Hello my wonderful friend! Let's talk about how to approach
girls. This works every time. Seriously I'm going to be sharing some
crazy effective secrets that stop rejection. Do you have the fear
of approaching a beautiful gal because you're afraid you're gonna be
rejected, you're gonna get turned down? Or have you been rejected a lot
and turned down a lot? If either of these situations sounds like you then this
video was made for you. You're going to learn
what to stop doing and you're going to learn what to start
doing so that you stop being rejected and instead you get the girl. So make
sure you watch to the end because each of these tips is very
very important. I have five specific tips for you today but before we dive in
if this is your first time watching, welcome! My name is Melannie.
I'm a christian dating coach for men. I teach you how to stop wasting your time
and your money on bad and dead-end relationships by
learning the skills you need to instead just get the girl of your dreams. So make
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thumbs up, and let's get started. Let's talk about
how to approach girls. These tips I am sharing with you
apply if there's someone you kind of sort of know
and you're just trying to figure out how to approach her, maybe
like you have mutual friends or something like that.
It also works if you're in one of those situations
where you're like "man, I'm probably never going to see her again.
Should I try and approach, try and get her number? Because
if I don't I'll never see her again." So these tips apply
for both scenarios. If you kind of know her a little bit or even if
this is like a completely cold approach. So tip number one for how to approach
girls is you need to be able to read her body language. One of the biggest
mistakes, please pay close attention guys, one of
the biggest mistakes that causes so many awesome guys to be
rejected is they approach without seeing the
signs that she was interested. If you have been watching
my videos for a while you may have seen this video or even this video and know a
little bit about how to know if a girl's interested, how
to know if she likes you. This is how you know if she wants you to
approach her. If she is sending those signs that she's
interested then it's pretty safe to approach, right? Because you know that
she's asking you to approach by how she's looking at you and how
she's interacting with you. If you approach when that's not happening
there's a much much higher likelihood that she's going to reject you. So that
tip right there is very helpful, however, that's not the
only thing you need. You can still mess it up at
this point. Which leads us to tip number two. You have
got to have a game plan, okay? Another one of the biggest mistakes that causes so
many good guys to be rejected is they don't really know what they're
doing. They just kind of guess what will work
hoping and praying that it will turn out well. But if you're just
guessing that's what's going to make you come across as awkward or creepy or
needy. And when you do that she's done. She's not trying to be rude, she's not
rejecting you because she's trying to be rude,
she feels awkward or she feels a little creeped out and that's what causes her
to reject you. When instead you have a game plan, when instead
you know step by step what to do, that's how you make your approach
incredibly successful. Now obviously these tips I'm sharing with you
are some of those steps and they're very very helpful. I do want to mention though
just because I want to set you up for complete and total success that this
is something I go in much greater detail on in my
program. Not only will you know step by step in
detail how to approach girls but you will also know how to get the
absolute love of your life. All the solid dating
and relationship skills you are needing, yeah, that's why I created the course to
teach you that. So if you haven't yet watched my free masterclass be sure to
do that now. You're going to get an overview of what I teach in that
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in that. So there's a link in the description
below to watch that free masterclass and there's
a link in the pinned comment below. Bottom line,
our second tip on how to approach girls guys is that you have to have a game
plan. You can't just "okay, I'm gonna man up, I'm just gonna
alpha up, I'm just gonna make this happen." That's how you appear aggressive and
needy and creepy. You need a game plan. So stop
winging it, stop just guessing what will work. That is honestly one of the
best ways to get rejected over and over again. Now our next tip on
how to approach girls is to make sure you know what to
say. A lot of men put so much effort into
that first line, that pick up line, what to say to
get her attention, and then they have no idea what to say
next. And when this happens she doesn't know what to say next either,
her mind is racing, and it ends up
becoming a very very awkward, awkward situation. Have you been
there? It's awkward. So make sure again this is
why that game plan is so important and this is something I do teach in my
program but this is why it's so important guys
plan it out, have a game plan, know what to say
after you approach her. This is going to make you feel comfortable, this is going
to help you feel confident, and it's going to make her feel
comfortable and make her feel more attracted to you. Quick question before
we get to our next tip. Are you enjoying this video on how
to approach women and would you like more videos on how to approach girls? If
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so I make sure to make more like this for you.
