Hey YouTube Brad browning here and I'm joined by a guest Kate spring here for
this video and we're going to talk about how to react your ex girlfriend so this
video is only for the guys out there and Kate Spring as an expert in men's
dating issues you have youtube channel as well it's very very popular as well
if you want to check that out just search can't spring here on YouTube and
today we're gonna like I said we're gonna talk about how to react rack your
ex-boyfriend and we're good talk a little bit dealing with with ladies in
general and also how you know specific situations related to your breakup and
getting your ex girlfriend out okay I want to start by talking a little bit
about some of the stakes that men make in that when they're in that kind of
situation when they want their ex girlfriend back I know a lot of my
clients anyway men do some things that sort of drive their ex further away I'm
thinking that those are the right things to do so do you have sort of a specific
recommendation for like it mistakes to avoid things you absolutely should not
be doing yes my number one mistake with that I find with men is during the no
contact period and they don't use that time wisely you should be using that
time apart from your ex to be social get out of your house don't sit at home
creeping her Facebook or Instagram kind of forget about her for a bit and really
focus on yourself because that's all you have control over at this point and
we're talking sorry if you're obviously a believer in the no contact than 30
days where you don't talk to your ex at all you guys can see any of my other
video a little talk about that so I see Kate's a believer and you're saying
basically use that productively but times that you're not talking to your ex
and focusing on yourself focus on yourself improve yourself and then when
you see her again she can have a holy shit moment you got hot or like you're
just like this super duper guy now at least it's not what she's expecting yeah
I definitely agree on that that's what not to do what about the office of what
what should you be doing specifically to to get your ex girlfriend back to make
yourself more attractive in the eyes of your scribe what are some things you
didn't know that guys could do in that situation definitely I think your ex is
gonna expect for you to be at home coming through her Facebook maybe crying
or watching binge watching Netflix I think if you flip that on its head and
you do exactly what she doesn't expect you to do I think that really puts you
it sets you up as a high value guy that didn't let this breakup defeat you right
as I'm being a high-value jonov individual they're not gonna sit around
wait for their ex to come back exactly being or whatever they're gonna get up
there and live awesome regardless right yeah they're
gonna be social they're gonna be active they're not gonna just be sitting at
home waiting for her to contact you so even those are probably things you're
not feeling like doing right now they're gonna help your situation is that they
okay awesome now I want to talk quickly about texting
2017 and guys out there are texting with their girlfriends all time are you a fan
of texting yes I think you cannot be dating in the 21st century and not text
yeah I agree no texting we see texting at me Facebook messages you know yeah
they sort of instant messaging situations and how do you recommend guys
use texting or those kinds of things to to get their ex girlfriend back and
specifically breakup related texts yeah I think it really depends on so your
first text message that you send her no contact after the no contact when you
first start to contact your ex again her response is really important and it's
key because you can tell a lot by the tone and that how fast she responds to
you and then you can kind of go off of her so texting too much I would refrain
from completely because you can always add text messages you can't take them
away right so it's better to be safe than then send to me exactly the kind of
less is more is my philosophy with this and so would you agree that sort of the
overall goal is to make it show to your ex that you don't need them so they you
know if you send in text use respond whatever that's fine right you're not
phase yes where she sends you when you don't have to respond cuz you're not
sitting there waiting savages right okay so and do you recommend something text
the text is your sort of your first way of contacting your ex that's sorry yes
first because it's kind of less you know threatening right how else would you do
it would you show up at her doorstep like in my mind that is the only logical
sense at this point I completely you would I mean I'm sure you've seen some
your client they do some interesting things showing up at the door with a
wedding ring that's probably not their wedding yeah so texting is that it's
sort of a low impact low totally and it doesn't make you it doesn't make her
feel like she needs to respond exactly it's just really non invasive but it
also is a great opportunity for you to show to be funny and like Rio tracked
her and show her your best qualities through texting and it also alleviates a
lot of pressure from you to be face to face so do you have specific text
messages you recommend sending in that situation or is it for anything it's fun
you're gonna make your ex smile kind of thing yeah I think keeping the
conversation light-hearted and front he is great be
brief and show that you've changed somehow you can talk about your new
hobbies or your new interests or adventures that you've went on so you
want any sub about that really you know what I want my ex back you want to make
that sort of under the radar that's not your your intention outwardly it's just
sort of I think everything to do with getting your ex back should be subtle I
think nothing about it should be blade-like
so don't anything unnatural you wouldn't have done before ever what about what it
comes to texting on mind games I mean you recommend waiting an hour or
whatever after you receive a text not just lying there all them what you try
to kill with that I don't like games but in this case I do think that waiting and
not you know instantly responding to your ex is key here because the timing
with which you respond to your ex it really shows your level of desperation
and if you're if you guys haven't talked in a month and then all of a sudden
you're responding to her texts within a second it shows that you're just sitting
on your phone waiting which is not what a high-value exactly a Thai person would
