Did you know that there’s ONE question that you can ask your spouse that will improve
your marriage almost instantly?
How’s it going, Brad Browning here… and I’m a marriage expert from Vancouver, Canada.
In this video, I’m going to cover the one question that you can ask your spouse TODAY
that will improve your marriage by leaps and bounds overnight.
In fact, if you ask this question every single day to your spouse, don’t be surprised if
things change so dramatically that your spouse breaks down and recommits to you and your
marriage.
So what’s the magical question?
It’s… “How can I improve your day?”
Let me tell you about a quick story about two clients of mine… Brian and Cindy. Every
single day, they would argue about almost everything. It was almost as if they would
pick fights for the sake of picking fights! And these arguments were no joke either…
they would oftentimes scream and yell at the top of their lungs, often times even in front
of their two kids.
Based on my initial meeting with them, I knew exactly what was wrong… and the problem
that they experienced is an issue that’s extremely common -- and that is, they didn’t
see each other as their “teammate”. See, in successful marriages, couples act as if
they’re two players on the exact same team. They pinch hit for each other when the other
can’t step up to bat, they’ll pass the ball to each other while moving up the court,
and they function better TOGETHER than AWAY from each other. So whether you’re talking
about something as simple as sharing the house chores, planning a trip, navigating their
finances, or raising children, successful and happy couples make sure that they support
one another no matter what.
But Brian and Cindy didn’t have this mindset at all. How could I tell that this was the
case? Well, in my initial meeting with them, I heard them use the word “I” and “you”
92% more than they used the word “we”.
It was always… “I am doing so much work for you around the house” or “I can’t
stand it when you won’t stick up for me!”
They were framing every single dispute as if they were always the victim… and that
no matter hard they tried, they couldn’t get their partner to see them in the way that
they wanted to be seen.
Now… Brian and Cindy aren’t unique. Again, I’ve seen this situation arise in couples
all the damn time… and I know EXACTLY how to deal with it.
One of the very first things that I got them to was to begin with one of the most important
strategies when it came to fixing a marriage… and it’s to SACRIFICE yourself for the greater
good. I told them about that magical question about I mentioned in the beginning of this
video…
I forced them, every single day, to start off the day with… “How can I improve your
day?”
When they first started using this strategy, they admitted to me that it felt awkward for
them. They didn’t FEEL like that the other person DESERVED any acts of service. In fact,
initially, they felt like their partner deserved a good yelling instead of any acts of love…
But after a week of doing this every single day, things began to change…
Suddenly, Brian began felt feeling more relaxed every morning. He would wake up beside Cindy
and instead of thinking about all the negative thoughts that he once had, he began to only
think about improving Cindy’s day. He thought about it as a job that he had to do… or
a duty almost!
The same thing happened to Cindy. She told me that after a few days, a great deal of
pain, anger, and resentment began to lift from her chest… and she slowly began to
feel EAGER to improve her husband’s day.
Over time, the arguments became less intense. They became less frequent… and their children
began to notice and even they began to show levels of happiness that Brian and Cindy haven’t
seen in ages. They effectively created a more loving environment that SELF PERPETUATED…
and it all began with a simple question: “How can I improve your day?”
But this question alone obviously won’t solve all the issues in your marriage. No,
the whole point of this exercise is to reframe how you think about your spouse… you need
to begin thinking that your spouse is your TEAMMATE… and whatever problems come your
way, you need to fight tooth and nail to work through those problems together.
Of course, this is all much easier said than done… so if you want to know more about
my complete, step-by-step solution to fix ALL of your marital issues, just head on over
to MarriageGuy.com and watch that free video there. Again, that’s MarriageGuy.com…
and you should head over to that website right after watching this video.
So what else can you do to reframe your marriage in a more supportive and cooperative way?
As I alluded to earlier in this video, one of the biggest problems Brian and Cindy had
was how they used their language. They used the words “You” and “I” way too much.
In order to reframe the mindset of your marriage, start using the word “We” with your spouse.
Doing so can have a massive impact on how your spouse perceives you. For example…
take a really common complaint…
“You always leave the house a total mess. You’re lazy and never clean up after yourself!
Disgusting!”
Pretty awful thing to hear, right? Now let’s change up the language just slightly… you
could say something like…
“We can do a better job of cleaning up the place. I think we would both appreciate that!
And I’ll make sure to do my part.”
See how much better that sounds? By changing your language just a little bit, you can start
the process of making your spouse view you as their TEAMMATE instead of their enemy…
and once you start making this habit, don’t be surprised if everything begins to change
rapidly…
It’s one of those solutions that gets better and better over time. It creates a positive
feedback loop. And the MORE you support and cooperate with your spouse, the more he or
she will want to return the favour. Don’t believe me? Give it a shot and tell me how
it goes in the comments section below.
And by the way… I know what you’re thinking. What happened to Brian and Cindy? Were they
able to continue their success? Well, after a couple more months of regular correspondence
with me, I can happily say that YES… they are still together and they are very much
in love with each other again. If you want YOUR marriage to go down the same path as
Brian and Cindy’s, consider signing up for my email coaching service. It only works out
to be the price of a cup of coffee a day… and the type of CUSTOMIZED advice that I can
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help your marriage as well. If you’re interested in registering, just head on over to MarriageGuy.com/coaching.
Again, that URL is MarriageGuy.com/coaching… so just head on over there to learn about
my email coaching service. I promise you, you won’t regret it!
Anyways, that’s all for today, folks. Chat with you guys soon!