- So in this video, I'm gonna show you
the three simple things you can do
to have irresistible magnetic energy.
This will change your vibration from the inside out.
People will respond to you differently
and you will literally feel differently about you.
Now, the first thing to understand with this process
is that once again, as I said in many of my videos,
people feel what you feel about you.
So the energy of us and how we feel in our bodies
is going and emanating out and other people
are responding to it based in that way.
If we believe there is something wrong with us,
if we believe we're not good enough,
if we believe we need something from anybody else
whether that's validation or wanting their approval,
they will feel that off of us
and that is a repellent energy.
So to understand what we can actually do,
in order for us to become more quote-unquote, attractive,
this is about understanding energy.
And the first thing you can do
that will change your energy in a very powerful way
is healing that of the things
that are causing us to seek approval
from the outside or to seek validation from the outside
or even the belief that somebody out there
is going to cure or fix what's going on
so that I feel whole and complete.
And letting go of that belief
and sharing something called vulnerability
will completely transform your life.
Now, the thing that we do a lot of times in relationships
and even the thing that I did for a long time
is I would, in a way, I would hide this belief
and this feeling inside of myself
whereas like I didn't feel good enough,
I felt like I was seeking approval and validation
and I was in this energy, I believe,
because there was a belief there that literally said
I'm not good enough the way that I am.
So I would then seek it on the outside.
But within what would happen
is there were certain personality traits
that would come in where I was a people pleaser,
and what is called a nice guy.
I had to shed that like two years ago, year and a half ago.
I had to let go of this this personality construct
that was not vulnerable, nice guys
And people pleasers are not vulnerable
because they're not showing the real them.
To be vulnerable means that you're literally expressing
the real you even if it means you could be rejected.
We have these beliefs that if I share my true desires,
if I share this real part of myself,
I will get rejected somehow, I won't be accepted.
So what the nice guy does is the nice guy
and the people pleaser, they are afraid of tension.
They're afraid of other people feeling challenged.
They are afraid of being polarizing.
They're afraid of not getting
other people's validation and approval.
So a lot of times they will change themselves,
they'll be this inauthentic aspect of themselves
which is then not attractive
and it actually repels love.
It's not real.
People like realness.
Like even me in this video, sharing with you
that I used to have this people pleaser,
nice guy personality construct that I had to shed,
you probably feel at least a little bit more connected
to my story, even if you never had that
in your life, but just because it's like,
oh, he's being real, he's expressing these things
that aren't attractive to necessarily express,
but in the courage to express them,
it does something very magical.
And like the nice guy, for a long time I was afraid
to express to somebody that I was even dating.
I would be like afraid to express to them
that I had some type of interest in them
like either sexual interest or more than just friendship.
And what I eventually had to learn to do
is I had to learn how to express that.
And once I did that, it changed everything.
So one thing you could realize
is the more you are being vulnerable,
the more you are having the courage to show the real you,
and to also observe the belief that says like
you're not worthy, you have to be different,
you have to lose your own frame,
the more magnetic you'll be when you let that go,
that belief go.
So that's the first thing you could do.
Now, the second thing for this
is something that I call being in your own frame.
So something you can do even right now
as you watch this video, we'll do it just for two seconds.
Put your energy in your hands and your feet.
Feel the separation between you and the wall.
You and the cam, I mean, for me, it's the camera,
but you and the computer.
As you feel separation,
there's this magnetic thing that happens
and it's hard for me to describe this
because it's only something you really experience
once you do it.
And I call this the frame technique.
The frame technique is where you feel safe
in your own frame, safe in your own body, and you're not,
you're not seeking and trying to get energy
from out there into here,
and you're not scattering your own energy field.
So one thing that I did is I did this technique
when my shadow or coach taught me it
and I would go out in public and it was like magic.
People responded to me differently,
I felt safe in my own body,
I didn't feel like I had to reach out to other people
especially if I didn't feel authentic.
Sometimes I would like say hi to people and stuff
just because I felt like I had to or something.
I remember going on an ATV ride with my dad
and my dad's like total nice guy,
that's kinda where I got the the pattern
that I had to shed.
We were like driving on this ATV through this
course, this place in Sedona.
And I remember he was like letting these people go,
or he was in the passenger seat, I was driving.
And it was just the way he was, you know,
he was like, oh yes, yes, so sorry, so sorry.
Okay, go ahead. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like it was just...
Not that it's not, it's okay to be nice.
No. Okay, let me rephrase that.
It's okay to be kind,
but a lot of times, being nice
is in exchange for someone's validation or approval
because a lot of times, people that are nice,
they are afraid of other people's rejection
so they're doing it to get something else.
It's a manipulative tactic.
And I had to learn this and like go through it
in a hard way but it's important to become aware
of that frame.
It's like seeking someone else's frame.
My dad attracted my ex-stepmom.
My ex-stepmom's a narcissist.