do right now yeah you might be oh you might even be on a date who knows my
hours later even if you're not you exactly yes the reason why you don't
respond right away yeah but you don't leave it too long no no and I think -
out of respect like if you have a certain level of respect for your ex I
just think like responding regardless is usually a good route what about
something like hey how's it going it's servo or a closed-ended text thing
like hope every day was great that kind of thing you recommend responding to
those your ex sent that to you for sure cuz you don't want to be kind of the
douchebag that like leaves her high and dry right okay okay but you don't have
to respond right away is what I'm saying but like eventually like great thanks
okay fair enough or you - I like it all right let's move on from texting okay
but I also want to talk about social media before that do that though I know
you have like you have a free attraction book for men thank you
you're giving away for free that's really awesome actually Kate was showing
it to me earlier if you guys wanna get a copy that it's called the attraction
handbook I believe Kate spring calm slash free okay check the description as
well have a link there and it's like 50 pages of awesome stuff about all the
stuff we're talking about here so if you want that coming spring calm slash free
and I imagine you talk about the little social media in that in that yeah free
book as well so let's talk about that I mean do you recommend
using social media if you are in order to get your ex back basically to get
your ex girlfriend to think about you wanting back totally I think social
media is the best like is a great way to reintroduce yourself to your ex or like
nudge your way back into her life if used correctly I think if you are a man
that is not used to posting a lot on social media I think that you really
need to ease into it because going down here yeah just be natural like go in
from zero to 100 and like from not posting to posting like five times a day
you're just gonna look very desperate and needy and that's like completely
what we want to avoid here which is me based I don't yeah I think I have you
know that that's like once a month so if all of a sudden I'm just in you know
seven inspirational causes yeah that's something found I would avoid posting
like inspirational quotes because that's a little bit transparent well for a
gentleman who's trying to get his ex back sure yeah and then be positive post
photos of yourself like show your ex what you look like again remind her post
photos of friends did a great thing about a lot of social media now is you
can check in geographically where you are so like let her know what you're up
to and yeah I just think social media is a wonderful way to react track or get
yourself back in your ex's life I like to see is a tool right now too you can
use to get messages across to your ex and I think basically sort of reject an
image that you want overly to project and have your extroverts see ya know
another question when it comes to social media is and I skip we get asked this
all the time I'm sure you get it doesn't say is what to do with your ex that's
blocked you so you know you're on Facebook blocks you how do you handle
that do you react them do you just do nothing what'd he do
yeah that's interesting I guess it depends on like the time frame that they
blocked you um if it's like right after you broke up then I think that's just a
call for I need space and I think you should follow in 30 day no contact
period and see where you stand after if she has unblocked you you can riad her
and see how that goes but I think if she doesn't read you then I think something
has must have happened in your breakup that has caused her to really not want
to talk to you again so at some level I think it's important to consider moving
at that point okay ensues I think I have a different take but that's a thing you
hear you feel but I agree that right after the breakup then it's probably
just she didn't want to see her yeah that something's in your post is it
didn't be reminded to have all the hard to come back but you're saying like if
it happens or three months later or six months later you're still blocked then
it's probably not a good sign yeah okay pretty much gotcha all right
so okay I have one more question for you I don't want to yell day
and now this is I just wanna open the floor to you so you know for the guys
out there that are watching they want to get their ex girlfriend back what is
some what are some things that they can do right now what are steps they can
take to better their situation and to make them themselves more attractive in
the eyes of their ex-girlfriend definitely I think there's a few things
that you can do number one is do not tell your ex that you want her back you
mean to be so subtle about this don't ya and don't beg or plead that it's just
those are attraction killers but something that will really up your value
with this career ex is to be confident and I know that how broad that sounds
but if we cliche it it is so true even if you do not feel a hundred percent
confident and you don't feel like you're hot shit you can fake it like just fake
it until you actually start to believe yourself so hang out with good like
funny people if you want to be that funny guy in a group start hanging out
with guys that make you laugh hang out with the good alpha-male figure out how
they interact with people and how they kind of are influencers they're not
influenced I think a lot of guys they don't really because they lack office
maybe I think that they can project that big confidence really but the only
person who doesn't know it's real is you right exactly nobody knows what you're
thinking on the inside so you can fake it basically effectively and nobody will
not raise me I encourage you to fake it if you don't feel it because confidence
is very important to me and it's appealing to women right totally weird
moment that's I don't really think that women like aren't attracted to the guy
hunched over so and that is what your excrement was expecting of you right now
in this situation she's expecting you to be at home crying and stalking around
Facebook so if you do the opposite you turn it down alpha-male project that
confidence confidence is key when you want your ex back and when you have that
confidence if you'll just make her rethink everything her break your
breakup and I know that you talk about confidence a lot right in your yeah
free attraction handbook and the URL again is www.katespring.com slash free and
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