Stress can be pretty overwhelming, but it always helps to know thy enemy.
I like to quote the Bible.
So what we're gonna do is, we're gonna actually go back in time in my brand new time-traveling
protocopter; I'll fix this later, 'cause the goggles are broke.
But, uh, yeah, let's go.
Let's go back in time to when stress evolved, eh?
Here we are in the early days of our species, like before you could call the internet on
the phone, even.
Stress then was one of our best buddies.
Part of our fight-or-flight response, it helped us survive.
Modern life has removed a lot of those mortal threats that made our stress levels so helpful.
The "watch out for mastodon" part of our brain needed something to do.
These days they occupy themselves by kind of freaking out about our daily tasks and
responsibilities.
So how do we fight stress?
Step one: identify the source of your stress.
Maybe it's work load, or social isolation, or relatives.
Even positive life events like marriage, or a new puppy, or a new house.
Those can be stressful too.
If you can't quite figure out the source, we would recommend maybe keeping a stress
journal.
Take note of the context of your stress, like, what you're doing, what time it was, who you
were with, did you eat something weird?
Hopefully you'll start to notice some common patterns that will help you identify the source.
I do want to take care to note, though, that your stressors might not actually be external.
Like they could come from an anxiety disorder or from how you're mentally framing neutrally
external events.
Those can be helped by some of the techniques we'll discuss to a certain extent, but we
can't really overstate the amount of help you can get from a licensed therapist.
Step 2: Attack the attack.
After you identify the problem, identify what you can control about it.
This is recommended by a lot of psychologists who practice the popular cognitive behavioral
therapy model.
So we'll start with behavioral changes you can make: eating healthier, getting exercise,
getting enough sleep, a mindfulness practice.
Or say you're overwhelmed by your work load, you can take steps to change how much is expected
of you.
Something I've noticed is that people tend to underestimate how much time and energy
a task is going to take.
So something I recommend that you do, because I recommend that I do it too: only take on
about 75% of what you think you can do because that's probably more realistic.
It can be extremely hard to say no to opportunities and favors because we're afraid of missing
out, that's understandable.
But if we over-commit, burnout is inevitable, which is going to negate all the positives
you thought you were gonna receive, so just respect your own self and limitations, like
that's a very strong thing to do.
Speaking of respecting yourself, let's say that there is another person who is causing
your stress.
Behaviorally, there are a couple things you can do.
1.
Tactfully confront them and work the issues out.
2.
Minimize the amount of time you spend with them.
But, realistically guys, I admit that you can't always patch things over and you can't
always avoid that person, so in that case: what the heck?
Well, this is where the cognitive part of cognitive behavioral therapy comes in.
Basically you mentally re-frame the stressor by changing what it means to you.
For most people, there are three common beliefs that go through your mind when you're depressed.
1.
It's personal.
It's your fault.
2.
It's permanent.
It will never go away.
3.
It's pervasive.
Everything is bad.
Similar thought processes can also cause stress.
Actually writing down your thoughts and then writing down logical rebuttals of them, like
that can be weirdly helpful too.
Ok, so you've attacked the attack.
You're ready for step three: Maybe don't actually attack the attack...?
Doing the cognitive behavioral therapy techniques to reduce stress can sometimes actually increase
stress.
If you're one of the people that that happens to sometimes, I would personally recommend
acceptance and commitment therapy.
So ACT basically espouses a radical acceptance of reality.
Rather than trying to better control your thought and feelings, it teaches you to mindfully
"just notice" them, accept that they exist, and commit to living by your values regardless.
For many people, the result of this is an increased sense of well-being and purpose.
Accepting and committing does not mean that you stop taking action, it means that you
accept that reality is hard, sometimes it hurts, but life and effort are rich and worth
the candle.
The truth is that stress is a part of life, and maybe that's kind of a good thing.
Stanford psychologist Kelly McGonigal has written and TED talked about how to take advantage
of some of the surprising benefits of stress.
But still, reducing the negative effects of stress is a very good thing.
Huge amounts of stress will probably not vanish overnight, but with focus and experimentation,
it's gonna improve.
And that is it from us today.
If you have any tips about stress reduction, please let us know in the comment section
below, we would love to hear from you!
In the meantime- (beep)
Hey guys, I don't mean to stress you out with a lack of a catchphrase joke but Emma and
I have some cool things we wanted to share with you.
Now these projects were both a long time in the making and of course when you're going
through a long project, it's almost always stressful, so we wanted to share a couple
things that have been possible because we've dealt with that stress.
As some of you guys know Emma and I are also young adult novelists, and Emma's debut novel
"First and Then" which is amazing is coming out in October and this is the cover.
It is so beautiful.
And I'm also really excited to announce that my second book is coming out in April 2016
and I'm about to show you the cover, and this is the first time anybody has seen it...
Now some of you guys might be wondering, "Mike, what is that on the cover?
It looks like an eye, but also... maybe the bottom of a flying saucer?
Did you write a young adult thriller about aliens coming to Earth?"
Yes.
As you guys know, ET is my best bud.
Mr. Fahrenheit is like, more action-packed and a little bit scarier than ET.
It's like... adventure...
wonder...
high school...
ray guns.
So there will be some links below with more information.
Ok guys, anything you want to say before we go bud?
ET doll: ET loves you.