You know how I know that we're back in Minnesota?
I have beeswax lip balm on my nose
Shane just washed his face and I put lotion all over it
Can I make my face any more disgusting?
So I lotioned his whole face and then we get out here to film
And his nose is already peeling, it was like dry skin
Because there's no moisture in the Midwest
There's no moisturizer that works on your skin, I don't understand
So I took my beeswax lip balm and I took it on my finger
And I rubbed it all over his nose and it worked so well
So now, as we tell you about the biggest fight of our entire relationship
S: That we just had a few days ago H: Yeah
I'm going to be calming myself with the smell of honey comb
Nothing smells better than beeswax
So I'll remain calm as we talk about this fight
I have it on my lips, I'll remain calm too
Hopefully you'll remain calm, the goal of this video is to not get in another fight
While we're telling you about it
That's why we waited like four days
Yeah, so jokes aside, this really was our biggest fight of our relationship
It got downright scary at times, especially for me
Even though I was on the right side of the argument
H: Scary? (Both laugh)
But we'll tell you all about it
Let's just get into it
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So Shane, time to talk about the fight
It was a dark and stormy night
It wasn't, we were in Las Vegas
It was a beautiful night, it was a clear and warm night in Las Vegas
H: Yeah, beautiful Las Vegas night S: And Hannah--
My mom was actually in the rental home with us, so she got to hear this fight
The next morning we were like "we had a big fight last night"
I think we were talking about it, she was like "you fought?"
"I heard Hannah speaking very seriously for a long time"
"I just turned my TV show up so I couldn't hear you guys"
So I was on my computer, it was late and I was watching Youtube or something like that
Hannah had been in the other room for a long time, working on an edit for a vlog
That we have since published
Yep, so I finished the video and I came in and I showed it to Shane
We played it, he was like that's great, I was like perfect, I'll export it
And upload it to Youtube so we can put it live tomorrow when we're on the road
We were driving 8 hours the next day
Great, great idea
And I had been working on this video for literally like four hours
Like the entire night, this was like 10pm and I probably started at 6
So it had been a very intense four hours, I just wanted to get it done
Before the next day when we would be on the road
And we wouldn't be able to do it
And that's always a really good feeling, getting a video done ahead of time
Cause then the next day we feel like we can just do whatever we need to do
H: We know we have one S: There's a video ready to go
S: So we were happy H: Yeah
So I'm sitting next to Shane, I click the export button
And it says the media is still being used on the camera
Or something... a message I have never gotten before
And I was like what? So I tried to render, I'm trying all these things
But during this time I'm sitting next to Shane and he begins making suggestions
Now, Shane had not been working on this video, he wasn't really sure what the problem was
He didn't even see the error message, and so he began saying things like "check the memory"
"Did you delete the files on the whatever?" And I'd be like yep, already did that
Did those things half an hour ago
I think we should explain what it was like from your perspective
And what it was like from my perspective
S: Just so they know... H: Yeah, why there was a fight
S: I know I was in the wrong, but let's.. H: Yeah, why there was a fight
S: You explain what you experienced H: Yeah
So I was super frustrated with this not working, nothing was working
And then Shane throwing out like 7 or 8 suggestions of things that I had already tried
While I was reading articles and trying to do other things
It was just like too much, and instead of being like, you're not being helpful
I just picked up the laptop and began to exit the room
Like "I'm just gonna do it in another room"
Wait, pause there, let me give my telling for up to this point
Yeah, go ahead Shane
And then we'll tell you how it really got bad
So Hannah comes and has this problem
And I'm sitting there not really able to see the laptop
Because she's sitting across the table now
But she's getting more and more upset, obviously
Really frustrating when there are technical issues, so I do the only thing I feel like I can do
And I begin saying ideas that pop into my mind, like check for this, check for that
And I felt like my attempts at helping were being met with animosity
And increasing levels of anger, to the point where when I would say an idea
She would say "no, it's obviously not that"
In a tone that to me at the time, felt very very mean and rude
H: Yeah S: All I was doing was trying to help
I could've been like "well, figure it out, back to my Youtube"
Instead, I was trying to help
Yeah, so I was responding increasingly annoyedly
Because Shane's suggestions were so far off from what was actually the problem
And I was exhausted, I was not in a place to be like "let me explain this problem to you"
I was like "I just cannot hear one more suggestion that is nothing to do with the issue"
So I was not being polite, but I just wanted the suggestions to stop
And I thought that that was clear and they weren't stopping
So finally I just exited the room
And this is even something that we've argued about before
S: Like when Hannah's upset, I... H: Try to fix
I have a problem with trying to immediately fix it
Rather than just being like "wow, that does suck"
Which is sometimes the best thing that you can do
I'm trying to learn that
Tryito put it into practice
Had the fight ended there, or it wasn't even a fight yet
Yeah
Had the little disagreement ended there, the night probably would've been salvaged
Yeah, because I did eventually fix the problem
S: The technical problem, yeah (laughs) H: The technical problem
So Hannah now is leaving the room, but before she can get all the way out of the room
I, in all of my knowledge and intellect and understanding of the world, declare...
