Casey Zander: How to text a woman to maintain interest?
Okay.
This is a question that I've got commented at me before, and people are wondering, "What
do I do with the cellphone in order to make sure I keep this woman interested and to make
sure that I can maintain her level of attraction on the date?"
Casey Zander: Now, there's a few steps that people are not understanding when it comes
to this topic, so we're about to dive in.
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Casey Zander: So this is my own personal mechanism that I call with all my students.
All right?
This is called the drop-off theory.
Right?
This is where you are real interested, and you drop off the face of the earth.
Now, what most men are doing today is they're using the phone to think that they can work
up an interest level on the girl.
They think that they can literally seduce the girl through the phone, and it's just
simply impossible, you guys.
You cannot maintain a woman's attraction on the phone.
All right?
You cannot maintain her interest level through the phone, so how to text a woman to maintain
her interest is only in the beginning.
It's only the preliminary steps.
So what do I mean by this?
Casey Zander: Well, when you encounter a new girl that you're talking to, when you encounter
a new girl that you're texting, what you want to do, A, is you want to make your personality
on the phone match exactly how you are in real life.
So that way, there's no disconnect.
Right?
That way, there is no curve balls when this woman meets you, and what you want to do is
you want to maintain masculine frame, you want to maintain seduction, you want to be
a little bit flirty with her on the text messages, so that way, she gets the gist that this is
a real man-to-woman interaction.
Right?
Not just friend-to-friend.
Casey Zander: You're not trying to get to know her on the phone.
You're trying to raise her interest level and flirt with her just enough to make it
seem interesting and enticing enough to get her on the date.
That's the whole goal of the phone.
Phone game is to meet her on person, to meet her in person.
That is your number one goal, so what you're doing is you're texting her and flirting with
her to maintain interest in the beginning.
Casey Zander: So when you texted her, you might say something like, "Hey, you crazy
ass.
How was your day?"
Right?
Most guys would just say, "Hey, what's up?"
Right?
You say, "Hey, you crazy ass."
You try to spike her emotion.
Then, you might say something like, "Maybe we should get drinks sometime this week because
it might be kind of fun or if you're a chill girl to get drinks with, if you're into that
kind of stuff."
Right?
You start to just throw some nags at her.
So that way, it's worded in a way where she realizes you're trying to poke fun at her.
Right?
Casey Zander: So the interest level is high at this point.
She's agreed to meet you on a date.
You guys have made plans to go out on a date.
But now, here's where the real magic happens to maintain her interest.
As soon as you get out on the date, what you want to do as, A, make your personality matches
how you were on the phone, so still flirt with her.
Still play.
Keep it playful.
Keep it fun.
Keep it sexual.
Casey Zander: Then, what you're going to do is after the interaction, this is where the
real phone game and interest comes, okay, because once the date is over, once you've
already met in person, your goal is to take a step back.
You need to pull back, okay, because what happens is with men in the interaction, men
are so driven.
Men are so...
That's that masculine energy.
It's like we're drivers.
Just go, go, go.
Right?
Casey Zander: What happens is when you constantly text a girl, the more she has to hear from
you, the more you're checking up on her, the more you're worrying about her and not following
your own day, your own passion, your own purpose, the less attracted she's getting.
So I call this the drop-off theory, right?
So after the date, you guys might've had a great interaction.
You guys might have...
Maybe she even came to your house and you guys slept together.
Maybe.
Let's just say it escalated as far as you wanted to take it.
Okay?
Casey Zander: What you're going to do then is you're going to drop off.
You're going to drop off.
It's a drop-off theory.
You stop hitting her up first.
You start to let her do the pursuit because what you want is you want her to be wondering,
"Well, what did I do to piss this guy off?"
Right?
"What did I do to make this guy not want to call me?
What did I do to lower this guy's interest and this guy's attraction?"
So by you pulling back, naturally, it's going to make you look like a higher value male,
and therefore, it's going to raise her interest.
Right?
Casey Zander: By you pulling back and by you not pursuing it puts her in that scarcity
mindset.
That's what you need is you need the woman in the scarcity mindset because you as the
strong dominant male, it's her job to try to lock you down.
Right?
Not the other way around.
So my biggest flirting tip when you're texting is you have to make sure that interest is
maintained by you pulling back.
Casey Zander: Now, for a lot of you guys, that might really scare you because you're
in that scarcity mindset.
You're thinking, "Oh my gosh, if I don't text her back, what if I don't hear from her or
anything like that?"
That's where you just got to have that mindset of abundance like if you don't hear from her,
screw it.
Right?
You're not trying to be at the disadvantage of the interaction, so you pull back.
Start to let her pursue, and that's going to raise her interest because hopefully, what
you're getting out of this is you're trying to set another date.
You want her to start to wonder, "Hey, when can I see you again?"
Right?
"When can I meet up with this guy?"
Casey Zander: So as soon as she starts making those type of gestures, those type of comments,
that's how you know you're doing stuff in the right way.
If she ever says things like...
If she says things like, "When am I going to see you again?" or maybe, "We don't spend
enough time together," or, "Hey, had a great time last week.
Haven't heard from you."
Anything like that.
That's the sweetest spot you want to be in.
That's like prime time.
You got her right where you want her, and that's what you do.
Casey Zander: It's the drop-off theory, so drop off from the conversation.
Let her start to pursue.
Do not over pursue a woman because that's going to drive her away, and you have to be
willing to take the risk to say some flirty stuff and possibly offend during the text
in the initial meetup, and you also have to be willing to take the risk to drop off and
to drop back so that way, she can have a chance to chase and pursue you.
Right?
Casey Zander: So comment below what happens when you text a girl too much?
I want to know everybody's experience.
If you've texted a girl repeatedly and you haven't heard back what happens?
Either she shies away or maybe if you've had an interaction where it goes really well,
post that below too.
I want to know what's actually happening.
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I hope you enjoyed this.
How to text a woman to maintain interest.
Only spike it enough to meet her in person, and then you're going to hit that drop-off
hard.
We'll see you next time.