- He expects me to chase him, should I?
(upbeat music)
We are encountering in new phenomenon in 21st century.
Men who are refusing to chase women
or who are so used to having women chasing them.
But we are not willing to put in any real work
to go after a woman that we like.
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All of his behavior is creating a toxic environment
for women in the dating sphere.
Now I'm not talking to say that all men are doing this,
but what I'm pointing out is an unfortunate growing trend.
So what should a woman do in this situation?
She is probably thinking if I don't chase him
and give him what he wants,
I'm not going to be able to be with this man,
and I really like him,
so maybe I should just go off to him instead.
However, what she doesn't realize is that
this is incredibly counterproductive
and I will give you five examples exactly why,
but just before I do that,
since Christmas is around the corner,
I have a perfect gift idea that you can get
for your boyfriend, friends, or even for yourself.
It is super cool and it is very high valued.
And if you will order it now,
it will come just on time for Christmas.
And if you have not guessed yet what it is,
to find out what it is,
make sure to stay till the end of this video.
So continuing, number one,
first of all women love safety and security.
So by chasing a man you're going against
your initiate needs as a female
and everything that is going to bring you happiness.
Let's be honest, chasing a man doesn't feel good, does it?
If you have ever done it, you will know that
it actually makes us anxious, insecure and emotional.
All of which are terrible things to be feeling,
especially when you are trying to find love.
Number two, secondly, when you begin any relationship
or situation as of a pursuer,
you are basically saying to a man, he is a king
and you need to be put on a pedestal.
Why you should not put the man first,
check out my video right here.
And you are okay but about making yourself uncomfortable
to please him in order to gain him.
This position will put you at a disadvantage from the start.
If you start out by chasing him,
he's always going to expect you to chase him
and therefore the majority of the time,
you will be feeling miserable, anxious,
and unfulfilled when you are with him.
Number three, turd you feel unwanted,
when a man is not making an effort to get to know you
or be with you, he's basically telling you
that you are not that important to him
and that you are an option.
No woman wants to feel this way,
because this is not a blueprint
for a healthy long term relationship.
Number four, men are hunters.
Not talking exceptions here about John down the street
who hates hunting, he is a pacifist,
I'm talking about the majority of the red-blooded alpha men
out where they love to hunt.
You will see guys go out fishing and hunting,
sitting for hours patiently to hunt something
because that to them is thrilling.
Women on the other hand, again, majority not exceptions
are into bad kind of thing.
We are more nurturing, we like someone to protect us
and make us feel safe, wanted and loved.
Number five, man value what they have to work for,
this is the most important point.
When a man wants something,
he is going to work his battle for it.
Why cars such as Bugatti are so valuable,
because the vast majority men
have to work really hard to get one.
Why do guys enjoy sports?
Because they have to work hard to win that trophy,
and like it or not, it is exactly the same with a woman.
If he didn't have to work hard for her,
he will have a little trouble and letting her go.
And if he worked really hard to get her,
he's going to do whatever he has to keep her.
So should you chase the man, thou no.
If he gives you breadcrumbs, refuses to chase,
even if he's Mr. President or Brad Pitt
with a (mumbles) body, you say, thank you next.
Or you will turn into one of his many fans, not future wife.
So what is the gift idea?
It is of course, this hoodie that I'm wearing.
But the incredible highlighter quote,
"Chase goals, not drama."
Great thing about this hoodie, it is unisex
and we have it in white, black, and I believe in pink also.
So if you are dating a guy that plays many games,
a little hint on Christmas, why not?
And if he gets off bed, then just say,
"Honey, I got it for myself too.
"It's an inspiring quote to stay motivated."
And if he doesn't play games and he is high value already,
well, just get it for him to inspire others.
And how do you get it?
Well, YouTube should be promoting it already.
And if they are not, I will drop a link to this hoodie
in my video description box below
and as a pen comment under the video.
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