"You're a mean person"
(Hannah laughs)
"You are a mean person"
And it was one of those sentences where I said it and I was like
"You're a mean person.... (instant regret)"
"Oh no"
I don't know why you thought that was a good thing to say
Like we said, it was late at night, we know we were both annoyed
H: Shane said that, obviously I turned around S: You came running back
Just walked back into the room, put the laptop down, sit down
And I'm like "how dare you"
You were like "are you kidding, you really think that?" And I start backpedalling
I was like "no, no, I meant...I meant.."
You were like "I said what you were doing was mean"
Yeah, I meant... (stutters) Small little instances of you displaying behavior that might...
Hannah was having none of it, she was like "You think I'm a mean person?"
H: Because I tried to leave the room (Shane laughs)
And then Shane got increasingly defensive and began saying "I was just trying to help"
"You were being rude", he began to stand by his point
Because at that point we were in a fight
It was one of those bad fight moments where you've said your thing
And now you have to defend it or else you lose
H: You have to stand by it (laughs)
Again, I could've just been like, "I should not have said that"
"I didn't mean it, I'm done", but no, I tried to defend what I meant
S: And it didn't help H: (laughs) It didn't help
And so we started fighting, we're going back and forth
Shane makes this face when we fight that makes my blood boil
We might have talked about this before
S: Not often H: No, in big fights
It's happened like three times in our entire relationship
And he makes this face that's like pity and he's like "awww"
S: It's like condescension H: It's condescension
Ohhh, when I see that face, my blood boils
It is the most annoying thing on the face of this planet to me
S: And didn't I say something like... H: You said "I'm worried about you"
"I'm worried about you", I don't know what was into me right there
But I really dug my heels in and I was like, I will die on this hill
Yeah, and you weren't dying on the hill that I'm a mean person
You were dying on the hill that that wasn't a terrible thing to say
S: And I didn't mean it, yeah H: That you didn't mean that
Like we weren't fighting about whether I was mean
We were fighting about whether Shane should've said that
And he was saying "you know I didn't mean it"
And I was saying "how dare you say that?"
Yes, it devolves, and we're both now just saying things that we don't mean
Yeah
S: And going further and further into our holes in the argument
So finally, Hannah leaves, I go back to watching Youtube
Knowing that the night is ruined
Later that night, we go to bed
Yeah, actually you sent me a photo to get me to come in the room
Or a text
Yeah, okay so, what I'm trying to say here is that
We get over our fights remarkably fast
Yeah, it was probably an hour of separate time
The way I did it was I sent her a funny text
It was like "hey, c'mere, I found a photo of you online"
And it was this ridiculous photo of a bad painting of a person that was just like...
Yeah, a medieval painting (Both laugh)
And I was like look, it's you, ha ha
Hannah was like kind of not entertaining it
It was funny, I laughed at that, it was fine and we were talking
But then when we started getting ready for bed
I was like "I'm not ready to just move on from this, I need an apology"
And Shane was like "I'm not apologizing"
I think I said that I would do more jokes
Yeah
Like we kind of both said a few jokes while getting ready for bed
S: Like feeling out what the situation was H: Yeah
And we right again went right back into a fight
I was like "how dare you make a joke before you apologize?"
I was like "did you just take my sock off aggressively?" It was the silliest thing
And she was like "are you kidding me right now?"
S: So it devolved, and we went to bed H: Silently
Angrily and silently
We woke up the next morning, I felt horrible about what had happened
Hannah probably felt high and mighty by what had happened
But I also realized how silly it was
And knew that we couldn't keep this argument up
It was stupid and pointless, so again, using humor to hopefully end it
As Hannah was getting me ready, I let her know that I would be keeping a tally
Of all the times that she was mean that day
Now, that sounds horrible, but you have to understand I was doing it in a way
Of like, this is so ridiculously not the right thing to say
That I was hoping it would make you laugh
It was really funny, and then he started by like, I would pick out a shirt for Shane
And I picked something out and you were like
"You know I hate that shirt, 10,000 mean points", it just made it immediately funny
I knew that he felt bad for calling me a mean person
S: I was deducting mean points from myself H: For anything that was nice
So I was like negative a million mean points and Hannah was like 10 million
Yeah, Shane was like "I smiled at you, seven million mean points deducted"
It was just funny
And that was the end of it, I mean later in the day we did have a conversation
Where we really actually in adult voices talked about what went wrong
And how we could act differently next time
Yeah, and we were both in the wrong, I was unnecessarily rude
And Shane overreacted
I mean, emphasis on unnecessarily rude
But I think that the humor again saved this argument
We were able to make it funny, realize how silly it was
And not ruin another day because of the fight we had
And I love that about us
Yeah, we've never had a fight go on for more than...
Both: That was our longest one
And we wanted to make this video because the fight was funny, it was a silly fight
But we also want to share that we do fight, we have these moments that are bad
And we don't want to just show all the great moments on Youtube
So we wanted to tell you about this fight, our worst fight
Our worst fight ever, there was some rough stuff said
I know
Thankfully none of it was meant
H: Yeah S: And hopefully it never happens again
H: I know, it probably will happen again S: As long as you're never that rude again
Alright everyone, have a great rest of your day
Bye