﻿7 Habits That DESTROY Your Appearance [0:00:00]
All the world is a stage. And all the men and women, merely players. And they have their exits
and their entrances. And one man in his time plays many parts. His acts being seven ages.
I start off with a bit of Shakespeare because it highlights this first way that men destroy
their image. What is that? They don’t change. Seriously, why do you have the same style, the
same haircut, the same look for over a decade? [Music]
As human beings, we have this amazing ability to get better, to improve our lot in life,
to take a step in the right direction. And over time, this can mean for a monumental
improvement. But, when it comes to our style as guys, we get comfortable. We found something that
worked for us 10 years ago, 20 years ago. I don’t know, maybe just six months ago,
but here’s the thing. You’re in a different place, you’ve already had a promotion,
you’re working at a different job. You want a different type of look,
you’re in a new relationship, so why not up your style? Why not transform your look?
And how to do that? Re-evaluate what message are you sending. Does this represent me? Is
this the style I want to go for? Does this embody who I want to portray?
Now, you may think that’s a little bit deep, maybe even over the top. But, gentlemen, that is
life. Life is a plight and the way that we dress, the way that we perform, the way that we speak,
all of these helps others judge who we are and make decisions about us.
And that’s the next bad habit that so many guys have is somehow they think it doesn’t
matter. Now, society loves to push that narrative, but that’s a bunch of BS because
if that was the case, then just shut your eyes and try to make it through life.
No, you can’t because we use our eyes to see things to be able to make judgments. We’re
driving, green light red light. You know, those have a particular meaning and if you don’t follow
that, you’re going to end up in an accident. The same thing when you’re walking through life,
when you look at somebody and you perceive them as a threat,
you perceive that person as an opportunity. You perceive that person as attractive.
All this is based off of not things that they said, but things that we see visually. And make
no mistake, powerful men have known this since the beginning that’s why they developed a uniform,
a set of clothing that they wear again and again that sends the message they want to send.
Musicians do this all the time. Yeah, they may change it up, but they’re going to be on that
stage, they’re going to be flamboyant. Look at Jimmy Hendricks, the guy knew how
to mesmerize a crowd. He had a particular look. He brought in suits, he brought in
accessories. Prince, another amazing artist, who on stage knew how to actually send the message.
But, this applies to classic music as well. In fact, there was a study in which classical
musicians were dressed inappropriately went out on stage and their performance was viewed
poorly even though the music in the study was the same with the guys that were dressed nice,
the guys that were dressed down, same exact music. But, when an audience saw that someone
didn’t dress the part, they perceived the work their music as being less valuable.
The point here is don’t fall into the habit of thinking that your clothing, your image,
your presentation doesn’t matter. It does. Use your clothing as a tool
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you care too much about what other people think. So, people use this as an excuse,
like I don’t care, but you do care. And it’s a herd mentality because look around,
you’re dressing like everybody else. People say they don’t care about fashion trends,
they are caught in fashion trends. When it comes to the t-shirts with the running shoes with the
jeans with that baseball cap, you’re doing this because everybody else is wearing this. Because
this is what the stores are selling you. [0:04:58]
Now, you do have options and one of the best things I always think is going into a thrift store
because thrift stores are not tied necessarily to a time. They aren’t tied to a particular
fashion. You’ve got basically they are handed clothing, the put it out there, but you have
to go through a lot more mental exercises to put outfits together in a thrift store.
And this is great because you’re forced to say, hey, you know what? I found this, it’s a vintage
from the 1970s, can I mix this with something here that’s from 2015? Maybe something just came out.
I’ve got some great trousers some great jeans in my wardrobe already,
how is this top going to – how is this shirt going to look on me? And,
I love those types of exercises because it forces you to think and to define what style is yours.
The next habit that’s killing your style, you’ve got limited beliefs. You think that suits are
outdated because you see older guys wearing suits. No, guys, your age wearing the suit.
