My husband hates me. What can I do to make him love me? Welcome to HAPPILY COMMITTED
My name is Coach Adrian and I am a relationship coach. And with my colleague,
Coach Natalie, we've embarked on a journey to help empower couples all over
the world to find happiness in their relationships. And one of the person - one
of the amazing women that I've been working with, Aimee, reached out to me a
few weeks back saying that her husband hate her and she was unsure what to do.
She was distraught, she was afraid that her marriage was coming to an end,
and that her family was going to be blown up. And when we started working
together, Aimee had very low self-esteem. She felt
that her husband was in essence rejecting her, their love story and what
she had to offer. And if you are also feeling down and insecure because you
think that your husband hates you, realize that his hatred or his strong
feelings do not have to be a reflection of your self-worth. In fact, very often
when resentment is presented in this way it's because the person that is being-
that is so resentful is struggling with low self-esteem themselves. And
arguments tend to happen when you are in this low self-esteem type of situation
or mindset. And so what I told Amy is that we needed to understand what
happened and why in order to fix their relationship. In order to fix any issue
it is important to not be too emotionally entangled in the web of the
relationship. She needed to take a step back. We needed to really truly analyze
where things went wrong and why. And oftentimes, if you're too emotional you
cannot have the proper perspective that you need to fix the issue. The key of
course is to understand your husband's perception of reality. You need to be
able to get into his head and relate and empathize to what he is going through.
What is he struggling with? What are his true needs? what is he not communicating
to you? And what role can you play in helping him find his peace of mind and
happiness? That is your challenge and that is what I'm hoping to help you to
do through this video. Once you've understood what truly is going wrong
with your relationship and you're not coming from a place of desperation or
anxiety, you need to be able to communicate with your husband. A genuine,
sincere apology after having understood his perspective and his pain can take you
a long way. But the key of course is not to dwell. You cannot constantly be
walking on eggshells or be apologetic. Otherwise you will push him away and you
will only reinforce the negativity and the sense of despair. He needs to see
that you're taking accountability but that you're also moving forward and not
dwelling in the past. What has truly changed in your marriage? Did you
suffocate him? Was it a lot more difficult to connect with him because
you feel like you depended on him too much? Or did you neglect him completely
and started to live separate lives? Men need freedom and independence. And men
need to feel needed in their relationship or in their marriage to
strive. Ultimately it's about giving him that space, giving him the time to
reinvent himself and to find his footing, and not taken on this burden of this
marriage going south. At HAPPILY COMMITTED, we are really really trying to
put all of the techniques, the tools, and the resources in place to help empower
people all over the world find happiness in their relationships and in their
marriage. Amy and her husband are doing so much better now because we were able
to work together and to establish a clear plan - tangible actions for her to
do on the day-to-day in order to nurture her marriage. And I would like to help you too.
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