Jeffy is overweight.
& no matter how hard his friends say that he can actually change,
he would always find ways to prove them wrong.
jeff is one of those people who think that everyone else can do it except themselves.
in order to elaborate this victim mentality, we have to analyze his childhood.
IN his teenage years, Jeffy has gone through many painful experiences.
In highschool, he was very bad at math.
Every time he fails a math test.
His teacher would yell at him & call him a failure in front of the whole class.
he would spend half an hour lecturing how stupid jeffy is & how hilarious his exam paper
was.
The poor wretch would go home crying.
As he grew up, every time he's confronted with a challenge,
his brain associates it with his past painful experiences.
Jeffy now thinks he's unable to loose weight because of that childhood scar.
This is why no matter how hard his friends contend that he can actually change, he will
justify his incompetence.
most of us have gone through the same thing.
If you were bullied as a kid, you grow up with social anxiety.
If you were shamed a lot, you develop many insecurities,
& your identity, your self image would revolve around those insecurities.
You see the world through them.
the good news is, your identity is malleable.
The belief that you're unable to change is just an illusion.
You can literally mold who you are into any type of person you want.
This process entails two basic steps:
First: Realize & concede that your essence is an empty shell.
As a little baby, you are born with no thoughts, no beliefs, nothing.
Just utter hollowness.
You forgot about this truth.
Because these negative beliefs about yourself are firmly ingrained through years of conditioning.
To reinvent your weakling self,
First, you have to reason that you were like an empty container as child.
while growing up, you've been stuffed with all sorts of fallacies.
through them, you've created a sense of identity.
Who you think you are feels so true to you but scientifically speaking,
you're self-image is just a bundle of interwoven ideas, facts, experiences.
You could've been loaded with dissimilar beliefs & your self-image would've turned out completely
different from your current one.
But there is no time for regret.
What's important is the prospect of change.
No matter what sort of identity you have,
you can detangle all obsolete hard-wiring & reinvent yourself.
The first step is to Start perceiving your mind as a container that can be emptied out
& loaded with any beliefs you want.
Once you distance yourself from who you think you are & accept that you are malleable, we
can then get to work.
Second step:
Exploit the power of influence.
As a child you didn't have enough consciousness to hamper
negativity from entering your head.
The fact of getting affected by your influences was inevitable.
But now you're conscious enough to learn how to filter
what you don't want to hear.
It's a vital skill but difficult to harness.
A great tool that will help you cultivate this skill is brainwashing.
You're literally going to brainwash yourself with positive stimulus on a daily basis.
The process is the following:
Make it a habit to soak up self-help content.
Read books & biographies about successful people.
Watch seminars, listen to audio-books wherever you go.
I know this sounds platitudinous but this is actually how change occurs.
You first identity was made through constant exposure to negative influences.
Likewise, your new identity is shaped through that same process, use influences to your
advantage.
If you look at musicians, they learn how to play through imitation.
Self-improvement is no different than that.
You've got all these basic pillars I.e emotional intelligence, meditation, social skills etc.
When you absorb all of these & expose yourself to them habitually.
Your current self-image will wither away, you will literally transcend into someone
else.
So the basic gist of it:
Your self-concept is altered by influencing the brain with beliefs that counteract the
old ones.
You should devote a specific time in the day to soak up positive stimulus.
also don't forget to Alternate between theory & practice.
Reading books & watching seminars isn't enough.
you need to apply that knowledge so that it gets firmly hard-wired into your psyche.
After a year or so, your self-image will re-enginer itself.
You'll literally transform from the inside out.
In my humble beginnings on youtube.
With every new book I read, I would think
"oh this book is difficult to elaborate, it's not like the other ones, I can't do this,
I'm not a native speaker, blba bla bla"
but when I look back now, I've always managed somehow to write a script for every single
book i've read.
I would read it, take down notes then I'd have to expand on them.
But I didn't know how I was going to it.
WHAT's intriguing however, I would start with a blank paper, having no clue of what I'm
going to say
to writing a whole neatly organized script.
To me personally, it felt like magic.
in psycho-cybernetics, however, doctor Maltz reveals plainly how this obscure phenomenon
works.
Remember that search engine you're using ? google ? bing or whatever.
well, you have a similar one inside your brain.
But your mental search engine is a thousand times faster.
here's how it works:
When the brain is exposed to any kind of problem.
writing a book review for example.
your mental search engine is triggered.
A problem is basically unfinished information.
You have to fill in the gaps to solve it.
The second you're exposed to the task, your search engine diagnoses the problem then scans
your memory for relevant information.
Most people get pissed off when confronted with a challenging task
but what they're not aware of,
Frustration is a sign that your search engine is trying to insert different types of data
inside the gaps of the problem.
If something doesn't fit in, the mind will keep scanning your memory for the right information
that will suddently, click.
If you haven't yet found a solution & you're experiencing some heavy headaches, it just
means your brain has to keep searching.
Retain your focus on the problem & Eventually, the solution will pop up.
If you think back on your life,
there was no problem that you couldn't resolve.
You might have not found a solution to all of them.
but you've managed somehow to ignore or get past them.
So the next time you're agonizing about something, realize that you already have the solution
for it.
you just have to stop reacting emotionally, and focus on fixing it.
Keep exposing the mind to the problem & in one way or the other, something will click.
-How amazing it is to tackle any problem with the idea in mind that you already have the
solution for it.
You can also rely on your search engine to accomplish any goal.
from my personal experience.
The answer to how I've achieved some of my goals is because I thought about them every
single second.
That heightened focus on a particular task is somewhat sufficient to make it happen.
without disregarding the critical component of taking action of course.
You can't just sit there, meditate on becoming a millionaire & then somehow you're going
wake up with a lamborgini in your garage.
You concentrate on what you want, you work hard,
and through that journey of hustling & maintaining clean focus.
the mind will find lanes to clear up the way for you.