But, here’s the thing, the suit has been around for hundreds of years. It’s not
going anywhere despite what everyone says in the media. And a suit by definition is just
simply a jacket and a pair of trousers made from the same fabric the main material.
So, we see track suits out there, we see – and there’s all different types of suit
combinations. And when you understand that, hey, I could own the suit, I can wear the
suit any way I want. I can dress it down, I can dress it up. I can go with different styles.
You start to see -- that’s why I like vintage shopping again because you see suits from the 70s,
suits from the 80s, suits from, you know, 2010 and you see the different cuts,
the different ways they put this together. And you find, you know what? When I put this on,
the suit over time has evolved to make men look great, make them look taller, leaner,
more masculine. These are all great traits that you want to put – when you put a suit on,
you want to feel like a million bucks. And that’s what I’m talking about with
limiting beliefs is that don’t think just because my grandfather wore this that I can’t ever pull
this off. No, you’re grandfather, man, he got your grandmother and he looked great back in the day.
And you can pull off that look and all of a sudden, it’s going to be fresh, it’s going
to be new because anyone that follows fashion and style knows what is old becomes new again.
The next habit that’s killing your style, you are seeing clothing you like and you’re
trying to wear it without thinking about how is this going to compliment my build, how is
this going to compliment my natural colors. You’re wearing clothing that’s washing you out,
wearing clothing that is just making you look wider is making you look skinnier.
So, any piece of clothing depending on the shape and the build of it can actually enhance
certain features. And you want to understand that especially if you are a harder to fit body type.
But, you can wear clothing that isn’t going to make you look overly large,
clothing that’s not going to make you look like you’re, you know, skin and bones.
You actually want to wear layered clothing. And even in the summer maybe find something that,
you know, maybe a henley that’s a long sleeves and just roll it up. Maybe
wear a long sleeve shirt if you’re really skinny and then roll it up on the sleeves,
this is not going to make you look big, but it is going to make you look better proportioned.
If you are heavier guy, oftentimes some of the same tactics.
You’ll wear a long sleeve shirt and roll it up. You want to avoid shorts. In general,
trousers are going to work great. Yes, I know if it gets hot, then, of course, wear shorts.
But, so many guys default to shorts in the summer without thinking I can wear actually
tropical weight wool trousers. I can wear maybe a very lightweight shirt that’s very
breathable made from linen and it’s going to compliment the build of the heavier guy.
Again, you’re not going to look skinny, but it’s better to look large and in charge than, yeah,
fat and sloppy. That’s not what we’re going for. We’re going for the guy that, yeah, you look like
the Kingpin. I mean, he pulls off those looks. Or, again, if you’re a skinnier guy, this is key
with clothing is finding things that accentuate your natural features and downplay your flaws.
The next habit is being afraid to accessorize. And accessories are something for a lot of guys
they feel it’s a little bit too flamboyant, a little bit too much. Again, I love looking
to musicians. These people are up in front of crowds and they know how to bring in jewelry,
they know how to bring in hats and accessories. But, understand that you don’t have to be going up
on stage. You just simply want to go out and you want to get compliments, you want to get noticed.
It’s going to do a lot for your confidence. But, how do you start wearing a hat? How do you
start wearing maybe a little bit of extra jewelry? How do you start wearing those sunglasses,
which are a little bit out of the ordinary? Maybe you normally don’t even wear sunglasses,
but you want to wear wayfarers. So, what you do is you practice wearing them
around your house. That hat, you practice wearing it in the house and what’s going to happen is
you’re going to get used to it. You’re going to forget it’s there and you’re going to step out.
And you may not even notice that you’re stepping out with those accessories on and all of a sudden,
you’re in that situation. Now, you can always take them off if you don’t feel comfortable,
you know, maybe put it away. But, what I love about practicing wearing
accessories is that whenever you go and you start wearing them, it becomes natural. It’s something
that you’ve already gone through the steps and it just feels like an extension of your body.
All right, gents. So, what video to watch next? How about the biggest
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click it. Come on, you know you want to do it. [0:10:10] End of audio