I'm going to be telling you what that is in this video coming up,
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So let's talk about what it is that you're dealing with when you're dealing with a narcissist.
Narcissist is a person who is really the most insecure person on the planet
and I know that may sound crazy because a lot of times you think they seem so confident,
they seem like they've got it all under control because that's what they want you to think.
They want you to think they've got it all under control.
I kind of like to think of it as The Wizard of Oz.
So for those of you who remember the movie, The Wizard of Oz.
Do you remember how the wizard like built this whole thing?
This whole Emerald City around him
and then when Dorothy and her friends
get to Emerald City that's like this big scary place and there's this huge
like I don't know hologram, If you want to call it that of this scary looking thing
and actually it was just like feeble old man behind the curtain
who was kind of you know, this scared
and that's kind of what they are. There's a scared little person inside
but reall they're trying to layer on all the stuff on the outside.
There's really a hollow scared
little nothing going on on the inside
and so, they're trying to exert control over you at all times
because that's how they get a feeling of what they what we call narcissistic supply.
They want to feed their ego by getting supply and they get supply by exerting control.
So I kind of look at supply as in different levels.
There is that what I call the diamond level supply,
which is, you know, that what the world sees,
which is, you know, that prestige,
the money, the right friends,
the big house, the window dressing up at all.
You know, and so a lot of times people will say to me.
Well, he wouldn't want his employees to know what's going on or she would die
if everybody knew what I knew something like that.
They don't want neighbors to know.
They don't want employees to know.
They don't want people at school to know.
They don't want their best friends to know,
or whatever it is because they're trying to maintain this facade to their world
or especially if they're a public figure, something like that.
So they hate that for one thing.
That's one thing they definitely hate and then there's that dark underbelly,
what I call the dark underbelly of supply,
which is that they want to control you.
So they'll love to control you.
They love to manipulate you.
They love to intimidate you.
So that's part of the reason why during negotiations
they constantly move goalposts.
You can't get things done.
That's why attorneys fees are jacked up so much.
That's why the cases keep going and going and going and they you can never get things settled
even though they'll tell you, it's your fault that things haven't been settled.
That's the reason is because they also so enjoy intimidating you.
So those things are what's happening at the same time.
So they hate it when either number one,
you are potentially going to expose them to the world
so that you're doing something that rakes their a facade
that makes the world know that they aren't who they say
they are, you know, exposes them,
you know, they show up someplace that they shouldn't be and you call them out on it.
What are you doing here?
You don't belong here.
You know, that sort of thing.
They hate it when you expose them, hate being exposed.
They also don't enjoy when they can't control you.
I mean, they want to trigger you when they send you
those long text, when they send you
those long emails, when they send you something
where they want to, you know,
you to get upset.
They're dying for you to go.
Oh. I can't believe you said that about me.
I can't believe you said that.
I was dishonest.
I can't believe you said that I would steal money.
You know how honest I am and then you go right into the tirade of blah blah.
That's exactly what they want you to do.
So they want you to be triggered.
They want you to be emotional for one reason.
They want you to be triggered
and being emotional but there's another reason they want you to do that.
By the way.
They also want you to do that because it creates great trial exhibits.
If you right back and you say oh you horrible thing and you know,
or I'm going to get you or I'm going to kill you or you say something like that.
Now they get to have this great exhibit that says,
look, they're crazy.
They're unhinged.
Look how horrible they are.
They threatened me or something like that
and now they have something against you.
So don't play into that.
I do have a whole video on how to respond to narcissist text.
By the way.
Definitely check out my video on that.
Remember every text, every email.
Everything you put your hand to is a potential trial exhibit.
So be really, really careful about that.
if you don't want to do something that you don't want to do,
just say no, you know, that's where you start pushing back
and I want you to start practicing that right now.
Put JUST SAY NO in the comments. JUST SAY NO because you're starting to be not
so conditioned by them, want you to start practicing
not being so conditioned by them.
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Remember, narcissists are more scared of you than you are of them.
They're the most scared little people on the planet.
Never give in, never give up.
Today's a great day to start negotiating your best life
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