- [Ashley] As much as self-care is about like doing things too.
Like we mentioned like working out and drinking water and getting good sleep.
I feel like it's being able to say no too.
Like saying no to things that you don't want to do.
Because I feel like when I was younger I wanted to please everyone.
And I wanted to be on everyone's good side.
So when people ask me for favors…
Or when people said let's hang out.
It would always be, “Okay yes yes yes.”
And I would never cancel because I felt bad.
I felt like a flaker.
But then now I learned to…
I think put myself first.
So if I'm really not feeling good or if I don't really… don't feel like it.
Then— I mean I of course it's not like,
“Oh I don't feel like going out today I'm gonna cancel.”
It's not like that but if I really feel like…
I'm at a state where I feel unstable then…
- [Peniel] Like you shouldn't go out?
- [Ashley] Yeah like I'll be like, “Oh I'm so sorry.
I don't think I can go out today.”
And then… of course your friends will understand.
And I've become more understanding of other people who cancel too because…
Before I would be like,
“How dare they flake on me. How dare you cancel?”
- [Ashley] And I would take it personally. - [Peniel] Do you know who I am?!
- [Ashley] But now I'm just like, “Oh yeah I understand.”
Because they might be going through something too.
- [Joan] Saying no is definitely a hard thing.
But a friend once shared a thought.
It's... “I cancelled our plans for me.”
I like that. Right?
- [BM] I cancelled our plans for me.
- [Joan] Because sometimes you just need time off.
- [Peniel] I don’t. - [Joan] Does that make sense?
- [Ashley] You don't need time off?
- [Peniel] No.
- [Joan] He's always down.
- [Ashley] That's true.
He's a very social person.
- [Peniel] I'm so bored these days.
- [Joan] Really?
- [Peniel] Yeah.
- [Ashley] Call us over.
- [Peniel] Whenever someone's like, “Hey, what are you doing?”
I'm like, “Yeah. What time? Where?”
- [Joan] I’m on my way out!
- [Peniel] Where and when?
What do you want to eat?
Do you ever get overwhelmed by being with people too often?
Or too much?
- [Peniel] No I'm by myself these days.
My schedule these days is…
Wake up at like two or three.
And then I'll have like a bowl of cereal.
And then I'll take vitamins.
And then I'll go to the gym.
- [Joan] Self-care.
And I'll work out.
And I'll come home.
And I'll have some protein.
And then I'll get dinner.
And then I'll wake up.
And then I'll wash up.
I'll wash up…
And then I'm just a home till like 6 am.
- [Joan] You should film a ‘Day in my Life’ for YouTube.
- [Peniel] It’s gonna be so boring.
- [Joan] I think your fans will love it. - [BM] It’s gonna be the same…
- [Peniel] It’s gonna be like, “Wait is this the first day or the 10th day?”
The same… What the. What's going on?
- [Ashley] So do you reach out to people first?
And ask them to hang out?
- [Peniel] No.
- [Ashley] Why? - [Joan] Yeah reach out.
- [BM] No I feel like you hit me up.
Maybe he just doesn't like you guys.
- [Joan] Wow messed up.
- [Ashley] **** you.
- [Joan] That was such a nice little…
- [Peniel] And then you guys live so far.
YOU live far.
- [BM] Not really… No you guys…
Wait wait wait.
Where do you live?
I know where you live.
- [Ashley] I live in Yongsan.
- [Joan] She lives like seven minutes away from me.
- [Peniel] Yeah so far.
- [Ashley] No you’re far. - [Joan] You’re far.
- [Ashley] You’re just too far in the east side.
- [Joan] Sooo far.
- [BM] Is that opposite direction from where I’m at?
- [Peniel] No it's like a triangle.
- [Joan] You're right here. This is Peniel.
- [Peniel] Let's say we're looking at Seoul map right?
I'm like right here.
You're right here.
And they're here.
It's like a triangle.
- [BM] So similar... distance between me and them and you huh.
- [Ashley] But like a lot of our friends moved to Itaewon recently.
So we're kind of close to each other.
And Peniel is the only one that's like…
No Itaewon’s like 15 20 minutes.
And then your guys’ is like another 15 20 minutes.
- [Joan] I am a 7,000 won cab ride away from Itaewon.
That is really close.
- [Peniel] Yeah you're a hour drive away from my house.
- [Ashley] Only while there's traffic.
- [Joan] On traffic.
- [Peniel] Okay without traffic it's still 30 minutes.
- [Joan] Yeah.
- [Peniel] So like I said…
Itaewon’s like 15 20.
And then you guys are another 15 20 minute.
- [Joan] Whatever. Then don't come.
- [Peniel] That's why I didn't hit you up.
- [Joan] Ouch.