Fear of being a failure, that's one thing. Fear of being a fraud, being a fake, being
a forgery, that's another thing entirely. When people are afraid that they're not really
the real deal, something's going on in their self-concept where they won't allow themselves
to incorporate and accept and merge with the success that they've had. I've talked to people
incredibly flexible, incredibly creative, incredibly talented, and if things came too
easy for them, they feel like, oh, it's that. That's just something I can do, and in a way,
there's something just about that because what they want to do in some way is work hard
to earn what they've done and feel like they really had to sweat and engage, that they
really want it to be what they've done, to really be an achievement, which demeans to
overcome obstacles, and if things come too easy and they're quite talented, they are
reluctant to give themselves credit. It's almost as if they disown or disparage the
talent in the gift, and the gift that was involved. And yet, they may act on it, but
they never, somehow, really embrace that it was an achievement. If this sounds familiar
to you in some way, then I think in addition to what you've done that's come easy, there's
another direction you should go to fill out your achievement card, which is maybe to do
some things where what you're doing is a gift to people, not necessarily if you're very
adept at being a musician you go play music everywhere and do benefits, more like working
in a soup kitchen, more like volunteering to help young kids learn math, more like being
available for something that isn't going to necessarily make you another $50 million,
but makes a difference to people's lives because maybe then you'll be giving of yourself where
it isn't just easy, but it goes deep into you, and you share eye to eye with another
person, or you express something where you don't get accolades, necessarily. You're just
one more volunteer. The Sufis have a practice, which is called secret charity. Secret charity
is thought to be an exercise that someone can do no matter at what level development
they're operating, and here's what secret charity is. It's to do something for someone
in which the person who receives from you doesn't know that you or anybody else has
helped them out, and yet you do provide them with some kind of material assistance, and
you design the situation so that you don't get to see the light in their eye when they
see that thing done. So it's giving without receiving in any way. It's the opposite of
giving and getting a plaque, and that's okay if you want to do that, but this is something
where you give and the gift that you give or yourself is entirely a secret. I think
this is a way out of being in that sense that what you've done is not that significant because
it's come easy. Now, there are other kinds of sources of feeling like a fraud that have
to do with just being new at something, this being your first launch of something, of you
taking your first swipe and you're charging a fee, and you feel a little anxious because
it's new and, you know, when am I making a film and then when do I say I'm a filmmaker?
It's like somewhere you have to do it long enough or feel like you are that in some way.
So I'm thinking with you that if you're feeling like a fraud, check in on whether it's something
that's still new for you, but if it's just because you've done something repeatedly without
a lot of effort, find something that maybe taxes different aspects of you, not just your
talents or your whiz-bang abilities, but something about giving from the heart and being of service
to other people. I think you'll find that that's an anecdote to those fumes of being
a fake, fears of being a fraud, a sham, not the real thing. There's no pulling the wool
over the eyes of anybody when you're there to be of service to someone else. Since you're
a high achiever you may know about this. High achievers often hit a wall. They're going
along, they're having one success after another and then suddenly, something happens and they
grind to a halt. And it's confusing because they're not sure what it is they've done wrong
if anything. They just know that they're not moving anymore the way they're used to moving.
The way they have moved in the past. If you've run into like what seems like a ceiling over
you and you're kind of in a fog and you're mystified by what's getting in your way, you
can even kind of slide into a swirl of doubts and wonder if you ever really achieved anything
significant at all and whether any of your amazing achievements you have done were anything
but kind of fronting or a little bit of a fraud. That is really negative and pernicious
and it doesn't have to be that way. I want you to go get a free report from me. Go to
DrKenChristian.com/Breakthrough and receive from me this free report with action steps
that are going to tell you exactly what to do now to get you going.