hey everyone and welcome the top think today we're going to learn about how to know when someone is
thinking of you now let's begin number one burning cheeks yeah your body often picks up on signals
that you never would have noticed in the middle of a conversation for seemingly no reason at all
your cheeks or ears might light up red they might get your tingle like you just walked into a room
full of people with hmm no clothes on but it's not because you're embarrassed or because you're sick
your cheeks are burning because someone is talking or thinking about you just imagine you're chatting
with a group of friends all of a sudden someone makes an off comment about how they're tired of
people who are too nice all the time they're not looking at you or saying your name but your cheeks
light up anyway why is that well because deep down your brain can read between the lines better
than you can it can spot those hidden signals it notices the tiniest changes in someone's tone or
speech now on the outside their conversation might have nothing to do with you but your body still
picks up on that hidden subtext and when that happens blood rushes into your cheeks and you're
left wondering why so the next time your cheeks start burning for no reason pay attention to what
people are saying around you because there's a good chance someone has you in mind number two
stomach knots a similar phenomenon can happen deep within your digestive system if someone
makes a passing comment about you throws you a dirty look or drops a few hints that you're not
getting your stomach will let you know it'll drop ache and twist and nuts whether you're at a party
or at dinner with your friends your stomach might suddenly feel like you're at the top of a roller
coaster this weird reaction stems from the way our digestive system responds to emotional tension
for starters your stomach is more emotionally intelligent than you it can pick up on complex
feelings like awkwardness anxiety and Happiness your gut has the second largest population of
neurons in your body and those neurons communicate constantly with your brain so it's very possible
that your gut will learn and recognize something way before you do that's usually what happens
with social discomfort or emotional tension with all those neurons at its disposal your stomach
recognizes environmental stress and reacts with those twisting dropping feelings that
you know so well but what's actually happening within your body where does that physical pain
come from stress typically triggers a reaction in your central nervous system and that creates all
kinds of digestive issues you might have spasms in your esophagus excess acid in your stomach
inflammation in your colon and of course a whole lot of indigestion but my point here is that your
stomach is a lot more perceptive than you give it credit for so if you want to know if someone is
thinking of you just see what your stomach thinks hmm it might tell you more than your eyes or ears
ever could number-three subconscious slips okay let's say you know a secret about your coworker
your boss told you this morning that they're going to get fired but you're not supposed to
tell them until next week you're usually pretty good at keeping secrets so you just go about your
day like nothing's wrong but a few minutes later disaster strikes that same co-worker walks right
up to you and asks you for a favor they need you to file some documents for them so you try
your best to act natural you answer by saying sure I'll get those filed for you but instead
of saying filed you accidentally said fired oh so what went wrong why did that word pop right
out of your mouth well it turns out your internal trains of thought can leak out of your unconscious
mind and into your conscious speech resulting in a psychological phenomenon called para praxis or
as most people call it a Freudian slip Freudian slips happen to everybody in fact the average
person slips up at least once or twice every 1000 words so it's not that unusual for someone to slip
15 or 20 times in a single day not all of these slips are unconscious and not all of them tell
you when someone is thinking of you but you can still learn a lot about someone's inner thoughts
by listening to their mistakes so start by paying attention to the kind of slips they make and the
specific words that tangle up their tongue just like our example content and context play a major
role in any Freudian slip when you hear someone say the wrong word in front of you it tells you
two important things first you know that this person was thinking about something different
than what they're saying otherwise they wouldn't have slipped in the first place and second you
know that this person was most likely thinking of you because their mistake happened when talking to
you and about you so listen for these subconscious slips and note the kinds of information that leak
out of your friend or co-workers unconscious brain because those little mistakes give you a
rare window into someone else's mind number four specialized machinery have you ever been sitting
in a public place when you start to feel someone staring at you but when you look back no one's
looking so does that mean it wasn't real well the truth is most of the time when you think someone's
staring at you from across the room they probably are even if you can't see them doing it your brain
has a special system of neurons designed to recognize eye contact you may not be able to
see things at the very edge of your peripheral vision but your brain can okay imagine you're
sitting in a library if someone two tables over start staring at you your specialized machinery
will jump into action those neurons will light up and tell you that someone is looking your way
even if your eyes never actually see it happen now of course your specialized machinery isn't
always perfect many people especially teenagers experience something called spot lights in they
think that everyone's paying attention to them constantly but in reality no one really cares
feeling self-conscious will trick your brain into believing that you're being watched so just make
sure you don't get these two confused number five mutual friendships one of the best ways
to get to know someone is to get to know their friends first if you meet the people they're
closest to it gives you an idea of what kind of person they are what kind of things they like
and what kind of personalities they mesh with so if someone wants to get to know you better
they might use your friends as an entry point not only do mutual friendships teach them more about
you it also gives them an easy excuse to spend time with you if they're a part of your social
circle they'll be invited to the same events know the same names and hear the same stories
which gives them more material to strengthen that bond as an added bonus if this person really makes
a good impression your friends might just vouch for them down the road and that kind of support
can make all the difference so if you do notice someone getting closer to your friends it might
be a sign that they're thinking of you and they really want to get to know you better number six
the arrow you naturally point at the people that you like your legs will shift towards them your
head will lean in their direction even your feet will aim right at them without realizing it your
body turns into a giant arrow that points toward whoever is on your mind so if you want to know if
someone's thinking of you follow that arrow take a closer look at their body language and pay special
attention to their eyes hands and feet because these are the three most expressive gesturing
tools that humans have you use them to signal everything from interest to anger to confusion
you wave your hands around when you talk and create different meanings with your fingers
you jitter your feet when you're excited and you create entire sentences with your eyes even
though you could use words to say almost anything this kind of physical gesturing is ingrained into
your physiology so it's no surprise that your body also gives people a glimpse into your inner
thoughts most people assume that you need to hear it out loud that the other person has to actually
say it before you know anything for sure but if someone is thinking of you their body language
will be a dead giveaway number seven confusing smiles how do you know if someone's thinking
of you while you're talking to them sometimes the look on their face tells you everything you
need to know if you've been running around someone's mind they'll smile throughout the
entire conversation even if it's a weird thing to be smiling about you might be talking about
something meaningless or frustrating but for some reason that person just keeps smiling now most of
the time this confusing smile means only one thing talking to you makes them happy it creates such a
positive internal reaction that they can't hold it in their face can't do anything but smile in other
words they're not just thinking of you they're genuinely happy to be around you hey thank you
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