In the video today I want to talk to you about things that you can do
if you are feeling emotionally drained this is a theme that has recently come up in my own life and
I'll get into that in the video a little bit but I think especially if you're looking at or if you
look at the year that we've had so far the year 2020 nobody expected for it to be such a very hard
demanding and ruthless year in so many aspects and you know we really have to dig deep and
stay true to who we are to be able to ride this wave but this is not always easy
and in the video today I want to share with you then some of the practices that I use in my own
life to help me ride the wave and help me deal with feeling emotionally drained if this is the
first time that you are watching one of my videos my name is Tertia and I help highly
sensitive people and empaths find their place in the world so on my youtube channel I make videos
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so when I planned on filming this video I started doing my research and originally I wanted to talk
about holiday stress it's nearing the end of the year and typically this is the time of year when
most of us are experiencing even more stress than what we usually would you take
holiday stress on its own and you add 2020 on to that and that gives you a completely
different picture because really the things that might have stressed you out two years ago is most
likely not going to be the same type of things that we're dealing with this year and as I was
going through this I realized in my own mind I was feeling a lot of resentment I was feeling anger
I was feeling exhaustion just you know connecting into what is going on in the outside world
when you are in a situation like this when you are so connected into the story of what is happening
out there you're leaving yourself powerless to put this into perspective for you or to explain
to you a little bit how to deal with it I want to share a story with you now many years ago
I was going through quite a difficult patch in my life and this one particular evening I was at home
and I was lying in the bath and I was crying and I was so sad I was sobbing my heart out and I was
just crying about the world I was crying about my own life I was crying about the people in my life
and I literally I was crying about everything and while I was busy crying something very interesting
happened I split in two is the best way for me to explain this while I was crying there was a
part of me that began to observe myself while I was crying and this observer did not have any
emotional feelings or any attachments to what I was seeing I was merely being very curious
and I was looking at what I was crying about and how I was crying and the emotions that I was
feeling so really I sat with three situations that's how I interpret it now looking back
is there were three situations the first situation is that it or aspect the first
aspect or situation was that it was the present moment so I was literally in the bath
the second aspect was that I was crying about something that I was thinking and feeling about
and the third aspect was that I was observing myself doing this and that was a very pivotal
turning point in my life when I realized that I was not the crier I was the crier and the observer
and what became very clear for me while I was observing myself crying like this is that
I was completely stuck in the story of my life so the reality was I was in a bath it was a very
comfortable bath the water was nice and warm but in my mind and in my emotions I was in a
completely different place I had completely bought into the fact or the the belief rather that I
am feeling powerless that there are not many options for me I'm exhausted I am helpless
I feel like a victim nobody understands me I don't know how I'm ever going to get out of this I need
to control my world in order to feel safe so there were all of these conversations going on there
and I bet that if you take a look at your life you might even recognize places where you are stuck
in story where you buy into the idea of I have no power I am a victim I don't have any other choice
this is a terrible terrible situation that I'm never going to get out of
now connecting to your breath is one of the things that's going to bring you into the present moment
remember that when we are stuck in story it holds us either in the past or it holds us in the future
and our breathe is in the present moment because our body lives in the present moment so one of the
fastest and easiest and most effective ways that I know of to connect to your body to
connect into the present moment and to become mindful of the present moment is to connect
with your breath and a very good time to do this is the first thing when you wake up in the morning
as soon as we wake up we tend to engage with the story of who we are so the way
that you connect with your breath is very very easy you can lay one hand on your heart
and do this while you're lying in bed so lay your hand on your heart and while your eyes
are still closed you just focus on the sound and the sensation of your breath as you inhale
and exhale and this is a very powerful technique to disengage you from the story that we have
in our minds the whole time so begin to do this regularly every morning when you wake up before
you do anything else before you begin to think about who you are and where you fit into the world
do this breath connecting exercise now I just want to talk about meditation here a little bit and
I do talk about meditation quite often in my videos I believe that it is an
incredibly helpful tool to get you centered and to get you grounded but when I try to meditate
when iIm feeling stressed out anxious and emotionally drained my meditations don't
work they just make me feel more anxious because I seem to have all of these anxious thoughts and
fears and emotions and sensations that just flood my brain and my body so meditating while I was
feeling like this is something that has been a problem and a struggle for me for a very long
time and then what I discovered and I'm hoping that this will be able to help you if you are
maybe experiencing the same challenge as what I did what I discovered is that when I give my mind
and my attention something to do then it allows those thoughts to calm down the meditation that I
am using that helps me the most is called the body scan meditation now I have a body scan
meditation video for highly sensitive people which I'll link for you in the description
below and go and try out that meditation after you've watched this video we are so much more
powerful than we give ourselves credit for and we allow ourselves to become emotionally drained
and mentally drained by all of the stories that we buy into and the moment that your thinking
mind or your story mind begins to run the show that is the moment where we lose our power
so I really hope that you have gotten some ideas out of this video to help you to step back into
your own power please remember to share your thoughts in the comments below and subscribe
if you haven't yet done so thanks very much for watching and I will see you in the next video bye