Okay our next tip guys is very very critical.
One of the biggest things you need to know when learning how to approach girls
is to not take it personal. Now I know this sounds
so much easier to say than it is to do, but with the right mindset this actually
becomes much more simple. Know it's a risk and don't take the risk
personally. At some point you have to take a risk,
okay? It does not matter how many signs you see
that she likes you, at some point you've just gotta risk it
and find out. And I know that that's scary and it's totally normal
to be afraid of rejection. I'm gonna let you in on a little bit of a secret:
Girls are afraid of rejection too, okay? And even though it maybe doesn't
look like she is putting herself out there or like she's afraid of rejection
she is. And so if she's sending you those signs that she's interested in you
she is risking rejection just by doing that. Women get rejected all the time
guys, seriously. This is something that every woman has
to go through. Whether she is flirtatious with
you, whether she's sending you signs that she's interested
in you, however it is, it obviously looks different for women than men, but she
is risking, she is putting herself out there and she is getting rejected as
well. So realize that rejection
has zero reflection on your worth. Society tries to make it
look like "well if you're a man then you can get women
no problem." And they make it appear as though all of your worth is centered
on being able to to approach flawlessly and have women like kissing your feet.
The truth is has nothing to do with your worth. Just like it's not a
reflection on her worth if she flirts with someone and he
rejects her, it has nothing to do with your worth if
she turns you down. So prepare yourself mentally.
Realize it is not the end of the world if this doesn't go well. And
best case scenario this is going to go well. But if you psych yourself out and
your brain it's not gonna go well. So just realize,
"yes, this is a risk. I am taking a risk and it's okay." Now our next tip on how to
approach girls is you need to make sure you are not
threatening. That you are not coming across as
threatening. One thing you need to know about women
is we kind of have this internal alarm
system. I've mentioned this before. We are completely aware of the fact that
you are stronger than us and when she knows and trusts you
that's like really attractive to her. But when
she doesn't know and trust you that can make you a threat. And so
again this is why having that game plan is so important. Because
if you just guess and if you just wing it and you come across as creepy or
needy or aggressive that internal alarm system she's got
going on flips out and she's done because she's
scared. So it's very very important that
part of your game plan includes how to not be threatening. This
comes down to how you talk to her, this comes down to
your body language, this comes down to how you interact with her. If you do come
across this threatening she's done. But if you come across as
warm and friendly and fun that is going to make your
approach successful instead of like tank. So just
know that as a guy there are certain things that don't seem threatening
to you at all because it wouldn't be threatening to
you. But as a girl, yeah, it's threatening to her. Again awkward is
threatening, needy is threatening, creepy is
very threatening. So having that game plan
is very very important. All right so now you know that if you want to have a
successful approach, if you want women to stop rejecting you and instead
get the girl, it's very important to make sure you're reading the signs that she's
interested in you, that she wants you to approach.
It's very important that you have a game plan, that you have already decided what
your steps will be instead of just guessing. You need to
make sure you know what to say instead of just standing there awkwardly
like "Now what?" It's also important that you accept that
you're taking a risk and that it's just okay and that you
don't take that personally. You also need to make sure you are not
threatening. If you are coming across as threatening it's not gonna go well.
As long as you are following these tips guys you are going to go from being
rejected or being afraid of being rejected and
instead just being able to have an awesome approach and attract
women like crazy and ultimately be able to get that dream girl. To make sure you
have the ultimate step-by-step game plan do make sure you check out my
program. I literally created it for men just like you so that
you don't have to be rejected anymore. So that instead you can have everything
you need to make sure you get that dream girl. So make sure you
watch my free masterclass to learn more about my program and more about my
framework. There's a link in the description below
and there's a link in the pinned comment. This is the fastest easiest and best way
for you to get the girl of your dreams so make sure
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