So you’re stuck in the dating doldrums.
You meet a cute guy, go on one date and either he turns out to be a real bore, or he never
calls you again.
Being single stopped being fun a long time ago.
It doesn’t matter how many fish there are in the sea when you can’t swim.
Have you considered that maybe you’re just doing things all wrong?
Stick around and I’ll tell you another way to approach dating that will change your outlook
and your results.
I’m Amy North.
Welcome to my channel!
If you need dating advice, you’ve come to the right place.
I’m a relationship specialist and I’ve been mentoring women in their dating lives
for years both on Youtube and in person.
I’m here to get you out of this rut.
I can already tell I’m going to get a lot of angry comments for this one.
It sounds crazy.
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, why should you try casual dating?
There are plenty of reasons to date casually even if you’re looking for something serious
and long term.
In fact, I recommend it to many of my clients.
So what exactly do I mean by casual dating and how to do you it?
If you’re someone who hears the phrase “casual dating” and starts heading for the door,
then you might need this advice more than anyone.
I’m not talking about sleeping around (necessarily), having a ton of flings or hitting on guys
in bars.
What I mean by casual dating is dating more frequently and less seriously.
This means not rushing things.
This means not overthinking every little word and text message.
This means saying yes to more dates.
This is a great way to break the cycle of meet guy, fall for guy, spend all your time
with guy, and then having things end all within a couple of months.
I’m sure some of you are still shaking your heads.
Stick around and I’ll tell you why this is the right move to help you find the one.
Now, in this video I am going to go over a TON of tips for casual dating, but if you
want something a little more in-depth on how you can infuse your dating life with the kind
of passion, romance, and desire that you’ve always dreamed of, then head on over to CoachNorth.com…
that’s CoachNorth.com and watch that free video presentation.
It just might change your life.
So... just exactly how will casual dating help you find the one?
It changes your mindset
When we’re looking for the love of our life we’re in a very goal-oriented mindset.
Namely: where is this perfect guy hiding and how do I make him mine?
This can put a lot of pressure on a new relationship.
We can scare a guy off by pushing for a commitment too early.
Or we can drive ourselves crazy trying to figure out what he’s thinking, if he likes
us, if he’s even going to call us again.
Casual dating let’s you leave all this baggage at the door.
When you know that, whatever happens tonight, you have another date lined up next week,
suddenly the fears and anxieties disappear and you’re able to really enjoy yourself.
2.
It’s a great way to get to know someone It may seem like focusing on one person is
the way to really get to know someone.
It’s easy to get wrapped up in the excitement of a new relationship and confuse that with
love.
If you don’t see him as often, you can actually get a clearer picture of what he’s like
as you’ll have time apart to reflect and process.
In some ways, dating multiple people lets you take things slow.
Plus, if you’re going on lots of dates you’ll be noticing the differences between the guys
and getting a better idea of what you like and don’t like.
3.
It allows more balance in your life We often get caught up in the idea that the
love of our life is what we need to be happy.
He’s going to swoop in and change everything.
While meeting the right guy is amazing, it’s important that we don’t neglect our own
life until he comes around.
If you’re less focused on meeting this magic man, you’ll be more independent and therefore
more attractive when he does come around.
Dating casually lets you see that you really do have options and that you don’t have
to make him your whole world right away.
There are many roles that men can play in our lives, and a knight in shining armor is
just one of them.
4.
See what’s out there Stop me if you’ve heard your friends, your
family, or even yourself say this before “There are no good guys out there.”
Believe it or not, I find the people who say that the most often are those that date the
least.
It is any wonder that you can’t find good guys when you’re not willing to give anybody
a chance?
Open yourself up to the idea of dating new and different men.
That’s the beauty of casual dating: you don’t go into it expecting for a happily
ever after.
So even if you can tell ten minutes into the first date that this guy isn’t someone you’d
want to marry, or even see again after tonight, you can still have a fun new experience and
get to see a totally different point of view.
Stick it out and you may find that the guys you have the best connection with aren’t
the ones you’ve spent your whole life chasing after.
At the very least, you’ll have some wild stories.
5.
Practice makes perfect Think of it this way, the more dates you have
the more you’ll be ready when they guy you really want arrives.
You don’t want to scare away the right guy by being nervous or inexperienced with dating.
The more you date, the more comfortable and confident you’ll be on dates.
You’re not your best self when you’re covered in sweat.
But is casual dating for everyone?
I don’t think I can say any of my advice is for 100% of people.
Everyone is different.
But this one is pretty darn close.
It gives you something that you’ll have a hard time getting anywhere else: perspective.
And if you think you’re someone who this is totally not for and you wouldn’t even
consider it, you may be person who needs this change the most.
So get on tinder, go out speed dating, or let your friends set you up.
And by the way, do you REALLY want to know the most crucial weapon when it comes to casual
dating?
It’s learning how to TEXT.
There are certain words that you can send to a man to make him think about you all day
long… but not only do you have to know WHAT to text, but you have to know WHEN to text
him too.
For more on this, just head on over to AttractionTexts.com.
Again, that’s AttractionTexts.com and watch that free, full feature presentation there.
There you have it.
There are some powerful ways that casual dating can be your path to finding the one.
It seems crazy, but it works for my clients and it could work for you too.
Speaking of you, I want to hear your stories in the comments.
What’s the most dates you ever went on in one month?
Let us know and you just might inspire someone else to do some daring dating.
Thanks for watching, Youtube!