Hey, Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com.
On today's video, let's talk about first dates.
Hopefully you're using the material that you are hearing about on the YouTube Channel or
maybe my program Hooked and you're getting first dates.
How do you master a first day?
I want to go over 3 of the biggest mistakes that guys make when it comes to first dates,
and I don't know if you've heard these before.
Some may be, but we're going to go deep into this so I can explain to you why guys are
not getting those second dates.
All right, let's start off with number 1, and number 1 starts with a little story.
It was about 10 - 11 years ago.
I remember I was on a date with a girl and we went out and we had this amazing date.
I think we've got a drink somewhere.
We walked around Santa Monica…I was living in Los Angeles at the time and it was, it
was amazing.
I was making her laugh, conversation went by really well, but I remember I was nervous
to give her a kiss.
In fact, I was very hands off the entire time, so I was more just acting like a friend.
And I remember towards the end of the day I even brought her back to my place, but I
was scared to make a move.
And so, we're just kinda sitting there and she didn't know what to do and she basically
just gave me a hug and said I have to go home.
And I never saw her again, which was strange because we had such a good date.
She was laughing, conversation went well, what happened?
Well, I didn't go for a kiss or any kind of physical move at all.
And so, I just slammed myself in the friend zone.
There's other coaches on YouTube who say, don't go for the kiss.
Don't go for sex on a first date because you want to leave a little mystery.
I say, forget that because you're probably a guy who's already scared to make a move
in the first place and you're probably acting in a way that's very friendly.
We need to get you out of that zone of the Nice Guy Mentality of.... I just want
to be hands off and I don't want to get rejected and I shouldn't go for the
kiss, to a guy who is more physical.
Of course, with that being said, no means no if she doesn't want to be physical with you.
But you should at least go for it.
I want her to see you as a sexual being and that's going to start from the mini meter
all the way to the first date and beyond.
Please try to go for the kiss to try to get physical, even tried to get her back to your
place.
All right, let's go to number 2.
This one you've heard before, but a lot of guys get really torn up about this.
Okay?
You got to pay for the first date.
You have to… it is your job as a man.
I know there's a lot of red pill people and people say, oh, women just want free dinners
and free stuff and men… and women should be equal.
Listen, forget all that stuff.
This has nothing to do with equality.
This has to do with you showing a dominant masculine trait, which is the ability to provide.
Plus, you are the one who's asking you about in the first place.
I'm not saying that you need to pay for every day.
I'm not saying you need to buy her things.
I'm not saying you need to do everything you can to make sure that she never spent a dime.
I'm just talking about the first date.
Pay for the first date.
This is going to show a masculine quality.
It's going to show that you are able to provide, which means that you have a job, which means
that you're effective at life, which means you have something going for you.
I'm sure that you probably care about that for a woman too, but a woman cares about that
a lot more.
Not because she's a gold digger, not because she's trying to get your money.
Okay…
But it's because she wants to see you display your masculine traits, which makes her more
attracted to and hopefully… hopefully she at least reaches her hand and goes to offer
to pay as well.
And you say, no, you know what?
I got this one.
You can get the next one.
This idea of taking care of her, of taking care of the situation is going to make her
more attracted to you.
And you don't need to spend a lot of money.
Go get a glass of wine and go get some coffee.
It will be $10 to $15 it won't break the bank if that's something you worried about.
Let's go to number 3.
I don't think this is going to be a problem necessarily, but I want to say this just in
case.
A lot of guys nervously talk a lot.
They talk so much that they don't get the girl to talk at all.
They don't ask her questions on a date.
And I don't think a lot of guys watching this channel have this problem, but just in
case, I need to throw this out there because a lot of girls have complained to me and said
to me that they've been on dates with guys who talk, talk, talk, and it's
like they're talking at a wall and the girl doesn't even feel like they're, they're like
they're in the room with them and they don't feel there's any connection there and the
girl's not going to want to see that guy again because of that little lack of connection.
You need to make sure that when you're talking to a girl on a date that you're not talking
at, that you're talking with her, that you're having her join in the conversation, that
when you're talking about something that you like to do or a story, I want you to reciprocate
and ask her something similar so she can join in and empathize and relate to you.
That relation is going to form that connection and it's going to make for this really nice,
pleasant experience between you and the girl who's going to want to see you again.
You need to have that connection there, so make sure that you're not just sitting there,
blah, blah, blah, like I'm doing to you right now and not giving her a chance
to talk.
If you do those things, I can guarantee you you're going to be at least 60 to 70% of the
way to having a great date.
If you want to learn more about having a great date, I have a whole blog post about how to
seduce a woman on a first date and you got to listen to this because there's an audio
clip attached to it where I coach a guy on how to do it. It's in the description
below.
Click on that link.
It's a blog post.
It's free, it's right there.
Learn more about that and check that out.
I'll see in the comments and I'll see you on the next video.