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today's question hey Kati and Kenyon's
why can't I uh trauma make us feel like
a child I experienced trauma at a young
age and now feel like a child in an
adult's body I have a childlike sense of
humor and regularly fall into childlike
a childlike persona sometimes it feels
as though I'm an imposter pretending to
be an adult I know I'm not alone and
feeling this way but I would love to
understand it more and learn how to grow
into my body I really like this question
because truthfully I don't think we've
discussed this topic before if we have
let me know in the comments and link a
video but I would love to keep talking
about this topic if it's something that
you're interested in so let me know but
the reason that we can be kind of like
we call it developmentally arrested
meaning we're stuck at a certain age
because something happened to us okay
and that is why you're feeling childlike
and you're struggling to act and feel
like an adult
because you had that trauma when you
were a child and the reason that our
brain does this it's actually kind of
fascinating they believe that our brain
holds us in this childlike usually it's
around the age when the abuse or trauma
occurred will feel like let's say happen
when were eight years old
we'll still feel around eight to ten
years old for a lot of our life until we
process through the trauma and the
reason they feel our brain does this is
because it's almost like that trauma is
a roadblock it's like we're driving on
the highway of developmental life and
our brain is going along and then it
this rock falls into the middle of that
Highway and we can't get around it and
so it's like it's just waiting for us to
move that rock and so the cool thing
about it is that it by recognizing that
this is happening we can begin
processing aka removing that rock and
it's actually really cool although it
can be super frustrating that our brain
even allows us to happen but the reason
that it places that rocking in the way
and doesn't let our car go around it is
because it wants us to process through
it and it's trying to give us more
opportunities to work on it just like we
have flashbacks and we can have body
memories and all of the things that can
come along with
all of those experiences and symptoms
are a brains way of saying hey we really
need to work on this thing it's not
letting me move forward in a way that
would be best for you and so it's like
it's telling us over and over it's like
you know ringing our doorbell or
whatever and letting us know that we
need to process through it and so as a
result because you're feeling
developmentally arrested you're feeling
childlike the only way to kind of grow
into your body and if you feel like a
full-fledged adult but by the way none
of us feel like full-fledged adults but
in order to not feel so childlike we
have to process through what happened in
the best and safest way we can do that
is with professional and as you know I
have a ton of videos with my friend
Alexa who specializes in trauma work and
she's talked about EMDR and somatic
experiencing I've heard from many of you
that you've done schema therapy and
other types of therapy to help you talk
through and process through the trauma
with all trauma work make sure you go
your own pace some portions of it may be
super easy to process through and to
talk through while others can be
extremely difficult we can struggle with
dissociation we can start will to make
eye contact with our therapist while
we're talking about it and then can we
can stay stuck there for a while but
don't lose hope each bit of memory they
are able to talk through and process
through is like someone's scraping off
some of that rock that's blocking your
path and slowly but surely we will clear
the way and be able to drive straight
into adulthood and I know that it's a
lot I know it can be overwhelming but
we're here to support you if you haven't
checked out my website we have chat
there 24/7 there are a ton of peer
support if you can't afford therapy
there are a ton of online options that
make it a little bit more affordable so
if you're out there struggling if you
feel stuck if you feel developmentally
arrested and feel like a child even
though you're technically an adult know
that there's help available and as soon
we reach out the sooner we start
processing through what happened to us
the better we'll feel and as always
leave in the comments let me know what
your experience has been did you feel
childlike for a long time and has
processing through the trauma made it
better
were there other things that someone
should try or different tips and tricks
that work for you let us know and I will
see you next time
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