My dad's like an empath, the nice guy
and he's been working with his energy
but also, why did he attract that?
Well in a way, it was safer for him
to be a part of her frame
than it was for him to be in his own frame.
So this is an energy thing, a feeling in your own frame.
And if you do this embodiment exercise,
you will feel more magnetic
and you will see that people respond to you differently.
I've shared this in a couple of videos.
I'll share it real quick.
I know some of you watch a lot of my videos,
some of you may have not heard this story before but
at a life transformation workshop in Costa Rica,
there was this lady that gave a TED Talk.
She was explaining energy.
And she said like, if we all project our energy
at her right then, she said she felt repelled
'cause we were projecting energy at her.
She said, now bring all the energy back into your body
bring it into your hands, bring it into your feet.
And as we did that, she said she could literally feel
magnetized towards the crowd.
So in a way, I always remembered that
because now that I've learned the frame technique,
I'm like, oh, it's like the same thing.
Being centered in your own body,
being centered in your own frame,
not seeking frame, frame is like your sense of reality.
Are you seeking comfort in someone else's reality
or are you able to like feel safe
in your own frame of reality?
Which means literally being in your own body,
it's as simple as it gets being safe in your own body
and also having a vision for your life,
having a vision for your life and understanding
that the more you
put energy into you
leading in your life, in a way where you're like
you're setting yourself up to be
in this frame of reality where you love your life,
you're excited for it,
you're then in a different energy
than when you're seeking something from somebody else.
And a lot of times, if we want someone to chase us,
what we're really asking for
is we're asking for their validation or approval.
We think that we want them to like us,
but it's to hide the fact
that we may not actually really love ourselves.
So this is something that the more we become aware
of our own self love, because remember,
the more you love yourself, not in a narcissistic way,
but the more you appreciate yourself,
you have insecurities,
things that you don't accept about yourself.
The more you accept them,
the more other people will accept them.
Literally reality is reflecting back
what we believe to be true about ourselves.
So the second one about being in your frame
is one of the most powerful techniques I've learned,
just the frame technique.
Now the third thing,
and the third thing you can actually do
to be way more attractive
is to realize that life is kind of like a game
and that because it's kinda like a game,
like we're here to have this temporary human experience,
but at the same time, we're meant to just have fun.
We're meant to enjoy our lives.
And I'll tell you that the more fun you have,
the more people wanna be a part of your frame.
Laughter, fun, lightness is very attractive
and it is very magnetic.
And sometimes we'll tell ourselves a story,
oh I'm not just that light, I'm so serious.
That's just a story.
Let go of the story that you're not fun.
Let go of the story that says you can't have fun
all the time, or you can't enjoy life.
It's funny but I looked at like the way I used
like even just a couple months ago,
the way I'd go to the gym, the way I would do things
I'd do things on a very specific regimen.
Now I'm doing things I just feel like doing,
things I know I'm gonna have more fun doing.
It's a different way to go about this
but it really changes the energy.
Have you ever seen it?
Like I've seen it so many times
where people go out with friends, they just have fun.
And then it's like their energy is so magnetic.
And then they're just, it's like a magnet.
I went out with some friends a couple years ago,
my friend Rebecca and some other friends,
we did these things where we went out in public
and did these like crazy embarrassing things
and we had like a scavenger hunt.
So we had like a list of embarrassing things to do.
One of 'em was I like had to go to a grocery store
and help two people help me find my purple ferret
and convinced them to help me find my purple ferret
for five minutes.
I did that.
Had to reenact a scene from Titanic
with blasting a radio on the front of a Whole Foods cart
that said my heart will go on
and I had to get somebody to do that with me.
It was like just fun, but because it was so fun,
and this was at the peak of like the stuff
that was going on in the world
where everything was like shut down.
So many people were attracted to our energy
even despite the fact of all the new stuff.
It was like, we were just,
we were just magnets for positive energy
because we were in that positive state.
So feeling in this kind of energy,
feeling in this positive state really changes thing,
but a lot of this as well, just to be completely honest,
the core issue of a lot of this
is an abandonment wound,
feeling like we can't be ourselves
and feel like we have to change
our own center of gravity to receive love.
And one of the things to look at
with this abandonment wound
is that we've abandoned ourselves in the process
of not getting abandoned by other people.
So to stop abandoning ourselves is the key
to find out what do I want?
How can I be in my own frame?
How can I stop pinging to other people.
Realizing as well there's a deeper level to this
but it's not your fault
whether your parents divorced,
whether you felt emotionally or physically abandoned
when you're a kid, whatever it is,
it's like if we reframe some of that meaning
and that story, we then won't internalize
this level of shame that says I'm broken
because then we carry that shame and it dims our light.
It dims our magnetic energy.
Now one thing that we are doing,
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five confident secrets right here
that will change your life.
People feel what you feel about you.
The energy inside of our bodies are contagious
and based on how we feel about ourselves,
that energy is being emanated out
and other people are responding to us based on that.