Hi, I'm David Harbour.
This is "My Guide to Life."
I was always an awkward younger kid.
And I think as I get into my thirties and forties
I started to feel more, in my own skin.
There was a sort of youthful exuberance,
not that I'm not exuberant, but that I,
I didn't really have,
I was never, I just never felt like a "young" guy.
I just always felt like a, kind of an old man
dealing with older issues.
So I was very, you know, happy to get to 40 years old.
I mean the other thing that was really great
about my trajectory is that I never became famous
for being young or for being, you know, "pretty."
It was always that I had something to say,
I think, is why people, you know, are fans of my work.
That's always been very gratifying to me
and it's been sort of what I've been waiting for
my whole life.
I do believe it's sort of 10% talent,
and 90% tenacity and perseverance.
For me, the intention has always been to do the thing
to the best of my ability.
So, if I were a basketball player,
it would be to like, play the game to the best of my ability,
and as an actor, it's the same thing.
And I think that's why I'm not as skilled at
things like this, or things like dressing up and going to parties
and things like that.
But I really love acting,
and I've always loved it since I was a kid.
And so, yes, I've had to persevere to achieve some success
but it's always been just because I love it.
How do you define the word "soulmate"?
I guess it's someone who, you look into their eyes,
and you feel a deep compassion
and, kind of kindred spirit for.
A kind of, you know, love for.
and I've had it with men and women.
You know, soulmate, it’s just somebody who you feel like you
can really be yourself with and really connect with
and you really like, care and love about that person.
Yeah, I believe in regrets.
And I think regret is a powerful, good thing
because it makes you evaluate your future behavior
in a way that, I think if you look back with a kind of
block of like, "No, no,
I'm justified or right in everything I do,"
I think you don't change.
That really only comes through mistakes and through regret.
We're all just exploring this thing together,
so the idea that you would be perfect at it,
I think is a really dangerous idea.
And I guess one of the things that fascinates me
about characters and human beings is that we are fallible,
and that we are weak and that to err is human.
Okay, okay... oh my God.
I mean, I've been given so much bad advice over the years.
I can't really think of the worst piece of advice,
but I can think in terms of an actor, of something
that actors used to say,
that I used to just hate
and now I kind of feel like is true. They’d always say,
"Only do this if you absolutely can't do anything else."
And I hated that.
I was like, "That is so dumb, man."
Like in any profession, like, if you want to do it, just do it.
And now I feel like they're kind of right.
I feel like it's such a brutal business in so many ways
that it's really only built for those that really
like, truly love it to the point where
they have no other skills.
Yeah, I mean,
it's gonna be like wildly intellectually pretentious
but, Heraclitus has a saying called,
"Nothing endures but change."
And I do believe that things will always change.
So if you feel bad one day, don't worry,
you will feel better.
And if you're feeling great, don't worry.
You will feel crappy again.
Hi, oh no, not hi, bye!
This was "My Guide to Life."