors, but never returns the favor, now is the time
to draw that line in the sand and start saying no.
It's okay, and in fact, he might appreciate you more
or is he the type of guy who always makes you come
to his place, drive across town at 2:00 a.m. to come sleep
at his place after he's had a night out drinking
with his buddies?
What do you say at that point?
Say it with me, no.
Step number three is to stop initiating
all text conversations.
So I challenge you right now, for the next 14 days,
to not initiate conversation with this guy.
Let him come to you, let him initiate those conversations,
and if he doesn't initiate those conversations,
that's perfectly okay.
Go off and do other things with your other friends,
and in fact, try to take, where's my phone?
Try to take some time off your phone.
See, I've taken off time from my phone right now.
Spend the next 14 days of your life reducing
your screen time and going back to living in the real world.
Reconnecting with old friends,
grab coffee with an old friend of yours
who you haven't met up with in a while.
I mean, when's the last time someone's just like asked you
to grab coffee?
Take this 14 days and see what type of investment he's going
to make back in the relationship.
If he's not making any effort, maybe he just needs some time
or maybe things are just not going to work out.
No matter what, at least you are not the person
who is constantly chasing him.
The fourth way to make a guy miss you is to change something
about yourself that is absolutely profound.
Now, this could be something physical such
as getting a haircut or doing like a total makeover.
Maybe go buy that red dress that you would never
normally wear 'cause you're more of kind of like a tomboy,
and that's totally cool, but like try something
a little bit different or maybe it's something
about your life that you've decided to change.
Maybe you decided to take up like kung fu, I don't know,
it just came to me or you start rock climbing.
Maybe there's a certain passion that you want
to start taking up.
Change something profound about yourself,
and also don't be afraid to post about it on social media.
This will accomplish one of two things.
Number one is he will probably notice it's on social media
and be thinking a lot about you
and what are these incredible changes that are happening
in your life, and most importantly number two is
that you are working on yourself because you are the most
important part of this whole process of finding love,
and finally, the fifth strategy to making a man miss you,
and this is only for those women who are talking to a guy
and are not in a committed relationship with that guy.
Start going on dates with other men.
Now, I know you're thinking right now in your head,
you're probably thinking that I'm telling you
to make this guy jealous, but that is actually not
at all what I'm talking about.
I have a rule with all the members
in the Sexy Confidence Club, and that is this.
You are never in a relationship with a man
unless it has been explicitly defined.
So unless you've had that conversation,
that define the relationship conversation
where you are boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife,
whatever status it is, unless you've had that conversation,
you, my sexy, single lady, are single, and as most sexy,
single ladies do, you should be going out with other men,
and like I said at the beginning of this video,
this has nothing to do with energy towards
making this guy jealous or anything like this.
In fact, this does the opposite.
This is for you to put your energy elsewhere.
To be able to realize that there are other
(beep) options out there.
There are other guys out there,
and if this guy doesn't work out, then you know what?
Say that magical four letter word which is next
and go find that next guy because the last thing I want you
to do is waste any emotional energy on some dud
who doesn't have enough energy to put into a relationship.
So if you enjoyed this video, please give it a like.
Don't forget to subscribe, and if you want a little bit more
in depth on how to be that high value woman
that men naturally pursue, I actually have a course
called the High Value Woman and it's part
of the Sexy Confidence Club along with many other courses.
We also have a community in there where I can connect
with you directly.
You can also join me on the live coaching calls
where I can be able to answer your questions directly.
So I'd love to see you in there.
We'll leave a link to that course in the description below
or in the bio.
Thank you so much for watching, and I will speak to you,
you sexy, single lady, next week, buh-bye.