Nobody likes a negative Nancy, right? But as you grow your social media presence,
a certain amount of negativity trends can follow. So, let's talk about how to deal with it,
how to manage negative comments on social media.
First of all, I want to give you some permission and let you know that haters confirm greatness so
if you are getting some negative comments on your social media, don't feel like you're doing anything
wrong. You might actually be doing all the right things. So let's talk about that today. First how
do you determine what type of content is actually worth sharing, what do you keep to yourself, more
on that in a moment and you know what? It's not all negative. I want to talk to you honestly about the
one benefit of receiving negative comments later in this video and then don't go away because we're
also going to get into the trick that I learned of confidence from A-list celebrities like Bono
and Lady Gaga. Yes, I met those people and had some personal stories that I'm gonna share with you
so stick around to the end of video for that. In working with six, seven and eight figure
influencers and entrepreneurs, they're bound to get some negativity but the difference is how they
deal with it. I had a client once that was telling me about this video she had on her YouTube channel
that had thousands of views and someone left a negative comment in there calling her a name
and she felt so ashamed of it that she deleted the entire video. And that broke my heart because
this video had thousands of views. So, think of the thousands of people that watched that video, that
were impacted by it, that might have even signed up for her paid programs and that one person ruined
it for her, that one person brought her down to the point where she thought that she was
just going to throw out and delete everything. I don't want that to happen to you so I want to
help you in shifting your mindset to determine how to respond to these things and how to know what
content is good to share and what maybe do you keep to yourself. Obviously if you share content
that's something really close to your heart or exposing something that you're currently dealing
with, any negative comment that you can receive is likely to cut deeper and hurt you more. Renee
Brown has a quote about how you should share the scars and not the open wounds. But sometimes
I've actually tiptoed around sharing the open wounds like the vulnerable moments
while I'm in them. But before doing so, I do this little authenticity green light test. I ask myself
these questions to essentially give myself the green light that it is appropriate and vulnerable
and still authentic to share. The reason why I do like to tiptoe around those open wounds, again not
inappropriately but in a way that is authentic, is because you might be experiencing something
that everyone else is but no one is brave enough to say and by you sharing vulnerably gives other
people permission to be able to speak up and feel those things too. Now if something negatively
impacts you to the point where you stop creating content, it doesn't just impact you. You have to
stay true to your mission and your impact and your ability to be consistent with your content
even when you don't feel like it and the reason why is because helping people doesn't stop
just because your life isn't perfect. No one's is and most of you aren't creating content right now
because you're scared about other people judging you or what they think and or the people around
you, that they won't understand you. News flash, those people aren't the people who need your
content anyway. I want you to think of who is your potential buyer? Who is the person your
audience that needs this that you're putting out that content for and why would you ever make the
business decision to not put yourself out there and not find your voice by creating the content
when people need you? Now of course that does come with a disclaimer. I'm not telling you to over
share or expose things that shouldn't be exposed. Keep your mental health and your security in mind
here and also keep other people in mind here. You don't have to necessarily share the stories that
you're still in the middle of dealing with or the ones that you're still feeling maybe charged
emotionally or hurt or bitter over, err on the side of share the scars and not the open wounds,
but tell your audience your story, your obstacle and how you overcame it to get to the other side.
So now that we've talked about that vulnerability. Do you think that you're quick to share or do you
think that maybe you're more cautious from sharing with your audience? Let me know your thoughts in
the comments below. Now it might sound a little bit backwards to say that there's actually a benefit
of negative comments. Sure, that person might seem mean, it might seem like they're trying to hurt you
but they're actually helping you because it boosts your engagement rate. I had this guy
commenting on my YouTube channel a few years ago and his profile picture was Bruce Willis
and he would be commenting on all my things. He'd be calling me names, he'd be telling me I
was a loser, he's telling me that my work sucked or whatever, using a lot more harsh terms than
that and I just kind of responded to it with humor. Obviously this person is not Bruce Willis,
he's hiding behind some kind of fake name and picture so I kind of responded to his comments
jokingly being like well, you know best Bruce Willis. Can't wait for your next Die Hard movie
and then he would respond back with even more anger and even more negativity and
then for myself and my audience who also came to bat for me, we had a good laugh
about it. So, that negative commenter might not realize that by commenting on your content,
they're actually helping it reach more people. I know that for me, my audience came to bat and were
commenting underneath it and trying to tell them to go away or also adding into the jokes and the
humor and it kind of just became an interesting situation and now I can share that story for you
so that you know that your content is coming from a place of providing value, from a place
of integrity and if you have someone negative commenting on your stuff, they're not your audience.
Focus on the people who do need your content and you can decide whether you want to delete it, block
it or maybe even respond with kindness or humor. I've even had people that have commented negative
things on my posts and I even reached out to them personally through a message to speak to them
human to human and I found that a lot of times when I do that, they'd actually soften and tell
me what their negativity or what their issue was all about and actually created a relationship. Now
I'm not telling you that you have to be attached to hoping that it turns into a relationship or
a client, but sometimes putting that message out there and reaching out can show them that you're
human and obviously they're reacting and lashing out because of something going on in them. So
showing them some kind of compassion and kindness can really position you as the bigger person and
maybe even help them. Not a lot of people know this but before I started a business, I used to work in
radio and television and I even had a short stint as a paparazzi assistant so I spent a lot of time
around celebrities and I want to share with you some of the things that I learned from
them about how they deal with negativity and how they build their confidence. But before I do, have
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every time I upload. Here's what I learned from famous celebrities like Bono and Lady Gaga about
confidence no matter what the world is saying about you. I used to work in radio and television,
I did a lot of behind the scenes work and produce interviews with some really big A-listers.
I met stars like George Clooney, Mark Wahlberg. Even in my short stint as a paparazzi assistant,
I was around celebrities a lot. It was my job to approach celebrities in Toronto and ask
them for an autograph that then the paparazzi would later sell and I didn't exactly plan on
it but living in this world introduced me to this secret sauce that celebrities and popular
influencers use to come across as confident and compelling on camera. These are people who are
putting their art out to the world on a regular basis and getting judged and ridiculed for it, or
praised for it. So, how exactly do they deal with that and still come across as confident? Here's the
secret. They're so dedicated to their art and they disappear into their attractive character. You know
the moment that Beyoncé sets foot on stage, she transforms into this fierce female personality
to become the performer that we see when she's giving it her all. You may have heard of this, she
actually named her alter ego Sasha Fierce. So, she puts on this energy and becomes this character.
Marilyn Monroe did this too. She did this experiment, she would go into public and she
could decide whether she wanted to be invisible Norma Jean or be the glamorous Marilyn. She'd be
in the middle of Grand Central Station, thousands of people walking by her as if she was nobody and
she says to her photographer do you want to see her? No grand gestures, no radical transformation
but with a little fluff of her hair, changing her energy in her body language, in an instant she
becomes Marilyn. So not only does this help people feel more confident but it also protects them in
a way from taking negative comments to heart. So your attractive character feeds back into your
messaging because it defines how you talk to your audience, what words you use and how confident you
are when you're speaking about your industry. So who is your attractive character? What do you sound
like? How do you speak to your audience? Wearing your attractive character as a cape will help .
protect you from the negativity. If you're ready to take your content marketing to the next level with
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