Matt: Many guys are completely lost when it comes to attracting women. Not too long
ago, I was that guy myself. Although after everything I've learned about women, and
how much my life has changed as a result, it seems like another lifetime And this
is good news for you because if I was able to learn how to attract women as
needy and insecure as I was back then, then you can learn how to. My name is
Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man and I'm gonna show you how to attract women effortlessly.
Matt: Now, I'm gonna start off by giving
you a conceptual overview of how to attract gorgeous women into your life
using energy polarity. And then, I'll get more concrete giving you three practical
tips that you can use right away to become more attractive. And it's
important that you understand the first part in order to build context for the
three actionable tips later on. Alright, let's dive in!
Did you ever play with magnets as a kid? If you did, then you're probably familiar with the concept of
polarity attraction. Magnets have two poles, right? A positive and a negative. If
you put two of the same poles together, they repel each other. But if you put two
opposite poles together, a positive and a negative, they attract each other. The
same concept applies to attracting women. Like magnets,
humans have polarities masculine and feminine.
Unfortunately, masculine traits such as aggression, assertiveness, and dominance
are often demonized by our society. This, and a few other contributing factors
leads to a culture of wimpy, and effeminate men who, according to the law
of energy, polarity can only attract masculine dominant women. Not the
alluring, more feminine women that you probably desire. Much of attracting the
women that you actually want in your life comes down to embracing and
deepening this masculine polarity that is your birthright. Now, this can be a
daunting task because it takes a lot of retraining your behavior in your belief
system. However, once you're rooted in the solid foundation of your masculine
energy, not only will you feel amazing but gorgeous women will flock to you
because they want to bask in the presence of your masculine energy with
almost no effort on your part. In fact, all the techniques in the world can't
replace the effortless attraction that being rooted in your masculine polarity provides.
So, what are these masculine traits that women find so attractive? And
how can you go about developing them? Well, to understand the answers to these
questions, it helps to step into the shoes of the woman you want. While men
are primarily focused on physical attraction when it comes to dating,
at least, initially, women are a lot more physically fragile than men and largely
depend on the physical and psychological strength of a man for protecting her. Not
only do their instincts look for protection, they also seek provision,
giving women an ingrained desire to be around men with high social status. Men
with higher status have more access to resources such as food, shelter, and
allies. And can, therefore, better ensure her survival and that of her offspring.
If you're thinking this all sounds kinda caveman-esque, well, you're right. These
traits have been hardwired into the female psyche over hundreds of
generations of female evolution and you're not gonna change it. So the best
thing you can do is develop the masculine polarity traits that will
trigger a woman's deeply ingrained evolutionary bias to get a better
understanding of what type of behavior masculine polarity traits would include.
Think about the way Conor McGregor handles himself during MMA press
conferences and matches. He comes across as assertive, strong-willed, and even
aggressive when needed. He's not timid and doesn't shy away from calling people
on their shit. You get the feeling watching him that he's confident in his
ability to handle himself against all opponents. And probably wouldn't hesitate
to throw a punch if the situation called for it. Now, obviously, if you want to
attract a girl, the last thing you want to do is get in a fistfight. However, when
you're able to project a sense of dominance and grounded confidence that
comes willed from being able to stand up for yourself in all scenarios, women
can't help but take notice of you. So, now we know that the shortcut for attracting
women is developing high status masculine polarity traits. And now, we
kind of have an idea of what that looks like in a man but just knowing that
information is not enough in order to develop attractive traits. You need to
practice these behaviors until they become ingrained into who you are. That
means creating specific measurable goals just like you would in any other area of
your life or a skill set. Do this with the following masculine traits and I
guarantee you, you'll have more gorgeous women in your life than you ever
imagined! Now, let me give you my top three masculine high status traits. And
first, make sure to subscribe to this channel
and hit that bell notification icon. Because I want to let you know every
time we come out with awesome new videos. Okay, #3 is High-Status Body
Language. When you've developed the masculine polarity traits, you'll
naturally find yourself expressing those traits through your words and your body
language. Indicating your high status automatically. Conveniently, it also works
the other way around. Using high status body language causes
you to feel a sense of confidence, dominance, masculine presence and higher
status within yourself. Remember that your psychology influences your
physiology and your physiology influences your psychology. Here's some
high status body language keys to keep in mind. You gotta have solid eye contact
because high status men do not shy away from eye contact. When you meet a woman's
gaze do so with calm grounded laser-like eye contact. You don't want it to feel
creepy or intense. Rather, you want it to feel comfortable and relaxed. Have
deliberate movements, avoid fidgeting, jerking or sudden movements as those
indicate emotional distress associated with low status. Instead, make slow
deliberate movements that project an air of calm, confidence. And finally, being
non-reactive in a social interaction. The high-status individual is the one that
others are reacting to, not the other way around. So avoid physically reacting to
other people. Now, that doesn't mean you ignore them, it just means you take your
time to deliberately respond to them on your terms. For example, last night I was
writing my book, which is one of my biggest goals and missions right now is
to finish this book. And my girlfriend came in trying to get my attention but
I'm so focused in the zone. You know, I had to get my, you know, the rest of my
thoughts out before I turned and responded to her. In any and all
interactions throughout your day, begin to notice your body language. Is it high
status and dominant? Or is it low status and submissive? And of course make those
adjustments accordingly. #2 is become a leader. And this
has two parts to it -- number one is become a leader of self. It
means you're living life deliberately based on your terms
and your values. Most people actually live a life that other people wanted for them
and they're living somebody else's values. Often times, their parents. In fact,
I did that for a long time when I went to college and studied computer science.
