hey everyone and welcome to top think today we're going to learn about why silent people are so
successful now let's begin life is loud chaotic and distracting it's filled to the brim with
demanding mental and physical challenges you're swept up in a tidal wave of stress but successful
people separate themselves from the noise and chaos successful people understand the power
of silence so here are seven ways that silence can change your life for the better number one
thoughtful silence a moment of silence is a moment of thoughts well let's say your co-worker asks
you for a favor they want you to drive all the way across town and deliver some documents they forgot
to send when confronted with this question you may have a knee-jerk reaction and without thinking you
might say sure no problem but 10 seconds later you realize it is a problem suddenly you're pressed
for time and overwhelmed by stress all because you answered without thinking a few seconds of silence
can spare you from these stressful scenarios instead of answering right away what if you took
a moment to think about your schedule you remember how much work you already have you tell your
co-worker that you're too busy so they ask someone else instead and just like that a brief period of
silence keeps your priorities straight and your schedule clean that's why successful people pause
whenever they need to they view silence as an opportunity to consider their options because
every decision is worth a few moments the thought now of course not everyone can silently analyze
their problems you may feel so awkward that you can barely think straight before you're
able to use these pauses constructively you have to overcome your fear of silence that's why many
of the wealthiest and most influential people in the world are also the quietest number two
persevering integrity a brief pause does more than simply give you time to think when you pause for a
second a minutes or an hour your decision becomes more careful and more decisive instead of doubting
and second-guessing yourself you know that you did your due diligence you weighed the pros and cons
and you double-checked your schedule now with all your boxes checked you can move forward unimpeded
whether you answer yes or no your decision is now clear and firm as you become more decisive
you'll notice a change in the way people treat you they'll start respecting your decisions and
valuing your choices why is that well because decisive people mean what they say for example
they consistently fulfill their promises so instead of saying yes to everything they only
say yes to the commitments they intend to keep people will respect you more because they trust
you more when people trust you to follow through your word carries more weight that newfound sense
of dependability works wonders in any relationship personal or professional your friends and partners
will genuinely believe in the promises you make your bosses and co-workers will have faith in your
ability to succeed something as simple as silence can strengthen your relationships and earn you
the respect you deserve number three direct and concise talking a lot and saying alot mean very
different things have you met someone who rambles for 15 minutes without really saying anything many
people feel compelled to talk constantly silence makes them nervous so they fill every blank space
with gibberish and small talk the problem is when they're constantly talking they're rarely
thinking they say very little even if their word count flies through the roof some people talk
too much and say too much have you ever heard the term fast talker a fast talker is someone
who tries to trick you by burying you under a mountain of ideas and incentives by the end you
barely understand what's going on often times they do this on purpose to push their agenda salesmen
for example confuse customers with a flood of information many people imitate fast talkers by
accident they talk and they talk because they don't know when enough is enough they don't
realize how little sense they're making successful people on the other hand talk a little but say
a lot in other words they're always direct and they're always concise when a successful person
needs something they present their needs in a way that's simple and easy understand they don't dance
around the point they don't hide their agenda under a flood of extraneous ideas they say what
they need to say then they stop this is one big reason why successful people seem quiet they're
experts at shaving their needs down to the bare essentials if two ideas can be explained with
one idea they always go short and sweet number 4 psychological liberation silence isn't just a
tool for professional success it's also a powerful source of mental clarity by growing accustomed to
silence you can provide your mind with a space to think and feel freely our daily routines are
packed with crowds of stimuli from traffic jams on the freeway to densely packed spreadsheets
your brain is exposed to an incredible volume of information every day it's challenging to remove
yourself even for a moment from the downpour of distractors in your life but as you discover the
power of Silas you'll find a rare opportunity to set your mind free you can liberate your thoughts
from the shackles of your daily life instead of worrying about unanswered emails you can use
these periods of silence to enjoy the present moment this is one way that successful people
balance their demanding life styles with such an extraordinary amount of pressure on your shoulders
it's easy to crumble to lose control and fall into a downward spiral but moments of silence keep your
stress at bay each time you feel the pressures of your lifestyle creeping in just take a brief
moment to yourself just tune out the world remind yourself about the things that really matter your
goals your passions and your loved ones remind yourself where you started and how far you've
come tell yourself that it's okay to make mistakes that failure is natural gradually these moments
will melt away your stress returning to your work with a clear head and a positive attitude you can
fill your day with as much silence as you need some successful people enjoy moments of silence
every couple of hours others set aside a longer period of time to completely relax their minds
according to a 2016 study in annals of the New York Academy of Sciences achieving a state of
wakeful relaxation requires just three simple things find somewhere comfortable to sits free
yourself from distractions like your computer and your phone and gently close your eyes the
first few times your mind will be restless packed with leftover stress and anxiety researchers call
this jumble of thoughts and feelings monkey mind because your brain swings from one idea to the
next but over time you'll get more comfortable in silence you'll learn to soothe your nerves
unravel your stress and liberate your Restless mind number five enhanced concentration not
only does silence help you relax it fine Tunes many of your most productive traits well take
concentration for example your ability to focus on a single goal is critical for any project few
characteristics are as productive or valuable as razor-sharp concentration mindful silence has
helped countless successful people to grow their concentration and it can help you too as it stands
not many people can sit in silence without getting restless or bored their itching to pick up their
phones open their computers or do something active as strange as it sounds doing nothing is a real
challenge but it's a challenge worth tackling a 2012 study from the Journal of Neuroscience
found that practiced meditators people who sit in silence on a regular basis had many cognitive
advantages over people who never meditated the largest discrepancies revolved around attention
for experienced meditators the areas of the brain responsible for attention were much more stable
because of that stability meditators can rein in distracting thoughts faster than most people in
other words by sitting in silence you teach yourself to tune out distractions from your
environments and from yourself you learn how to keep your mind focused and lengthen your
attention span so you can focus longer and harder than ever before sitting in silence may not look
like much on the outside but its impact on your brain is nothing short of incredible
number six inner wisdom as you become more comfortable in silence you may notice a change
inside yourself suddenly you can hear your inner monologue more than ever before your thoughts were
jumbled indecisive and confusing you struggle to make decisions and think through problems on
your own but as you spend more time inside your mind your thoughts become richer and louder you
overcome nervous hurdles you discover what you want in life and you give your inner monologue
the opportunity to speak for itself now at this stage you may be surprised by how much
wisdom you have to offer normally you're so overwhelmed by doubt and fear that you
ignore your own instincts you tune out your gut feelings you invalidate the lessons you learn
and the wisdom you have to offer successful people use moments of silence to nurture that
voice inside them they trust their instincts and value their own opinions but that takes time and
practice right now your head is so noisy that you can't hear your own voice but as you grow
more and more comfortable in silence you'll hear your wisdom loud and clear hey thank you
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