okay so the question is that the
totalitarian forms that we've seen
primarily in the past have been male and
but maybe we're seeing something
different now I really don't think it's
different I think it's it's of a common
kind that's expanded in its Dominion so
you imagine that there's an essential
feminine pathology just as there is an
essential masculine pathology and the
essential feminine pathology Freud
mapped out it's the eatable mother and
the eatable mother is the mother that
gets too close to her children right and
intermingles herself with them to too
great a degree that in her attempts to
protect them undermines them fatally and
so there's a classic representation of
the feminine in the West and the classic
representation is Mary and here here's
one of the representations it's lovely
and it's derived at least in part from
the story of Mary and the snake in the
Garden of Eden and so Mary has her foot
on a serpent and she's holding Christ
off to the side like this well that's
exactly what mothers have always done
it's a biological portrait of human
women is they hold their infants out of
the reach of the terrible serpentine
predator obviously that's what we do
well that's fine but adults aren't
infants and neither are children and if
you treat them like they are you
undermine them you-you-you-you
pathologize them you turn them into old
infants that's an ugly thing and that's
the Freudian nightmare you know in this
happens in therapy very frequently I
mean you can be tangled into a terrible
relationship with your father that's
often either because he was absent
abusive or tyrannical something like
that but that the the standard pathology
with mom is she did everything for you
well what's left for you to do nothing
including never leaving
right and that's the motivation you know
for the woman who's nothing but
protective mother there's no role
outside of nurturing of nurturing
nurturing of nurture and of infant's of
nurturer of infants well you just keep
them infants they'll never leave they
might kill you one night in your sleep
but they'll never leave sure sure I mean
it's so comical watching the feminists
postmodernists in particular rattle on
about the absence of gender reality and
act out the archetypal devouring mother
at exactly the same time for them for
them the world is divided into predators
and infants and the Predators are evil
and need to be stopped and the infants
need to be cared for well that's what
the mother does but adults are not
infants and all you do is destroy them
when you treat them that way especially
when they're adolescents and just
starting to develop no there's there's a
rule that I attempted to abide by when I
had small children and the rule was
don't do anything for your children that
they can do themselves that's annoying
that rule because it takes you like 15
seconds to to dress a two-year-old but
you let the two-year-old dress himself
it's like it's 15 minutes or 20 minutes
or half an hour you chase them around
the house but if you let them learn to
dress themselves then you don't have to
dress themselves and your address them
anymore and they can do it and you do
that with setting the table and you do
that with everything it's like no it's
okay you do that now well I care for you
so much let me do that for you it's like
I don't care for you at all when I say
that I don't care for you at all I'm
gonna stop doing everything I possibly
can for you as rapidly as I possibly
can't say well that's great that's how
you work in an old-age home do not do
anything for the inhabitants that they
can do themselves because you robbed
them of the last vestiges of their
independence right it's what you do when
you're a manager if you're a good
manager you make yourself superfluous by
extending autonomy and end
to the people that you manage so that
they can take over the whole job you
don't do that by doing everything for
people and you certainly don't do that
by dividing the world our cotillion
uncritically into predators those who
have more and victims infants those who
have nothing and acting like all you can
ever do is protect them you don't
protect first of all you can't protect
people you can only make them strong
that's it you cannot protect them you
can make them strong and then they can
protect themselves but then they don't
need you right and there's the
underground pathological element of the
devouring mother it's like never leave
me here's the deal I'll do everything
for you you just never leave right
that's sleeping with your mother right
that's the Freudian nightmare right you
don't invite your child into your bed
right you distinguish between them and
you you distinguish between them and
your husband and you facilitate their
independence a part of the reason why
it's useful to have a mother and a
father is because the mother has to fall
insanely in love with the infant or she
throw it out the window right because
they're they're insanely demanding and
they're always right right because the
right way to treat an infant especially
before nine months is I'll do everything
for you and you're always right in your
needs take priority over everyone's one
else's and anybody that threatens you is
terrible
exactly right but after you know once
the kid is ambulatory and starting to be
independent that's the wrong attitude
the attitude then is you know get the
hell on with it and men who are less
prone to negative emotion and less
compassionate are much better at
fostering that kind of independence and
so it's usually then when they step into
the family and start playing with the
kids rough-and-tumble play and pushing
them forward and saying you know get on
with it you can do it you can do it and
it's very hard for a mother to play both
those roles because she has to fall so
in love with her infant that it's
difficult for her to be young Universal
caregiver and disciplinarian at the same
time you know because the roles are the
roles run contrary to one another so now
women have entered the political sphere
right on mas and so they're going to
bring their essential nature with them
all the while saying there's no such
thing as essential nature it's like yeah
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