It was only because that's what my parents told me to do and it's what they
told me to study. And then after college, get a nine-to-five job, which I did. And I
wasn't really happy. It wasn't until I started this career and helping guys, you
know, overcome fear and anxiety, that's when I started really becoming happy. And
then, I almost gave it all up again to live somebody else's values when about
six years ago, my fiancee at the time, wanted us to move back to North Carolina,
where I was originally from, I went to high school. And live closer to my family
and worked for my family business and eventually become, you know, really high-up
in the business or maybe even the owner. And it's a great business. It's
huge. I would be making a ton of money, have a
really safe job because, you know, my family is probably not gonna fire me
unless I do somebody something horrible. And have this gorgeous, you know,
girlfriend who loved me very much. But I realized, it's not what I wanted. It
wasn't my values. It was somebody else's values, her values and I had to make a
decision. Do I want this life or not? And I ended up giving it all up. I ended up
breaking up with my fiancee and saying "no" to that job and moving out of the
country. And I've never lived back in the US since then. And that was definitely
one of the most important, hardest and best decision that I ever made. You only
have one life so you got to live the life that you want. So what are your
highest values? What are the things that are most important to you? And are you
doing those things? If not, it might be time for a change and start living like
deliberately on your terms with a clear, purpose. And, second is leader of others.
Men that are leaders are incredibly attractive to women because the fact
that others are willing to follow your lead indicates your high status. And it
makes it a lot easier for you to meet and attract women. Becoming the leader of
your social circle is actually pretty simple, it's just a little bit more
effort than the average Joe is willing to put in.
Start planning events that are centered around your interest and just invite
others to attend. This can be huge, epic parties or it can be just a small
get-together. It doesn't really matter, what's important is that you lead your
social circle in a way that makes people feel good about following your plan. And
#1 is Calm Under Tension. A masculine, high-status man does not break
under pressure. Think of the hero of pretty much any action movie where he
kills the bad guy and gets the girl at the end. He's usually very masculine and
he's not freaking out despite all the danger that's happening, right. Who's the
one that's freaking out? It's the other characters and they usually die but not
the hero. He remains calm and he takes control of the situation.
The same kind of idea applies for women. Just approaching a woman is an intense
situation, right. When you feel calm and grounded in that tension of that
interaction, trust me, she will notice and become attracted to you. Because just
like the action hero, she can feel that you can handle tense situations and
protect her if shit hits the fan. She might even say or do something just to
test to see if you really are as cool as you seem. Or if it's just a, you know, facade.
Brittany: You know, where did you get those shoes?
And just like in the movies, the
attractive hero doesn't get emotional when the woman objects to him or even
insults him. He's strong, unaffected. Like a rock, he never crumbles.
Girl: Look senior, maybe in a different life. Man: What offended you about the offer?
Man: Surely not that I find you both beautiful.
Become as attractive as possible, we want to
develop high-status masculine traits while systematically rooting out all
traces of low-status behavior. The way to do this is the repeated trial and error.
That is, going out and approaching women and making incremental improvements.
There will be failure, there will be rejection.
Matt: Excuse me, real quick. One second. Wait!
Matt: Rejected.
In fact, if you're not failing, then you're not pushing yourself nearly
hard enough. Failures often represent a weakness in your game or in your skill.
The faster that you can fail and improve, the faster you can live the life that you
want. And then, you'll look back and you'll you'll think your past self for
putting it all that effort that's required for greatness. Trust me man, I
put in the work and I still do and it does pay off. Now, to help you out on your
journey, I created a free escalation cheat sheet.
Because after she feels attracted to you, you have to escalate. You have to move
things forward and make your move. It's filled with advance escalation
techniques that will turn a friendly platonic interaction into a more
romantic "I want to rip your clothes off" vibe. This is very useful when you're
talking to a girl but it's going nowhere. So click the link down in the
description or to the right of the screen, right now, to get your free copy
of the escalation cheat sheet. Trust me man, you'll want to have this handy
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bootcamp schedule. Or get a free consultation. My name is Matt Artisan
from The Attractive Man and I'll see you in the next video!