okay Simon here yeah so oh shut up thinking about vlogs what will be a good
one to do having a Thai wife because I've been married 13 years to my
wonderful beautiful Thai wife I thought I'd share some of my thoughts
with you in case you're thinking about getting it so life and you will want you
to know few ins and outs comparisons so I have a quest as a working class
middle-aged guy I'm 54 years old so when I met my wife I was 40 my wife is 15 and
a half years younger than me so present she's 38 and a half I'm English based in
the UK and I'm divorced twice both with English women and both marriages failed
probably because of me for various reasons looking bad but and I went for a
spell after my cinder ball were ends up in Thailand if you check my earlier for
logs you'll see I was running a bath in the day for two years so I was a single
guy 40 years old and it is a milestone in your life forties crossroads and I
met my wife so a lot of guys when you go on holiday in Thailand and a lot of
people goes looking for a tow away you will see an age gap now I don't know
whether subconsciously being a guy as we getting older
we like having a younger girlfriend wife attractive in our lives
you know in my local area here in the UK you see the older guys with loads of
money you know the Ferrari Aston Martin's and in the wine bars looking
for the young 20 25 year old girlfriends just so they have someone to look good
on the arm so I don't know if that was a subconscious thing for myself I just
clicked with my girlfriend wife but you do often see guys with the Thai wife
girlfriend it's there's an age gap and one of my favorite channels at the
moment on YouTube is a guy called rod and his channel check it out it's called
20 seconds in Thailand and Rob has gone to Thailand and he's looking to turn on
through fresh Ollie's and he's done some really good videos there's a couple
there on site culture and Thai women and tigers and a lot of guys when they go to
Thailand rushing to get into Thai wife I don't think that's a good idea
you really have to learn a bit about Thailand the culture family life when
you marry a say woman you do marry the family and then again I've done some
vlogs extended Thai family in your own country when you your cultures probably
are different here in the UK you you brought up I was brought up you get
married once you have two kids you have a boy house grow old you get grandkids
and that's the sort of and your parents take care of you whereas in Asia I mean
in Thailand is some you'll find each other way around the family have kids
they usually if they're outside of the cities they've usually bought a strip of
land have kids you're the house behind their house so they have the front house
on the strip still the house behind for the kids kids grow up
and take care of the parents when the kids have kids the parents now
grandparents take care of those grandkids well their kids are at work
and the family will work together that's one of the things I love about Thailand
in the culture so the family is take care of the elders whereas a lot of
other countries it doesn't happen so when I married my wife after probably a
year going over to each other I'd already met all the family and got on
well with them all it's a different culture to nine so a lot of people here
in the UK friends of mine you've got so wise or not that you have asked several
questions would I marry my wife again 13 years later would I marry her again yes
would I change anything yes I would and the question people say you regret
bringing your wife to the UK to live no I don't she has changed and become more
your European I used a lot she changed a way of thinking and working
she sounds learning English language so the first two years that was a big
culture shock for both of us her learn the language getting work and
for her is just a whole new world so we did our raps and bangs there was a lot
of miscommunication in the first couple years and if you do marry at I want to
take about your own country you've got understand that there will be
misunderstandings and it can get bumpy through our marriage it's it's only got
better and better we did have a few bushes in the middle but that was more
than two finances but it has got better and better and better
also the toy extended family if you marry a Thai woman and when my wife came
to any Thai woman if you take her from Thailand into your own country she will
want to take care of her family financially and you've got to understand
that and be prepared for that the the biggest learning curve for me was
understanding that I the social ladder you hear people talking about a Thai
person losing face or gaining face how they're perceived as the perception
people of looking at them as their family so when you take a Thai woman out
of her country and away from her family her family
I think perspective I would but they do sort of expect that you are going to
take care of them in some way or help because you taking one of their
daughters off them it was bringing an income into the family now the thing
about this state has taken a losing face and gaming face if I was an example if I
was fought for my wife today a two week holiday in the Caribbean high style
luxury kala day for two weeks or offer her two days in Rome with me taking
photos of her with all the famous sites or in Paris pictures by the Eiffel Tower
or do you think which one will she pick and it comes down to these typeface
again my wife would pick the two days in Rome it takes a bit of getting your head
round but by her having some photos of famous landmarks
behind her and sharing that with her friends and family back in Thailand it's
professor of the social ladder and also because she's left side undergone to the
UK she's gone up the social ladder now another example when you're thinking
about Italia was later this year I'm a fifty-five going to be recently retired
or retiring moving to our house in thailand
now when i put this to my wife and i were going to move back to Thailand
she's not that fast or she's not really looking forward to it because when we
get to Thailand she doesn't want to be working in a normal job in Thailand
she's gone up the social ladder by marrying me and coming to the UK so she
wants something that's going to keep her at the level she's at in the social
ladder and for example we're looking little businesses we've been trying to
make as you can see from my vlogs she'll want her own business so she can employ
some Thai people that have a business in Thailand then find then she'll be happy
to go there and provide she's earning money so it's very you could talk about
for this is this subject having a side why for hours on lots of different
angles yes I would definitely marry my wife again to 13 years ago I'm glad I
did and I'm happy life is different having a Thai wife if I hadn't met her
and I'd have pubs up with some local woman then I'd have probably dropped
into conforming the you know by the house of the kids and get old having a
Thai wife has put energy into my life it's given me a lot better life I
believe my wife she has two jobs she looks really hard because we've had
those little businesses going inside and it's helped the family the whole family
has moved up the social ladder in the village they all gained from things
we've done so overall it's very good I'm very happy I have would I advise anybody
to marry a toy woman only if you spend some time in Thailand learn the basic
cultures you get to know the woman and get to know her family with your eyes
open if you are if you don't have any money if you've got no prospects in your
own country of being able to move forward then don't do it until you're in
a position that you've got secure job and you've got a home and you can move
forward with your toy work a couple of my friends here had Thai wives they
didn't have money at all they were scraping along in basic very
basic jobs and they the Thai woman they brought over went back home just
couldn't couldn't make ends meet money is very important to my wife because she
wants security and security for her family a lot of Thai women you hear the
sayings money's number one it should be family's number one every toy woman I
know the most important thing to is a family but then you need the money to be
make the family happy there's so many different things
it's my wife is I mean she's fantastic
I cannot falter she's we have our arguments I get every marriage and your
ups and downs but she has enhanced my life considerably I wouldn't be with HMA
and hopefully our future want to go back to Thailand hopefully everything will go
well and at some point you guys will get to
meet her in the future on the vlogs especially when we're over in Thailand
you'll get to meet them so that's why I put that vlog together if you've got
questions because it's tons more things I could talk about if I were there any
questions drop them down below you know if that button where it says
show less than show more put some comments in it would be great to hear
from you and our by all means give you my perspective in life from my
experience with my wife of quite happily talk to you and if there's any sort of
vlog you want with reference towards give me a shout and I'll do that for you
I'm up to 15 subscribers so thank you for those people who subscribed it still
young Channel and I'm enjoying the big learning curve with cameras all the rest
of it it is good it's hard work without me I'm enjoying
it and I'm getting some good feedback some people I know they're my vlogs a
bit basic at the moment but we'll see what happens
and I'll say goodbye for now and catch you in the next vlog bye bye