To the best of my knowledge,
all of my friends think that I'm a good catch,
but they say well, maybe God
is just calling you to be single.
And I say well, if he's calling me to be single,
I think He is dialing the wrong number.
I'm very tired of being single because it wears on you.
Okay, Adam says he's the 47-year-old relationship virgin.
Out of hundreds of first dates he's been on,
only two or three women
have ever gone on a third day with him.
He says women always put him in the friend zone.
His friends say maybe he's trying too hard.
Now, these are his friends, take a look.
I've known Adam for 10 years,
and it is absolutely mind-boggling to me
to think that he's never made it to a fourth date
with a woman.
Adam and I have been friends for about six years.
He is not a player.
Number one, he's in his 40's,
he still likes to frequent college bars with younger people,
quite frankly, aren't particularly looking
for guys in their 40's.
Adam met this female,
they were talking all night long, right?
Well, then at the end of the night,
the girl looks at Adam and says to him,
the only reason she was talking to Adam
was because she thought Adam was gay.
I've only met Adam once,
I just immediately put Adam into the friend zone.
And I feel the moment he feels
there's just a little bit of hope, he just pounces!
Adam came on just maybe a little bit too strong for me.
I don't think he kind of understands sometimes
when he makes women uncomfortable.
He's just way too eccentric.
Well, Kendra and Adam were introduced by a mutual friend
who was hoping they would hit it off
at her barbecue last year,
but Kendra says that just didn't happen.
She's joining us on Polycom.
Why did you text your friend after meeting Adam
and say ugh?
(audience chuckles)
Well, it's--
the day was fine, it was great,
we were just chit chatting and talking,
but by the end of the day,
he just came off a little bit too strong,
and I was like, it's just a little bit too much.
What do you take from that?
What I take from that is, is that I messaged her
I believe it was maybe a day or two after the barbecue,
and she responded back, like,
continuously for like two weeks.
So, the message that I thought I was being sent
was there was interest, so that's why I was reaching out.
And you responded back every time because you were being--
Yes, I did.
Well, I always do, I'm just one of those people,
if you text me and stuff, I'm definitely gonna respond.
Two of Adam's best friends, Nick and Byron,
are baffled that Adam can't find love.
They are also joining us on Polycom.
(audience laughs)
So, let me add them.
So, guys, you say you're baffled,
but yet you also gave some pretty insightful reasons
that you think he's not connecting,
so what's the baffled part?
I think it has--you know, I'll diagnose it as
Adam being romantically dehydrated.
Nick, you're a psychologist,
what do you think's going on with Adam?
I think there's a distinction between,
I know Adam really well, so I love Adam.
I get everything he says, I understand when he makes jokes,
the Facebook comments, 'cause I understand him.
But when other people just meet him,
there's a disconnection between what they are seeing
and what's actually there for him.
And so, I think there's a perception problem early on.
What's your number one piece of advice?
Well, I used to think
it's about being really open and honest,
but now I'm thinking it's almost impression management
and trying to go a little bit slower,
and tread water a little bit more carefully.
Okay, I think that's a great piece of advice.
Byron, what would you say?
I'm along that same line, take that step back
and not be so forward with what you want to say.
It's not about playing hard to get,
but it's about saying
I don't have to set the feverish pace here,
I'm going to be patient and let this unfold
at someone else's agenda, someone else's pace.
I hear what you're saying and I agree with that,
and what the challenge is for me,
is people dangle that water in front of me,
and like you said, that was a good example.
I mean, I'm just trying to be honest, like,
I felt like Kendra was dangling the water in front of me,
and I'm like, man, I'm thirsty,
(audience laughs)
and so maybe I could get some water.
But that happens a lot, is like, so I get this interest,
and then, so yes, I absolutely 100% agree, know,
that I do come on a little strong because I get so excited.