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Hey, its Barron Cruz from Charisma Matrix.
One of the quickest ways you can immediately come across
as low status, dorky, inferior...
doesn't respect himself, is to respond
to somebody who's trying to get your attention with whiplash.
What's whiplash? Well it's that quick head turn
that immediately when someone comes up to you you gotta
stop everything you're doing, reorient yourself to them
what you doing some porn what they're doing is more important don't leave them
waiting
don't leave them with even a split-second otherwise they may get mad
we're doing is no importance compared to theirs giving up all the wrong
impressions
that a move that's gonna lower yourself on the I.E., Interaction Equilibrium.
I.E., Interaction Equilibrium. A very negative I.E.
Your butts gonna be on the ground. So what we want to do instead
is take a very calm, cool and collected pause
and then turn so, "Hey Barron..." on your time, if you're doing something finish
it up for a second or two
what you're doing is important you're not saying what they're coming in to
talk about is not important or they're not important
but it's not more important than what you're doing. I don't hear your work in a
place worse there's a a strict hierarchy and someone has higher
authority than you or what you're never gonna say what someone else is doing is
more important.
although you may feel like that giving them the respect that they want to
that's going to help you move up the ladder
its not true, its going to show the opposite. By pausing
turning on your own terms you're showing your respect for yourself
you know what you're doing is is important to you have respect for them
you're definitely not going to break everything you doing on a dime drop
everything and turned to their
now another application this is when you're talking to someone
you conversing with someone a lot of times people who feel like they have
higher social value than you
will come over to do people they feel like have lower social by Eminem
and have no problems interrupting expecting that you'll immediately Rio
rate yourself to them
stop the conversation cold turkey and begin talking to them and giving them
your full attention
she's not the way to do it what you want to do
is weak for a natural break in the story of the conversation
and then turn to them you're not going to continue the conversation now
for another thirty-seconds water waiting there we're also not going to stall
story I'm and then we took out the
the drop top your head around it pay
you not gonna do that we're gonna do you look for now to rate this story so yeah
I went to confer aloud about 78 degrees
in a beautiful weekend natural a natural pause not being rude
but also not with flashing so
the problem is the biggest problem when my clients try to implement this
is just the feeling that they're being so so rude not the reason
that I called my website my company accrues majors
is because there's an entire matrix a communication
that is out there that is invisible to most people so communication makes up a
big part
now win you all are deliberately
picking the time to reorient an address someone coming into you
that's some communication you not saying any words
you aren't making any eye contact is just a move which part is some
communications communicating a lot
what you want to do is you want to come across always
at that same low as the person you're talking to you I don't care if you are
just starting your job a week ago
and the CEO came in from London had better how's things going
you're still not gonna suck he's expecting your gonna snap it
deals right to most people to snap and have that whiplash
you want to know how to create amazing amazing impression immediately
is for him to know you know his position
and you don't have whiplash you're calm and cool he's gonna think
Wow this guy must you know he knows my position yet he's not really intimidated
was very high up in another company what's going on its gonna star all these
assumptions in his head
that are positive that he's going to correlate to you before even speaking a
word making eye contact with you
it's extremely powerful now let me give you a real example
something that could potentially go wrong so you're talking to someone
you said you how to convert lot guy comes it is bare
and yet it would be really so you can get lessons on their up being a parent
what's going on gonna
very good solid tell you Europe still cause you're turned on
you like yeah I mean it's okay it's alright
make them acknowledge the fact
by inadvertently bring it up by saying 80 K
that they were being rude and you're not cool to interrupt the you like the way
they were call out their full part in the way you gonna do that more real time
is
yeah we took a top-down pair and we despair
him any act okay okay what's going on
so you're not be rude but by saying it's okay you're not being condescending but
you definitely calling them out pointing out the fact that their interruption was
not welcomed and that if they try to do that again the future the response is
gonna be the same if not worse for you
because your respect for yourself respect for the person you're talking to
in addition respect for them with class is for losers
remember that there's never ok good time for an acceptable time
to have whiplash when someone is trying to get your attention it
always use of the wrong impressions and use it correctly
we can switch it around to give up the right impression oftentimes a very
very powerful right impression the only secret is
the harder and harder is to not have whiplash
the more more important it is so the people who can
really be impressed by you not with flashing to them
when they call you after which I'll your attention are the people that it's gonna
be the hardest your neck just want to snap so bad because
are so high up there they can do these things for you and they can promote you
will
they can jus if you work on the weekends so you're gonna feel so compelled to do
that but understand
your intuition is dead wrong never have whiplash
always be the king turning someone's trying to get his attention
on your own terms try it out thank you like it
until next time