Questioner: Why is change in life so difficult? When I was younger I was excited by change, I would… looked
forward to it, I was happy when it happened. As I'm growing older, I try to avoid it as much as possible
and not able to cope when it happens. Sadhguru: It all depends who is initiating the change. (Laughter)
Questioner: Maybe. But is there something like an appropriate response to change?
Sadhguru: One reason why change is becoming difficult as you get older is you have found cocoons
of comfort; there are many comfort zones you’ve created. Any disturbance of that, you’re disturbed now.
When you were young you were not looking for comfort, you were looking for life.
Now, you’re not looking for life, you’re looking for comfort - safety.
See when you were sixteen, eighteen, you had wild dreams as to what you want to do with your life.
By the time you became twenty-five you cut down all the frills and thought, “This is all not practical
I am becoming practical now.” All that you… happened is you were becoming a coward, but you said,
“I'm becoming practical,” and cut down many things and said, “If I get a job, if I earn my living, this, this,
this is OK.” By the time you are thirty-five you're thinking, “If I don’t get into any trouble, that’s enough.” (Laughs)
You're not looking forward to anything great happening – “If I don’t get into trouble, that’s enough.”
But that’s when you start getting into trouble. (Laughs) So you're not looking at life with zest you're looking at
life as safety. The more security oriented you are, the more disturbed you will be with every change that
happens in your life.The essence of physical existence is change, isn’t it? Isn’t it so?
Everything is changing, is there anything that’s not changing? Everything in the existence is changing,
isn’t it? The physical existence is constantly changing. The very essence of physical reality is change.
Nothing is constant. Even the so-called static states are dynamic in nature. Everything is changing.
Sadhguru: So if you resist change, you're resisting life. If you want an unchanging life, there's one beautiful
place where nothing changes - that’s your grave. Either you must go to your grave or you must get enlightened
if you don’t want change.Then somewhere inside everything is same. But otherwise as long as you're a
part of the physical process of the existence - everything is change. There is nothing that is not changing.
See this moment you are inhaling, next moment you are exhaling – it’s change, isn’t it?
If you don’t want change, you stop it. So when you resist change you must understand you’re resisting
the very process of life, not just your life, you’re resisting the very fundamental process of life invariably
you will invite all kinds of suffering. If you’re living and you want to be dead, you will ask for trouble, isn’t it?
You must be living; when you're living, you must live totally. If you want to die, you must do that efficiently,
this is inefficient ways of killing yourself. Really.Unhappiness and depression are inefficient
ways of killing yourself, isn’t it so? At least be efficient. I can give you ten different ways to die, anyway
Hussain Sagar is there. (Meditators Laugh) Is it… still water in it? Meditators: Yes.Sadhguru: Okay. (Laughs)
So you need to understand this once you resist change you're resisting the whole process of life
and you will create unnecessary suffering. So once you resist change, depression is a natural process.
Frustration… When change happens frustration, depression. Frustration and depression are…
On a certain day the devil decided to retire because he's retiring he decided to put all the tools of his trade
for a garage sale.So he opened up discount sale - all the devil’s tools - there was a huge rush.
There are all kinds of things - anger, hatred, jealousy, this one, that one, everything on the table.
All, a few people went and bought it up in no time. Everything was sold out in the first hour, all his tools.
The whole humanity has bought it, isn’t it? But he had still one more bag and… what's your name?
Lina went and asked the devil, “What's in that bag? Isn’t that for sale?” He said, “No, no, these are the prize tools.
Just as souvenirs I want to keep them because they have worked best to do my job.”
Lina said, “No, I want it please won't you sell that?” Devil said, “No, no, no, these two tools that I have in this bag
they have worked so wonderfully well in my whole career, that I would like to keep them as my souvenirs.”
Once Lina said, many other people joined behind her and, “Please, put in on sale, put it on sale, put it on sale.”
Then the devil pulled out and said, “Okay, if you give me a good price let me put it on sale.”
Then he pulled out frustration and depression and put it on table.These two are the best of the devil’s tools.
Sadhguru: If you want to destroy your life frustration… you start with frustration, develop into depression,
you're there.There’s nothing worse than that; you'll work against yourself.And the moment you resist change,
frustration is natural. Once frustration comes it will naturally evolve into depression. So you put it on sale.